To soak ds1 in disinfectant?

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ds1 has pooed in the bath He's taken a whole load of plastic figures in there, played with them and there's faecal bits floating around in there now.

I've drained the bath, swilled him down with warm water and am now refilling it with disinfectant in.

I'm disgusted

Thanks everyone. Sorry for going crazy I will talk to dh and contact the school nurse I think. I guess I have nothing to lose. CAMHS did once say he showed some signs of aspergers. He does have problems.

op big hugs hun, I hope you get some decent information and help from other mums seen though you have been let down by services xx

Its Good to be a gobshite! Get yourself heard!

Why don't you write it down here, list the things that are issues for your son, we can help you make a list to take to your GP or the school nurse, nice calm and rational and non gobshitey :) We might not be able to help with your issues directly but we can maybe help you articulate things and have something to work from?

Just tell her what he's like, and that you're struggling to cope. School nurses are a lovely bunch, and are more likely to know what to do. Mention that CAMHS hinted that he had signs of Aspergers, but this was never followed through. Tell her/him about the effect that this is having on your daily life.

it may also be worth chasing up camhs and directly asking them about the signs of aspergers, as they should refer him to a asd assesment team.if you do it in writing they cant fob you off.

and dont worry about going crazy we all do it.

out of intrest the dx you have,does the doc also work at a nhs place lots do.

Okay, I'll phone them. I'd rather phone them then go back to the GPs. Perhaps a different route may be better.

I don't know if she works at an NHS place. It was a few years ago now. I think he was about 8. It was at a specialist place in Horsham. They all seemed to know what they were talking about. I couldn't afford to return for a checkup though as dh was made redundant.

if you still have any paperwork from there you could google her name, i struggled to get my hf asd kids nhs support/help because it was a private dx after we waited for the nhs appointment (18 months) i walked in the room to be faced with the very same doc who had signed the private dx, as were most of the docs on the assesment team also in private practice

We're at opposite ends of the country - we live in the NE and ds was assessed in Surrey. The people up here have never heard of the clinic we attended and probably doubt its credibility.

The problem seems to be, if the child isn't acting up and disruptive at school then you have no chance of obtaining LA help for them. ds' primary headteacher was a consumate liar, as was the SENCO I went to a meeting with them all once and felt like screaming at them as they all sat round smiling sweetly She wasn't bloody smiling when she had to phone to explain why the parent helper had attacked ds though.

even if they are in a different area its worth a call if she is also nhs she would know exactly what route to go down,either that or phone the clinic when teary and beg for them to send info to support the dx

hidden, you say the SENCO was useless at DS's primary, but have you met the SENCO at his current school? Is he on the SEN register? It sounds like he needs to be assessed again. Not all schools have a school nurse. You may just have to keep shouting at the SENCO. Is there a HSLW (Home school link worker) attached to the school? If so, they will be able to advise and also offer you a bit of support. Sorry I can't be of any more help but he does sound as if he may be ASD (aspergers) and as a previous poster said, possibly dyspraxia.

Hidden , I cannot believe the way you all have been treated, go see a different gp and ask for a referral to a developmental paed, at 14 he is still a child and can see one. His behaviour really sounds like he has sn.

I was lucky I guess as dd was acting up at school so got all the help assessments, referrals to paed

No, I haven't met the current SENCO. He was on the SN register when he was at primary. He's doing okay at school, but is having difficulty socially.

Socknick I have the full report that the clinic produced. He definitely has dyspraxia and the adhd was what the paed estimated he had after he did their various tests and questioning me. I gave the report to CAMHS, but they just ummed and ahhdd about it, then said they'd do their own tests. They were very lethargic about it all. I suppose it costs money to support children and their families, so the more people they can fob off the better They only really see the extremes whom school can't cope with.

for you hidden x

Ta

ds will probably knock them over tomorrow morning

unfortunatly its quite hard to get them to agree to a dx as it is often a funding thing.

but it would be worth pushing it, perhaps we could help you word letters to gp camhs ect?

Did you manage to get the ink out of his blazer and shirt?

Yes, I would appreciate any help at all. I shall speak to the school nurse and see what she says. I don't want to return to CAMHS. I have a horror story about the first place we went to (we were there twice) and they were just a bunch of numptys at the second place.

I'm really hoping the op didn't really soak her child in disinfectant. I'm shocked that it would even be suggested.

That is totally out of order, no matter what the circumstances.

You don't soak your arse in disinfectant, nor do you soak your hands in it after wiping said arse. Why would it even occur to someone to do that?

I'm not unsympathetic, it must be hugely difficult to have to deal with this, and I really hope the op gets the help required. And sooner rather than later.

Yes! dh soaked it all out with surgical spirit Even the shirt survived. I was so happy about that one I can tell you. He's been given biros now, no more gel pens.

Is changing GP an option? I'm sorry if you've already done or considered that,but you need someone on your side who can get things moving for you.

Jeezy, i suggest you read the thread

jeezy was that strictly needed? given the turn of the thread.

Shesparkles I've taken him to the GPs (different ones) since he was age 2. I even tried to appeal to the head of the practice, but to no avail. I could change practices I suppose, but would they be any better at a new place? I have very little faith in these people.