Auties transition to Year 1 - thread 3

[LightTripper]

This is the continuation of the thread for parents and carers of autistic children in reception year at school, going into Year 1 in the autumn. All welcome (also parents with older or younger children who want to ask questions or share their wisdom!)

Welcome!

Sorry ds knocked me and posted that then while he was trying to sniff my armpit (don't ask! Lol)

They can't meet the ELG's until they have met all of 30-50 / 40-60 months. It doesn't make any sense what they are doing.

How frustrating for you.

Ds started school 16-26 / 22-36 across the board and didn't get expected in anything, he got all emerging x

By the way thank you for all your support these last few days your helping me so much and have given me what i need to do the next step. Its really appreciated thank you.

@Jeb86 been thinking, haven't heard from you for a while, hows ds getting on in reception? Hope alls well with baby etc.

No problem Harley. What are you planning to do now?

Use his report my emails i sent and no response from them as prove that school are lying and not supporting ds properly going to talk to sendiass get a ehcp request done again and also put a complaint in with goverment and la send.

LittleSwede he can sometimes slump but would only fall asleep if I took him out in the car for a little while. Today he went to sleep around 7:30pm, a bit earlier than usual. Hopefully he’ll have a better night. I don’t work but I don’t really nap. When it stays bad for a while dh and I just go to bed earlier. Because I had a good night yesterday it wasn’t so bad today.

Last year ds’ class did full days from the start as his teacher believed it was the right approach. He was ok with that as he was super enthusiastic for the first couple of weeks. Plus he had/has an area where he can chill out if he needs it.

liv sorry you’ve had some tricky days but glad ds is now back at school. How’s it going so far?

Ds’ space is inside the classroom this year, in an adjoining side room/L shape bit, so similar to your ds. It’s nice as it means he’s in the classroom though I think there’s still a bean bag in his old area too for now and he is able to leave for movement breaks/walks.

Harley I have no words to describe the incompetence of your ds’ school and the crap you are having to deal with. It makes you wonder how often they have got away with it. What does their OFSTED report say about them?

I agree, his year end report is contradictory and that he is not meeting the expected level for PSHE (?) if he is soiling multiple times a day. I just don’t understand what is to be gained for anybody by this approach. Hopefully you can speak to someone from SENDIASS soon.

danni I’m so glad your ds will be doing full days at last. Finally a nice length of time off for you and a definite advantage to missing the chaos of normal drop off and collection times. Did you get your hot chocolate as planned on the first day?

And I am at your ds’ Home Alone ride down the stairs. You must fall into bed with relief each night that he hasn’t come to serious harm!

Ds went in fine this morning, we went through the office door again. At pick up the TA told me that he had spent a lot of time outside this afternoon (which meant he refused to come in when he was told). Later ds told me he was in the reception class garden...

He’s been fine at home despite his early start. Praying for a better night 🙏

Hope he sleeps open. I put ds to bed about 7.45, 8pm he comes to his bedroom door and shouts are you a hungry boy mum 😆 meaning he wants food. I haven't got it in me to make him go to sleep if he's saying he's hungry so I got him some fruit loaf and a juice and he was asleep for 8.30.

I agree with you on the going to bed early, I'm usually laid in bed for 9, the getting up at 5 with him kills me off.

Danni I obviously missed your post before! Great about the full days.
You ds with the car seat on the stairs made me laugh, totally something ds would do if he had the opportunity. It is mainly about making sure they don't do themselves serious injury at this stage.

He had an ok first day open getting him into clothes and his buggy was a bit of a nightmare but me and DH did a two pronged attack. At school he refused to eat any food and found a table to hide under when he was overwhelmed. His 1:1 is going to get some fabric to cover the table and make it into a den for him. Otherwise he apparently joined in a bit and interacted with some of the other kids.
He was a bit over-excited this evening but I think he may have gone to sleep now 🤞

Love the idea of a den under the table Liv!

Last year he had a massive wicker basket to hide in danni! Not sure if this is a stp up

Hi everyone!

Sorry I’ve been a bit silent - my email alerts for this thread seemed to have stopped so I’m out of routine for checking. Lots to catch up on - I’ve got a day to myself tomorrow so will have a read through.

DS started reception last Thursday, straight into full days. He seems to go in smiling and come out smiling and I have NO IDEA what happens inbetween! He cannot tell me a thing, and his teachers seem to be making a point of not talking to any of the parents at the end of the day. To be honest, I’m enjoying blissful ignorance at the moment. SEN review meeting booked in for 24th so I hope to find out a bit more then, and to actually talk to the teacher. I don’t think we’ve spoken more than 4 words to each other! DS is a bit of an emotional fussy wreck when he gets home, very quick to panic and stress out but I’m trying to keep calm. I got my first “I don’t love you” this morning when I told him he had to go to school AGAIN. But he’s a man of routine so as soon as the jumper went on he was all “oh, it’s time to go to reception”. (Note NOT school, we get in trouble for calling it school, it’s reception). He’s been spouting out a lot of echolalia when he gets home too, I think it’s a sign of his tiredness and inability to cope with anything harder language wise.

