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Can we talk about MNSN, and the community/support/chat etc?

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silverfrog · 05/03/2013 11:23

This thread may not be a good idea. I am severely sleep deprived (ds has decided yet again that sleep is for the weak, and I have had about 4 hours sleep since Sunday), and had the morning from hell getting dd2 off on a school trip - change of routine, needed ot wear tracksuit not uniform, different drop off/pick up - you all know the score. If you all think it is a bad idea, please feel free to report and have it deleted.

Anyway.

Can we have a thread where we try to sort out some of the perceived isues with MNSN?

I keep seeing, on the main boards, posts saying that MNSN is not suportive. That some faces don't fit. That it's not all it's cracked up to be.

Fine. I get that not everybody is the same, and may not want the same things form this board as me, or other posters. But it isn't really said here, and so we don't reallt get right of reply.

It's a bit like talking about us behind our backs.

I know there have ben disagreements and differences over the years. I have been part of some of them, but on the whole I thought we muddled through quite well - expcially given that we are all under a reasonable amount of stress most of the time, and that we all face fairly different challenges on a daily basis.

So - what do people want form MNSN? Is there anything we (as a community) can do to welcome people who feel left out? Anythign we can do to help posters who lurk rather than post?

I am rather hoping htis might be a moving forward discussion, rather than a re-hash of any he said/she said grievances. BUt as I said earlier, maybe this is entirely misguided. Sorry if it is.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 07/03/2013 17:31

Not personal though, it's being grumpy about everyone everywhere because we are all mean. The scattergun approach.
If a poster finds the SN boards unsupportive here, then they need to look elsewhere. Because everyone should be able to find a niche they feel comfortable in, but if you've tried to snuggle in numerous times and it still doesn't fit then it's just the wrong niche for you.

bialystockandbloom · 07/03/2013 17:33

Ah thanks polter

bialystockandbloom · 07/03/2013 17:43

Ha I made blue!

Galena · 07/03/2013 17:45

Thanks. Now I shall narrow my eyes menacingly at anyone who ODFODs me...

silverfrog · 07/03/2013 17:48

bialy - hoped is the wrong word, but I did think the swearing might creep in quite a lo earlier than it did, tbh Grin

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SallyBear · 07/03/2013 17:49

(Whispers) I had to look up the meaning of ODFOD.....

zen1 · 07/03/2013 17:50

I haven't read the whole thread, but just wanted to say that MNSN has helped me more than anything / anyone I've come across in RL. I have lurked and occasionally posted for advice since someone gently nudged me over from behaviour/development 3 years ago.

Without this forum, I'm pretty sure my DS3 wouldn't be getting DLA (never heard of it before I tuned in here!), neither would he currently be undergoing SA. I've found the knowledge and information imparted has spurned me on to making sure I cover all bases insofar as trying access the services and provision I feel DS requires; seeing how proactive people are on here has made me a more proactive person.

I don't often feel in a position to offer advice myself as DS is relatively newly diagnosed and I spend an awful lot of time information gathering, but hopefully once I have got to grips with things, I will feel more secure in helping others.

hazeyjane · 07/03/2013 17:50

I find it bizzare to have been deleted, I always try and be so bloody diplomatic, I don't think I'll bother in future!

Joins in with telling everyone to Fuck Off!!!!

Wankers!!!

hazeyjane · 07/03/2013 17:52

goodness what an appalling bit of crossposting, it now looks as though i have just told you to fuck off, Zen1, which i really wasn't Blush

In my defence, I am giddy with a combination of co-codamol, too much rocky road and the liberating feeling of having been deleted for being 'a bit cross' on mumsnet.

TheNebulousBoojum · 07/03/2013 17:54

I didn't get deleted. I'm a good girl.

Galena · 07/03/2013 17:54

Oi! You calling me a wanker?! I take that personally as a personally personal personal attack!

ODFOD!

(And hazey, you are one of the the least attacky people I can think of!)

bialystockandbloom · 07/03/2013 17:56

Lol hazey Grin

Zen1 I fully agree with you, and without MNSN I (and ds) would be in a very different and much worse place.

hazeyjane · 07/03/2013 17:57

I am think of scrawling ODFOD on my arm with biro, and wearing my hair in a side ponytail.

ok i am running out of rebelliousness.

zen1 · 07/03/2013 17:57

No offence taken, Hazey Grin

Maryz · 07/03/2013 17:57

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Tootsandblanket · 07/03/2013 17:59

I still don't know what ODFOD means.. Oh dear.
This has turned into a bit of a bun fight hasn't it? I've been trying to keep up reading whilst attending to my highly demanding teething DD.
I kinda want to tell everyone to fuck off too- it feels so liberating - even though I haven't been involved in earlier posts. I feel so much better already!

This place has helped me since DD has come home from hospital- it makes me feel less isolated, gives me information, perspective and comradeship.
I say Thanks and Wine to everyone!

bialystockandbloom · 07/03/2013 18:00

Shall we make up some random and meaningless acronyms, and post willy nilly around MN? Especially on those "my dh is an twat he must have ASD" or "here comes the SN brigade" threads.

Maryz · 07/03/2013 18:01

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Tootsandblanket · 07/03/2013 18:02

Haha I love it ! Thanks Maryz . A nice combination of rude yet patronising.

lougle · 07/03/2013 18:03

My issue with being deleted is that it is very hard to respond to somebody criticising you and libeling you without actually responding.

However, it seems that responding is a deletable offence.

I particularly think it's not on to have to read that others who will not post themselves 'also feel' this.

Maryz · 07/03/2013 18:03

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silverfrog · 07/03/2013 18:12

yes, agree that in the past nothing that was on this thread would have been worthy of deletion.

it's all got a bit over-sensitive, tbh. you are right, lougle - how can you respond to someone addressing you personally, about a particular point, without, erm, mentioning that point in your reply.

and the fact that the comments that are made elsewhere are ok because they are generalised is just crappy too. they are not particularly general - they are made, about a specific group of posters.

and indeed Hmm to the obvious discussion elsewhere. if people feel the need to have a say on this thread and what is being discussed within it, they could at least have the courtesy to come here and say it, rather than having others post it on their behalf.

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coff33pot · 07/03/2013 18:12

PGPWTCOTM1

Please go play with the cars on the M1?

Would that be ok? started of with please or too fluffy lol? Grin