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Can we talk about MNSN, and the community/support/chat etc?

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silverfrog · 05/03/2013 11:23

This thread may not be a good idea. I am severely sleep deprived (ds has decided yet again that sleep is for the weak, and I have had about 4 hours sleep since Sunday), and had the morning from hell getting dd2 off on a school trip - change of routine, needed ot wear tracksuit not uniform, different drop off/pick up - you all know the score. If you all think it is a bad idea, please feel free to report and have it deleted.

Anyway.

Can we have a thread where we try to sort out some of the perceived isues with MNSN?

I keep seeing, on the main boards, posts saying that MNSN is not suportive. That some faces don't fit. That it's not all it's cracked up to be.

Fine. I get that not everybody is the same, and may not want the same things form this board as me, or other posters. But it isn't really said here, and so we don't reallt get right of reply.

It's a bit like talking about us behind our backs.

I know there have ben disagreements and differences over the years. I have been part of some of them, but on the whole I thought we muddled through quite well - expcially given that we are all under a reasonable amount of stress most of the time, and that we all face fairly different challenges on a daily basis.

So - what do people want form MNSN? Is there anything we (as a community) can do to welcome people who feel left out? Anythign we can do to help posters who lurk rather than post?

I am rather hoping htis might be a moving forward discussion, rather than a re-hash of any he said/she said grievances. BUt as I said earlier, maybe this is entirely misguided. Sorry if it is.

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PolterGoose · 07/03/2013 23:24

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PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:25

Just did.

PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:27

Right so should I reply that the wholesale denial that this is an unwelcoming place is a personal attack on me, devient and others who feel this way then? If that's the way this is going?

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname · 07/03/2013 23:30

Ooh, not more fighting. I think that was a cross post, TBH. Penelope!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname · 07/03/2013 23:32

I'm still too fluffy, obviously, to get any posts deleted. Envy I spend a few hours doing HW with DS2 and the whole board goes cake recipe mad. I make a mean GF chocolate brownie, but it's not exactly sugar or butter free.

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PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:35

Not here to fight. Not at all.
Just incandescent that a post which was not a personal attack on anyone, just how I and others feel, got deleted. Proves my point really as someone must have reported me to get it deleted. Proves that if your face doesn't fit then you're not welcome here.

Why IS being outspoken such a crime in these parts anyway? I'll defend my children aggressively against prejudice every time. I do not criticise others' methods in dealing with those kinds of posts, I recognise that people have a right to respond in their own way. I don't start threads judging people for how they respond o attacks on their families.

PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:37

I don't think I've ever referred to bullying either.
Just that this place shouldn't be so prescriptive. Parenting in general is so diverse, why should we all be the same here?

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lougle · 07/03/2013 23:40

Posts from yesterday and today from new posters:

"Thanks again for posting, I really appreciate the support from everyone on MN tonight."

"many thanks for your support and thoughts."

"Hi all thanks for all replies and advice"

"Thanks so much"

"Huge thank you for your thoughtful and Very helpful suggestions. You seem to understand what I'm dealing with more than most people I talk to IRL."

"Aw you're all so nice. I keep forgetting this isnt AIBU"

Yes, really unwelcoming.

So, I think we have evidence that this is not an unwelcoming place. Now, some posters may feel unwelcome, but that is a different matter.

PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:41

It so is.
I'm out there dealing with some quite disgusting posts aimed at my family and families like mine in my own way.

Because that doesn't meet the MNSN 'way' a thread starts here openly criticising the way I post!

Welcoming? Supportive? No!

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PeneloPeePitstop · 07/03/2013 23:43

Being as I am on night shift with DS2 I'm going to try to get a couple of hours before he's up for the day.

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lougle · 07/03/2013 23:44

Out where? Confused

In what way?

What is the MNSN way?

Look at Star's thread, running right now. We're all saying different things about how we'd manage her situation. Because we are all different.

I met 8 or 9 other posters two weeks ago. A more different bunch of people you could not find. Not one of us were how others expected us to be.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname · 07/03/2013 23:45

What disgusting posts, Penelopee? Surely not on MNSN?

lougle · 07/03/2013 23:45

The Maryz Guide to Life:

'Eat, drink and be merry...preferably talking rubbish at the same time...'

Grin
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lougle · 07/03/2013 23:48

So, can we conclude that on day 2 of proceedings, 725 posts in, we are no further forward? Hmm

lougle · 07/03/2013 23:48

No, it gets worse. Day 3