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My DD has overdosed :(

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coff33pot · 27/08/2012 10:28

Woke up to a call 2hours ago to say DD is in hospital her friend rang an ambulance. Stuck here till I can get hold of DH who is out delivering to go to her. she took all her amytriptaline.

The hospital said they are still waiting for her to wake up and she is hooked up to monitors at the moment. Her friend said she didnt want to go to hospital and said DD said she will make a better job of it when she gets out. She drank and hasnt had any alchohol for nearly a year, someone stole her iphone and she was very upset about it. First time she went out with her friends, only to a house for a sleepover but its all gone wrong at least they had sense to get her to hospital.

Still no appointment for eating disorder clinic, and still no dates for further scans on her brain. Please god can we have sunshine instead of all this rain :(

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halcyondays · 28/08/2012 13:35

Have only just read this. So glad she has Coe round. Thinking of you and hope she can get the help she needs now.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 28/08/2012 13:37

More honks for today.

Honk, honk, honk. X

NoHaudinMaWheest · 28/08/2012 14:06

Honks and hugs. Hope you are getting some answers and action.

zzzzz · 28/08/2012 16:01

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dietstartstmoz · 28/08/2012 16:45

Coff, only just seen this thread. Hope things are ok, any news?

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coff33pot · 28/08/2012 19:57

Hi all well she is home again with what they think are no lasting damage to her system and a care plan is being set in motion.

Psych was going to discharge her at 9pm last night after she had only been awake less than a couple hours! So mum kicked butt and told them thats really good news but I am not taking her home. Psych was young and didnt know how to respond to that so I put it plainly as I could. ie. I have a car and no she is not going in it until she has been assessed properly and not just 5 mins and I want care plan and appointments please. I had the but your daughter is ready to go home and is stable.

Psych ran off to bigger psych for a chin wag because I asked her if she had any children and how experienced was she in working out how it feels as a mother to find your dd covered in blood with her wrists cut, OD and on a ventilator machine or like now comatose. That I dont know what she said but she told me that she felt like the man who was locked inside his own body and didnt want to live but they made him stay alive for everyone elses benefit but his. That she is inside her own hell and should have the right to be left alone.

They said she had mentioned something like that and so I said well that whilst I consider the good analysing on feelings and rights of others there is no way a smart person would fail to see that she is NOT stable. That she has asked for help and she should be given it now or its going to be too late and then I am coming to find you. How balanced would the psych be if she was raped, anorexic, PTSD, got told she had a cyst on the brain only 22 asked for help and been left to wait like a time bomb for dates. How much more bad news does she have to have to entitle her to support.

3 hours later after I ranted a bit more and refused to take her home they are finally going to have an emergency meet and get a home visit and home support tomorrow and immediate referral to mental health unit initially as an outpatient but thats a start. I finally left the hospital at 2am when I saw it all noted down in place.

I am knackered and really want to thank you all for the back up, honking and flapping and advice because I didnt feel like such a one man band and you helped replace the strength I had lost :) xxx

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coff33pot · 28/08/2012 20:01

Off now for a evening stomp with DS and the dog as a very upside down DS needs a bit of me and him time.

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hazeyjane · 28/08/2012 20:03

You are amazing, well done, she is lucky to have someone like you fighting for her. I'm glad she is home, and hopefully with the right support in place.

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StarlightMcKenzie · 28/08/2012 20:31

Aw coff, you must be exhausted! You did really well though, although I don't expect you're much less terrified about the short-term future.

Was she raped too? I didn't know that and am very very sorry.

Sending you some hugs and her some comforting swear words......

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 28/08/2012 20:31

well done, honk honk!! Hope they can start to get her better Smile

FallenCaryatid · 28/08/2012 20:43

coff33, you are fabulous and your daughter is so very fortunate to have someone as stubborn, focused and completely bloody immovable on her side, with only her needs as their prime focus.
It is amazing the depths of strength and sheer bolshiness we can find within ourselves when the alternative is unthinkable. You did a wonderful job as shield and defender, and you may have changed that young psych's attitude towards patient care for ever. We can but hope that your eloquence will scar her for life, and she remembers her first response with shame.
You must be shattered.

ArthurPewty · 28/08/2012 21:02

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Ben10GoldMedalsForGB · 28/08/2012 21:05

She is so lucky to have you as a mother.

Make sure you rest if you can xxx

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 28/08/2012 21:05

You are truly amazing. I don't quite get the honking thing if I'm honest, but if it shows you that I'm thinking about you and your family, and that I have everything crossed that they make good on those promises of help, then Honk Honk Honk Honk Honk Honk!

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FallenCaryatid · 28/08/2012 21:14

Lola, a certain gladhart introduced geese and honking to the board.

' 'Honking' is about geese.

When they fly as a flock - and all honk together - they get uplift and direction they would not have had if flying alone -
ie the support they offer each other can make a real difference to how readily they reach their goal (not the best description but cannot find the original thread).

So, the feeling goes, if we ALL HONK TOGETHER, ie offer each other as much support (and useful info) as we can given our own often stretched circs, then we all help each other'

starfish71 · 28/08/2012 21:17

Well done coff you are doing an amazing job looking out for your DD. glad she is home.

Try and keep your strength up and have a little rest when you can. Hope you, DS and dog enjoyed your walk x

Vagaceratops · 28/08/2012 21:18

I dont like geese, infact they scare me, but I am Honking away for you Coff.

FallenCaryatid · 28/08/2012 21:21

I think coff33 has done some memorable hissing and flapping today though!
You needn't be scared of this flock though Vag, we look after each other. Smile

FrankieMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 28/08/2012 21:43

I just read this and wanted to offer my sympathy and support, and best wishes that you , your DD and family get the support that you need.

It is heartbreaking, (( ) x

StabbyMacStabby · 28/08/2012 21:52

Only just come online and seen this - hope you have reached your nadir now Coffee, and things start getting better for you all x

pinkorkid · 28/08/2012 22:02

In awe of you coff, that you were able to stand up for your dd and be so articulate on her behalf at such a stressful time. Hope you can sleep well tonight now that initial important battle is won.

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 28/08/2012 22:12

Thanks Fallen, thought you had all gone a little bonkers Grin

I'm definitely on board with the honking now (Honk honk)