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My DD has overdosed :(

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coff33pot · 27/08/2012 10:28

Woke up to a call 2hours ago to say DD is in hospital her friend rang an ambulance. Stuck here till I can get hold of DH who is out delivering to go to her. she took all her amytriptaline.

The hospital said they are still waiting for her to wake up and she is hooked up to monitors at the moment. Her friend said she didnt want to go to hospital and said DD said she will make a better job of it when she gets out. She drank and hasnt had any alchohol for nearly a year, someone stole her iphone and she was very upset about it. First time she went out with her friends, only to a house for a sleepover but its all gone wrong at least they had sense to get her to hospital.

Still no appointment for eating disorder clinic, and still no dates for further scans on her brain. Please god can we have sunshine instead of all this rain :(

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Lougle · 31/08/2012 06:05

Coffee, you are a fantastic Mum. Your daughter is going to look back on this time and be so thankful that you stood upfor her and believed she still has a life to lead.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 31/08/2012 10:01

Bastard home visit no show. Get the feeling they lied just to get rid of you? Good job your DD has got you fighting for her. Is anyone looking after you, coff33? The aftermath of all this fighting and adrenaline may bring you down. We are all here holding your hand, but make sure you look after yourself as best you can. X

appropriatelyemployed · 31/08/2012 11:48

I echo what Ellen says. Please do be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to do nothing whenever you possibly can. The emotional fight you have been through will keep you going but as things calm a little, you can be left with a body and mind that still things it is in 'fight' mode.

You have been through a traumatic time and you stood up for your daughter with great conviction and courage. But you should not have had to be put through this. It is very unjust and keeping YOURSELF on an even keel is really important.

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help in any way - happy to write letters or do anything practical.

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coff33pot · 31/08/2012 13:29

Thank you and thanks AT I will see what her appointment brings and where I go from there so I will bear your offer in mind x

At the moment I have ds keeping me on the ball and then when he is at school next week will be on tenterhooks hoping that goes well. Dreaded school shoe shop now ahhhh!

Then dd to seniors then sort out my accounts to stop the wolves lol so I think it all may hit come Xmas at this rate :) I am glad I got you all to keep me sane xx

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frizzcat · 31/08/2012 14:02

Still honking for you coff - take it easy

Also I think I need a name mention - I squeezed myself into a batman costume for you! My batmobile leaves a lot to be desired though.... It's a Toyota, but I can reverse handbrake spin it with the best of em Grin

StarlightMcKenzie · 31/08/2012 15:11

Oh coff! Sounds like things are going to start happening, thanks to you.

At the risk of sending you over the edge, jot down a quick note to the people who promised a home visit asking them for an explanation. Don't get into the letter emotionally. Just '

StarlightMcKenzie · 31/08/2012 15:15

Dear service, please can you explain why the home visit as arranged by x on x did not occur and why we were not notified of the change of plan?

TA,

Coff.

I KNOW it is hardly the biggest of you worries right now but in 6 months you might be glad at the very least you started a file of llllllllbroken promises, or at the very best headed them off in advance.

mariamma · 01/09/2012 00:04

You could make a nuisance of yourself and phone the GP every day and the out of hours service every night. Wrong department totally but might 'encourage' them to kick mental health backsides.

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coff33pot · 04/09/2012 13:14

Well the appt was supposed to be 11am today they phoned 9.30 saying they has to cancel! Make another time. Thought it was the hospital referral but no it was th gp red in August! been on phone and kicked off big time. DD wanted thus appt as we have talked and talked and she said it 12onths today it happened, and she wanted something positive out of it. Got appt at 2pm wish us luck.

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Lougle · 04/09/2012 13:21

Will it ever end?? Well done you.

wasuup3000 · 04/09/2012 13:22

Good Luck xxxxxx

imogengladhart · 04/09/2012 13:30

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hazeyjane · 04/09/2012 13:49

Good luck, keeping everything crossed for you and hinking (quietly - so as not to wake up ds!)

I can't believe you have been messed around with this.

hazeyjane · 04/09/2012 13:54

I am honking obviously, as opposed to 'hinking' - which would just be silly!

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 04/09/2012 14:18

Thinking of you and your dd. I hope you get something positive sorted today Honk Honk

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 04/09/2012 16:04

Hope it went well today. Smile

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coff33pot · 04/09/2012 19:53

She is tired, exhausted infact and I am so proud of her :)

She went in shaking like a leaf with a scrap of paper with bullet points on and told the woman all she wanted to do was talk so could she just talk to her instead of questions questions and the woman agreed. She also said sorry we had all shouted but because of the day it was she had spent so long gearing herself up for it and didnt know what she would do come evening if she hadnt been able to talk to someone and start some help going.

It is agreed she has very complex issues that wont just go away with a weekly "hi how are you doing" and "there there" once a week appointment. DD herself said she was thinking she could go away somewhere and deal with things without outside interference spoiling her chances as she is being thrown one crisis after another. She is numb to the fact that she is in self destruct mode and starving or dehydrated it just doesnt sink in and she can be so upset and need help one minute but can put makeup on and smile and "pretend" to any appointment she goes to or the general public because she has trained her body to do it. She was told they would refer her straight away to the ED clinic and start a rehabilitation package going and if she wanted to they can arrange a "holiday"

Thank god someone has listened and I cannot put into words the strength and bravery it took her to do this. Being proud isnt a good enough word :)

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CillaSlack · 04/09/2012 19:57

That's brilliant news CoffSmile. She is brave and strong and so are you! Hope things keep on improving.

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 04/09/2012 22:05

Bless her! I hope this is the corner turned for both of you x

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moosemama · 04/09/2012 22:12

What an amazing, strong dd you have there Coff, but then she has an incredible role model to follow. Wink

Hoping this is the first step on the road to your dd finding the healing and peace she needs.

Sending lots of love and light to your whole family, but especially to you and your incredible, brave dd. x

frizzcat · 04/09/2012 22:12

What an amazing girl your dd is, that despite it all she's in there fighting, just goes to show the apple doesn't fall far from the tree x

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 04/09/2012 22:24

Well done, DD1. Smile This will be the start of better times. Honk honk.

Tiggles · 04/09/2012 22:25

Wow, really late to this, but well done to your DD. Hope things get better from here.