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sigh.. god I hate people sometimes...

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Triggles · 28/02/2012 23:28

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1417011-To-think-that-bullies-shouldnt-get-rewards-for-not-bullying?msgid=30341377#30341377

Is this what the parents of DS2's classmates think, I wonder? He doesn't hit or push the other children (unless he's backed into a corner, which is rare), but he can be noisy and disruptive in class and has a FT 1:1 (so extra attention by this thread's standards).

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AmberLeaf · 28/02/2012 23:32

Only read your posts and the long one before yours on pg 4.

Yep I hate people sometimes too! I cant read the rest of that thread tonight, I can imagine what its like.

AmberLeaf · 28/02/2012 23:33

Damn our pesky SN kids eh? getting all the attention Hmm

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Triggles · 28/02/2012 23:36

Yep. Our TA has actually had to speak to the little girls in DS2's class as they are always trying to help him (in a nice way) but tend to surround him and overwhelm him sometimes, which upsets him. The children don't seem to be fussed that he gets attention... the parents however, I'm not sure...

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coff33pot · 28/02/2012 23:39

Its too late for me to get in there I am bound to flip....

coff33pot · 28/02/2012 23:39

and I prefer cats to people Grin

AmberLeaf · 28/02/2012 23:41

Yh cats are much better!

Dustinthewind · 28/02/2012 23:45

Some of the adults might, but truthfully?
Most of the children who have first-hand daily experience of living with a child with SN appreciate how hard it is for them sometimes, and are often more understanding and helpful. If the NT chld is feeling unappreciated, then it's a failing of the teacher. She should be making all of the class feel that individual effort is recognised and rewarded.
For some it is writing a well-punctuated page of text, for others it is remembering all their PE kit for a week. Eating up all their lunch or sharing resources.
And for some it is not running around the classroom during guided reading and howling like a wolf.
Guess which one my son was.
Flame proof knickers and a glass of Sod Off Wine gets me through the day.

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Triggles · 28/02/2012 23:47

oh my! The "howling like a wolf" during guided reading had me giggling. Sorry, but I can completely see DS2 doing this. Grin

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AmberLeaf · 28/02/2012 23:48

a glass of Sod Off Wine

That's such good stuff isnt it.

Dustinthewind · 28/02/2012 23:49

Grin You are not alone!

coff33pot · 28/02/2012 23:49

for my NT DD it is for not talking in the class

DS got a reward for not speaking parseltoungue at the teacher and then saying "just so you know in english I just magic spelled your mouth shut" Blush

He did this for a whole week but gave her a break on the monday so got a sticker!

coff33pot · 28/02/2012 23:50

I love the flame proof knickers! Grin

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Triggles · 28/02/2012 23:53

coff33pot - don't you wonder sometimes how the teacher can keep a straight face and not laugh when they say things like that? Honestly, the things DS2 comes up with sometimes, I really struggle to remain serious. Grin

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Dustinthewind · 28/02/2012 23:57

Some of us teachers get a lot of practise, both at school and at home.
Your son sounds wonderful.

coff33pot · 28/02/2012 23:59

Grin I had a hard job containing myself when I got him home and DS proudly showed his sticker off to his sister and I told her why!

My son is also a cat lover Wink

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Triggles · 29/02/2012 00:02

DS2 will ask DH over and over (patiently, but repeatedly) about something. DH will tell him it's not time yet (dinner) or no or whatever. DS2 keeps asking. DH will finally get annoyed and snap at him "stop asking that!".. cue shocked look on DS2's face and a "Daddy! That wasn't very nice! That was ruuuuuuuude!"

While I'm snorting and trying not to laugh behind my laptop or my book. Grin

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coff33pot · 29/02/2012 00:07

Grin Well your DH cannot argue with that now can he lol

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Triggles · 29/02/2012 00:11

Nope, which is mainly why I struggle not to laugh out loud on that... because there's really not much DH can say to that. Grin

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StarlightDicKenzie · 29/02/2012 00:27

I've told DS off so many times when he asks the same question over and over.

I say 'DS, STOP repeating!'

Now guess what he says to me when I ask him a second time to put his shoes on or insist he tells me something he did at school? Grin

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 00:45

I can imagine it and I am laughing! Grin

bochead · 29/02/2012 00:49

My DS has mastered the art of shrugging his shoulders, rolling his eyes and muttering "whatever".

Now I know how his father feels Blush

englishpigdog · 29/02/2012 14:40

I couldn't read past the first page before my bp shot through the roof !! positive rewards work with my ds, the old head knew it but this new one refuses to accept it Angry hopefully camhs will help them see the light (sticks fingers in ears and sings lalala before everyone tells me camhs are rubbish)

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 15:00

you need to cover your eyes LOL Grin

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 15:00

Its not who is or who isnt rubbish its wether the school are prepared to listen and take it on board really :)