Baby nearly cooked - 1 month to go!! Waaaaaa!

Oooh exciting Jeb, that's not long now! Are you desperate to get it done with? I think I was second time (though I think I was also stressed about finishing up at work.... seems a lifetime ago now!) Do you know if you're having a boy or a girl? Is DS excited?

I think it's normal for them to be crazy tired the first couple of weeks while they adjust. I remember the main thing was we had to stop swimming lessons on Saturdays for DD, which she had been enjoying but she just couldn't handle it at the end of a school week - she was melting down every time poor love and it just wasn't worth it.

DD had her first RE lesson today. Apparently if you are a Christian you have to wear a very very pretty dress (this is info from her friend in class, which she found "very interesting" and wanted to know more about), and she thinks God probably has a crown, very blonde hair (like me and her, natch) and a pretty dress - but accepts that God could look like a small boy on a skateboard, because nobody knows what God looks like (if God exists). She also knows that there are some other religions, and that "Christianing" has to do with praying to God and choirs ... so that's RE pretty much done now, I would have thought?!?

Also got their timetable through and they have homework every night except Monday! So far DD seems to be doing it happily (managed to incorporate colouring into today's, which helped), but suspect the novelty may wear off...

Light I’m at ‘Christianing’. RE definitely ✅

Homework every night is hardcore. I wish we got a timetable, I’m going to ask for one. It would be very helpful to know what they are doing, especially on days ds is refusing to go.

Ds slept great, until 5:40 so he had 10 hours which is a lot for him. Unfortunately he stirred around 3:50 which woke me for a while.

There’s a school info meeting after drop off today. I’m hoping I’ll be able to make it.

Jeb not long to go now. I’m glad school has not been too bad so far and that he settles down again at home soon.

@Open there ofstead rating is good. The sen part is good the plus points is having 96 sen children on role and only 36 ehcp needed apparently seen as a positive in the ofstead report.

@danni0509 can i ask you a question. Do they have to meet all 30-50 months then move onto 40-60 months the early learning goals?

Ds refusing to go in this morning. He says he wants the toys from the reception classroom. I know other kids are feeling this too, of course they are not refusing to go in.

Sigh

Light that's brilliant! You dd definitely has RE sorted.

Jeb how exciting, hope you're feeling good. Glad everything seems to be going ok with ds. Good luck with the meeting on the 24th.

Open sorry you're having a tough morning. If it makes you feel any better ds has gone in this morning with no shoes on and his trousers on backwards.

openupmyeagereyes I was just about to type great news about the 10 hour sleep, then saw the bit about DS refusing to go in. Could they transfer a toy or two from Reception to make the transition a but easier? I know what you mean about having early nights by the way, DH and I often go to bed (depending on who is putting DD to bed, which can be a lengthy process) at 8 to get a few hours in before the disruptions start.

LightTripper love the RE lesson feedback from your DD. What a lovely way to work things out. Very sweet.

Livpotter the den sounds cozy! Could they put up a tipee or tent or something he can snuggle up in? The wicker basket sounds snuggly too!

Jeb sounds like your DS is having a good start. We also have our review on the 24th! I know that feeling of not knowing what happens in the day, so different from nursery where we had a long hand over with Key Worker etc.

Thanks for everyone's feedback re full days, I think I'll start DD on full days, like the others in her class, from tomorrow and see how we go.

@Harleyisme yes, they would have to meet all 30-50 months, then 40-60 months before ELG's.

Ds is between 30-50 months and 40-60 in most areas, but in numbers for instance he meets about 90% of the statements for 40-60 months, so on the verge of getting ELG for that area, but there are 1 or possibly 2 statements he doesn't yet meet so he wasn't awarded ELG for that since they weren't able to mark off every statement so he got emerging.

My sister in law is a primary school teacher (reception class - she used to teach special school) and I checked with her regarding this and her mainstream school also work like this.

Open is ds is yet? Hope so.

Is Ds in yet that was supposed to say.

I'm feeling like a 'difficult parent' this morning as the Senco had spoken to the Reception teacher about the head bump (after reading my email I guess) and I now worry the teacher thought I was criticising her. Which is absolutely not what I meant to do. I just want a bit of 1:1 by this climbing frame to prevent more accidents. DD also has a tendency to choke on food (proper choke last summer, managed to dislodge with back slaps but so so scary) so in the ideal world I'd like her to gave a 1:1 though the full lunch break but not sure if I can ask for this. It's not even been a full week and I am quite clearly being difficult with my emails