Child protection SS for those following my story

[claw4]

Social worker has requested a meeting with school, myself and any other professionals involved in ds's care, after school made a referral to social services on the basis of child protection issues to 'get my family some help'

Social worker has made no contact with me at all.

No doubt school are planning on getting everyone in the room to agree with them.

But this is a good sign, right?

Excuse my spelling, trying to do two things at once!

Claw, hold that thought. It is your defence when you need it. You don't need it now.

Star, thats true, im just trying to get my head around why no one actually follows thier own regulations. You would think i would be used to it by now! I dont know why i expected SS to be any different.

Upon reading ss publications further, this assessment replaces a CAF. Its a bit late for an early assessments of needs. I have assessments/reports ranging over 3 years, coming out of my ears, ds's needs have been well and truly identified, all school need to do is follow the bloody recommendations!

Claw, I've been thinking about the fact you have no decision yet despite previously been given a date. I've seen that an awful lot on MN and actually wondering if there is a name for that kind of behaviour and whether it is in effect a type of abuse.

If deliberate, it is certainly about power and control over someone vulnerable and potentially emotionally fragile.

Kind of 'we know the answer to something you are desperate for, but we're not telling you until we want to' or giving you another false date to wait for before dashing your hopes. Truly, it seems to be very common on here. A way perhaps of demonstrating who is boss!

I agree Star, it is a power game, the stress it causes is unbearable.

Am thinking of you claw and really hope you get the outcome of panel today. At least then you know what to prepare for next. The time these authorities waste, I think they really believe if they make you wait long enough we will just say I can't do this anymore.

Just phoned again, they are saying its still not been signed, which is obviously rubbish, they are not going to change the decision whether its been signed or not, so telling me the decision wont make a difference. But they are still within their time limits, so not much i can do. They have a few more days to inform me of their decision.

Oh yes Star withholding information, is def a control thing. Its being obsructive really.

I dont believe it has been anywhere near a 'panel', i dont believe they have even made a decision, i believe it was stamped 'refused and worry about it, if mum appeals' the minute it landed on her desk 5 weeks ago.

Starfish, i will fall off my chair in shock, if they agree!

They will have posted it today so it arrives tomorrow and they won't be there for you to complain to. Everything is always posted on a Friday round here.

Thanks, mygladhart Im staying calm and collected, i wont them rattle me! (i will let it all out on here)

Agnes, i really hope i do get the decision tomorrow. You guys will be the first to know if i do.

Still no decision, they have until tomorrow and its still 'not been signed' when i phoned this morning.

Apparently it will be sent out today,but she cannot possibly tell me as it hasnt been signed, as if they are going to change the decision in the next few hours!

Previously it was sitting on her desk waiting to be signed, now she is waiting for it to be 'sent down' although she will be the one who signs the letter telling me of the decision.

Thanks mygladheart, much appreciated.

It's pathetic claw, can you tell them you can collect it this afternoon? Don't know if that is possible.

All this, it has to be signed nonsense is just them being jobs worthy and so unfair to parents.

Am really sending lots of positive vibes to you claw x

Star, she will probably say she doesnt know what time it will be signed etc, etc. she is probably already taking notes 'mum over anxious' about the decision! She keeps emphasising that the decision will be sent to me within a few days (and they are still within their time limits)

I just need to be patient, but the not knowing is driving me mad!

Thanks, i will just have to keep myself busy.

Claw, they never did intend telling you until the twelfth hour! This waiting and promises etc. was totally unnecessary and cruel.

Keep busy. Expect the worst but hope for the best. Plan in your head the next steps for the worst outcome so that if it happens you already have a plan.

Star i have just washed my walls! I will have the cleanest house in history by the end of the day! I cant go out as ds is off sick today.

I cant even work on anything as my laptop broke again and is back in the shop, using ds's tiny laptop now. I am expecting a refusal, it would make no sense if they didnt. But i am hoping there is a very slim chance of them agreeing, then i can really go to town!

Cleaning the oven and washing the floors by hand, here i come!

Lol! My kitchen bears the results of stressing over jobsworths last week [week].

Assume the worst, for your own sake both educationally and with SS. Then if it happens you have your file ready and legal contact on speed dial ready to tackle stuff in a methodical calm fashion minus a breakdown. If you are pleasantly suprised you can always reallocate the time you'd scheduled to flopping on the sofa looking like a goldfish & the funds to doing something enjoyable for the family.

They are deffo stringing out the descision as a petty power game, it's how their pathetic little minds get their kicks. You and your family are worth more than that. You KNOW that you'll get your kid the right help & support needed in the end, no matter the games these lil minions play along the way. Hold onto that, file your nails and laugh at them.

Tell them to email you a copy once signed today.

This is rediculous I might just go and clean my floor with you!

Are you seeing red coff?

Well..................my floors clean now

Lol Boc and Coff its quite therapeutic isnt it!

Cam I join in a bit?

Expected new LAs response to appeal yesterday!

Nada!