If you are not a SN parent or a sympathiser to the daily traumers of being out in a public park with an SN child please do not read this post.
I fully intend to rant and rave and be completly rude and awful about another child, i will feel bad about it tomorrow but for now it will ease my stress levels.
OK.
Ds is 6. he has HFA so along with the behavioral stuff we have the poor social skills, awful balance and co ordination, low comms etc etc
well today i thought i would go against all my self imposed rules and we went to the park.
serves me right i hear you all cry and yes it does but i just can't help being angry anyway.
we had been at the park for about 15 minutes and although it had a fair few families it wasn't overly busy on the equipment as many of the kids were playing with balls and bikes.
DS decided he wanted to go down the slide so i helped him up teh stairs and held his hand as he slid down...we did this a couple of times and then he said he wanted to try on his own. i was a little nervous but left him to it, and he did it. after a bit of a struggle to get from standing at the top to sitting ready to slide he managed it by himself and he was so thrilled with himself it was lovely.
well ds was so impressed with his new talent that he was quite happily going up and down the slide so i allowed myself to pay DD (2) some attention and was pushing her on the see saw just a few feet from the slide.
whilst i was pushing her a boy of about 10-11 arrived at the park. first he went to the swings and was trying to swing the swing so that it hooked over the bar at the top, then he went to the slide.
at first he arrived just as DS was sliding down and the boy slid down head first barely allowing ds time to get off the bottom.
Ds went back round to slide again, climbed to the top by himself as the boy came charging up behind him, DS was still taking a bit of time to co ordinate himself into sitting down so the boy behind him shouted
"get out the way you retard"
and pushed him out of the way, DS slipped off the side and fell on the floor smacking his head on the wooden border of that tarmac type stuff they have under neath the swing.
my heart was in my mouth.
i ran over to him to see if he was ok and there was already a huge blue bump on the side of his head. DS was crying his eyes out and the boy just laughed and said "gutted"
I thought this lad was on his own but no it turns out his mother was sat on the bench at the side of the park chatting away on a mobile the whole time!
she finally came over (still talking on the mobile) and asked if DS was ok. i said that i didn't know as he had hit his head very hard as it was quite a fall.
her reply was that "you know what boys are like, your son was taking so long XXX got impatient"
trying to hold my tongue i said that my son takes a long time because he is autistic and therefore has very poor balance.
"oh. well XXX wouldn't have known that. its a shame they don't have special parks for kids like that aint it"
to which i replied
"yes your right. children would be much safer if animals like yours were given their own parks to play in!"
picked up the DC (still crying) and went to A&E.
DS was sick 3 times in the car so i was petrified that he had done some real damage.
i was still shaking with anger at this bloody woman though.
it turns out that Ds has concussion and half his head is bruised so he looks like he has been in a fight.
I am fighting the desire to go alone to the park every day for the next week until i find this kid and push him off a swing.
I know, i am evil.