Can we talk about MNSN, and the community/support/chat etc?

[silverfrog]

This thread may not be a good idea. I am severely sleep deprived (ds has decided yet again that sleep is for the weak, and I have had about 4 hours sleep since Sunday), and had the morning from hell getting dd2 off on a school trip - change of routine, needed ot wear tracksuit not uniform, different drop off/pick up - you all know the score. If you all think it is a bad idea, please feel free to report and have it deleted.

Anyway.

Can we have a thread where we try to sort out some of the perceived isues with MNSN?

I keep seeing, on the main boards, posts saying that MNSN is not suportive. That some faces don't fit. That it's not all it's cracked up to be.

Fine. I get that not everybody is the same, and may not want the same things form this board as me, or other posters. But it isn't really said here, and so we don't reallt get right of reply.

It's a bit like talking about us behind our backs.

I know there have ben disagreements and differences over the years. I have been part of some of them, but on the whole I thought we muddled through quite well - expcially given that we are all under a reasonable amount of stress most of the time, and that we all face fairly different challenges on a daily basis.

So - what do people want form MNSN? Is there anything we (as a community) can do to welcome people who feel left out? Anythign we can do to help posters who lurk rather than post?

I am rather hoping htis might be a moving forward discussion, rather than a re-hash of any he said/she said grievances. BUt as I said earlier, maybe this is entirely misguided. Sorry if it is.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

Argh, sorry this is the last post, but I was thinking along the lines of Starlight's idea. Have a Welcome to Holland the Chat Thread on MNSN, the first post could explain what it's about, then a link to Honking and Caring Carrots, maybe, then each week a link to the ongoing Chat thread in OTBT for that month? I think they get deleted after 30 days. Keep bumping the MNSN linky thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1705982-Can-we-carry-on-talking-about-MNSN-til-we-get-a-Chat-Thread-sorted-out

In the meantime, above thread to keep discussing this idea?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

You know you could have a weekly chat thread that STARTS on a friday night in OTBT and is titled the date.

Then you could start a thread in MNSN called 'The Goose and Carrot', and post a link on it every Friday to the new OTBT thread.

A bit contrived but it would work.

[alwayslateforwork]

[alwayslateforwork]

Carrot cake?

[coff33pot]

HONESTLY!

I go visit family and come back and the thread has another twist into Mr Great Joys and thongs!

And then the recommendation of a pub!

Sounds great idea as long as there is cake too :)

[hazeyjane]

Hello Justa!

Yes a thread with a shelf life would be good, the trouble with the sn chat thread on off the beaten track was that no-one knew we were there!

[hazeyjane]

Aargh, 'things' not 'thongs'

[hazeyjane]

I like the idea of it being like a coffee shop or pub, where you can pop in and out, and see who is in, although I have a feeling I would end up being one of those Barflys who prop up the bar every day, just soaking up the conversation! One of the thongs that has even nice about this thread is that it isn't limited to people with younger or older children or children with ASD or any particular sn, but we all have a common thread in our lives.

[Galena]

Yeah, I think it would be nice - I don't know if the Friday night thread still happens, but I would always miss it and then feel like I couldn't chat any other time of the week...

[hazeyjane]

Before the thread is all filled up, does anyone think an ongoing general chat thread would be a good idea? Open and welcoming to everyone on the sn board, and not about anything particular.

There is probably a really good reason why this is bad idea, but it has been nice to dip in and out of this thread, and interesting to see the different twists and turns it has taken.

[bialystockandbloom]

Mary, you just need to set some boundaries, y'know?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

btw, I have never heard of a MNer being accused of caring carrotology. I think it has been exclusively mentioned in relation to a professional who should KNOW that fecking sticker charts don't work for children with PDA or that children with ASD don't learn social skills simply from BEING under the table spinning things IN a preschool.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

'Ah, so they would be equivalent to the very helpful posts in teenagers saying things like "I wouldn't allow that" and "my children wouldn't stay out/steal/smoke/whatever" and "why don't you just ground him?".'

Yes. That's something a caring carrot would say, and they'd do it with a slight incline of the head, a concerned look and possibly a small pat on the arm.

[TheNebulousBoojum]

'We made more progress with food last week in 4 days than we had made in the previous 7 years'

DS makes progress like that, never smooth, always a sudden lurch and he can do something that was previously impossible to consider. Last thing was catching a train on his own to London to meet a friend, and using the underground without company.

[hazeyjane]

Hope parent's evening goes well, zzzzz and Mr Great Joy is all he's cracked up to be

If he has time maybe he could visit Wiltshire way, I have had my own personal rain cloud following me around all day.