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Am so fed up and tired

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anniebear · 18/02/2006 08:09

This is a moan alert, sorry it is so long

Sorry, just needed to off load

I am just so tired and fed up (not even half term yet!!)

I just want a full nights sleep and don't see any end to al this, no light at the end of the tunnel. Our night times have been and could be a lot worse. Ellie used to scream so much at night and banged on the walls so there was blood on them in the end. We used to put her back to bed but gave in and at some point she will come in with us. Not ideal but I need some sleep.

But I can't see this changing. When she is 10? 15? is she going to be coming into our bed at 1.30am?

Then she can be wide awake from 5. I realise a lot of you have it a lot worse so I am sorry for going on.

But I struggle to cope as it is and I can't carry on day to day after being awake so early. The worst thing is she is so wide awake. So she yanks on my Face ("I need Mummy, I need Mummy") and moves round so much that she ends up hurting me, but not on purpose.

I am so tired that I then can't deal with her at all and end up getting so cross. She comes out with stuff that doesn't make sense. She just wants to talk to me but doesn't always have the correct words to say. So I get asked again and again and again questions that don't make sense. Sounds really stupid but it cracks me up. This is 5 in the morning!

I sat and cried the other day and said to DH "I don't want a SN Child, I just want another child like Grace" Obviously it goes without saying I love Ellie lots.

Just feel so haggard. I know I look terrible, part of me doesn't care anymore. I comfort eat, my face is lined and haggard that I look so much older than 34 and it is not fair.

Some Parents of SN children were talking the other day about High School and beyond. I was on the verge of filling up. Didn't want to even think about it.

I know I am going to be 60 (if I make it!!) and have Ellie with us 24/7 . I sound so awful and it is not her fault and I love her so much. But is this it? My life consists of seeing to the girls, lack of sleep, shattered and I see no light at the end of the tunnel

I also know it could have been much worse. Ellie was supposed to be left severely brain damaged after her illness so I know we are fortunate. But I don't feel it

I am sorry to off load on you all. I just really needed to tell somebody how I am feeling

Thanks so much

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anniebear · 19/02/2006 11:19

Forgot to add, I am feeling ok this morning!!

It was my turn for a lie in

Still worried about everything, but feeling happier today

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anniebear · 20/02/2006 19:56

well today has gone ok (ok, it is only Monday!!!!)

Although I have cheated..Grace had a friend to play this afternoon and my Mum took Ellie to herr house for a few hours

But I'm still here and smiling!!!!

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Davros · 20/02/2006 20:17

Oh good Annie. One day behind you, next thing you know it will all be over!

reiver · 20/02/2006 20:46

That's good to hear, Annie. Keep smiling!

Saker · 20/02/2006 20:46

That's not cheating - that's careful planning . I had someone round 4 days out of 5 last week which was our half term .

anniebear · 20/02/2006 20:58

careful planning...love it

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buzylizy · 20/02/2006 21:21

glad to hear day one went well

anniebear · 22/02/2006 18:21

feel a bit of af failure today and we were doing so well!!

Went to a friends this morning, which wasn't too bad. There were three 4 year olds 2 with SN!!!! so a little stressful

This afternoon Grace had a friend to play and it started to go a bit down hill from there. The friend didn't want to play upstairs with Grace, in the end Grace started getting a bit nasty because her friend would not play. The Friends Mum came back and came in for a cuppa. This was the point that Grace turned horrible. I just felt like I spent the next 2 hours yelling at her.

When she cries/screams, Ellie gets really upset so she cried lots and hit herself

Friend went and Ellie was so tired so she just cried at me whilst I tried to make tea.

I ended up crying my eyes out also!!

Hope tomorrow is a bit better!!

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anniebear · 22/02/2006 18:23

Forgot to say, day 2 had been good!!!!

Just feel a real failure now, especially for breaking down.

Wish I could turn off and not let them get to me so much, but sometimes I just feel they are chipping away at me till there will be nothing left!! If that makes sense???

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buzylizy · 22/02/2006 18:28

don't feel bad for letting it get to you. I think children, whether they have sn or not were just put on this earth to wind us up lol. You should not feel a failure you are a great mum

Davros · 22/02/2006 18:41

Sorry to hear it went pear shaped Annie. Hope for a better day tomorrow. You're over half way!

anniebear · 22/02/2006 19:26

Thanks

They are both in bed now

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JakB · 22/02/2006 19:40

Hope you have a better day tomorrow. Things just get on top of us all at times. Don't feel like a failure. You do a fab job.

anniebear · 24/02/2006 08:43

Just had all our plans cancelled for today as my Friends DD is ill

Am gutted!! and dreading it now and its raining/cold so can't go for a walk

Yesterday was a bit of a mixed day, we went to a new play area in the morning, which was, thankfully suitable for Ellie, the afternoon was a bit hard going but I'm still here!!!

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Bethron · 24/02/2006 09:03

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JakB · 24/02/2006 09:07

Good luck today Annie! I find that going out in the afternoon helps me as I can just about survive the morning and then I've just got tea and bed to get through when I get back.

anniebear · 24/02/2006 11:37

think my Mum is coming to collect them for a few hours later

YEAH YEAH YEAH!!!!

Grace has actually been very good this week s I have just bought her a Charlie and Lola dvd!!!!

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