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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

sigh.. god I hate people sometimes...

97 replies

Triggles · 28/02/2012 23:28

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1417011-To-think-that-bullies-shouldnt-get-rewards-for-not-bullying?msgid=30341377#30341377

Is this what the parents of DS2's classmates think, I wonder? He doesn't hit or push the other children (unless he's backed into a corner, which is rare), but he can be noisy and disruptive in class and has a FT 1:1 (so extra attention by this thread's standards).

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madwomanintheattic · 29/02/2012 22:35

Classy, me.

StarlightDicKenzie · 29/02/2012 22:43

I wanted to scream at the OP

'I'm fucking living in a premier inn hotel because my child has been failed to be accommodated in mainstream'

bochead · 29/02/2012 22:45

Gin - did someone mention gin?

Gather round girls while I show you the fine art of the perfect long island iced tea.

hic

dontrememberme · 29/02/2012 22:46

The world has gone barking mad! I've opened the gin with just a hint of tonic..speechless utterly speachless!

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 29/02/2012 22:47

Ooh, iced tea (with gin) mmmm

bochead · 29/02/2012 22:47

Star - you need a thermometer Wink.

I think that thread was prob a troll tbh - noone is that dumb in RL.

dontrememberme · 29/02/2012 22:50

you know, even before i had a disabled child i was never ever in my most ingnorant of moments (& i'm sure there were many) that stupid & cruel.

StarlightDicKenzie · 29/02/2012 22:51

Look this isn't fair. I LIVE here and missed the thermometer joke.

Actually that OP isn't a troll. I've had pretty pleasant exchanges with her before. God knows what is going on with her.

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 22:52

nooooo thank you on the gin ug! Spot of Tia Maria is supposed to be nice with a baileys though!

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 29/02/2012 22:54

You are so skanky, coff33! Grin

If it's any comfort I don't get the thermometer ref, unless it's the visual aid...

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 23:06

It was funny Star! well to me it was Grin

There I was thinking poor OP how can I give her some tactful steering in the right direction advice LOL

Low and behold next post I see bocheads thinking AH now she will come out with some great advice so I will have a gawk.....

Well it was so dry and quick witted I was rolling here Grin

StarlightDicKenzie · 29/02/2012 23:08

Which thread then?

coff33pot · 29/02/2012 23:08
Grin

Talking of balls my little dog is going in for the OP tomorrow morning he is soooo going to hate me tomorrow..........DH is already wincing.

bochead · 29/02/2012 23:14

Star here's the original thermometer thread re "one of those" face palm school situations

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1415705-How-do-I-counter-school-saying-they-will-send-ds-home-as-soon-as-he-says-hes-not-well

Several people commented privately & it kinda made me realise just how my tribulations have changed my whole outlook. I think we should all have one so we can wave them at each other across the virtual playground whenever someones being plumb dumb.

Can I top up anyone's glass?

StarlightDicKenzie · 29/02/2012 23:19

Oh that's just brilliant! PMSL

If only there was such a thing for all avoidant behaviour. Not for US because we KNOW, but to serve as a visual aid/prompt for THEM.

My ds' biggest difficulty is being bloody clever at avoidance as low expectations mean it is easy for him.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 29/02/2012 23:23

It was the visual aid! More gin for me, please, no peas or fish fingers in mine.

Triggles · 29/02/2012 23:31

oh yes, I loved the thermometer comment! Grin

I'm riding the edge of sanity right now with DS2's annual review and what school he'll be able to go to soon, and this threads send me around the bend. There is just NO PLEASING people!!! It seems painfully obvious that many simply do not want children with SNs in the same classroom as their own children. Sad

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madwomanintheattic · 29/02/2012 23:56

Hmm. Well, that thread earned me three deletions. Blush have never been deleted before, so that's new. It appears to be staying though, with the usual suspicion that everyone jumped all over the op for no reason, as a lot of her stuff has also been deleted, but the 'you're misunderstanding me' stuff left. Tsk. Should have deleted the whole thing.

I didn't actually call her a bigot, I said ifshe thought x, then y. Grin I may have got bored with the caveats by the third time though...

I've read the rules y'know.

bochead · 01/03/2012 00:07

MNHQ just don't "geddit" I've concluded having watched the editorial policy for a year now.

Triggles - hoick up yer flame proof knickers, arm yourself with a thermometer and prepare to do battle and win against the caring carrots.

I'm visualising a cartoon starring Mean Mama dressed in a flaming wonder woman outfit riding a roman chariot thru the school gates doing ninja moves

(I think it's official girls - I've lost me marbles!)

Triggles · 01/03/2012 00:10

If I'm wading through shit, I want "Batgirl boots!" I've always wanted some! There's actually a woman on school run who wears them, and she's easily 55-60yo+. I can't decide if I'm more fascinated by the boots or horrified that she's wearing them at her age. Grin

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bochead · 01/03/2012 00:17

The boots work with that image Wink

madwomanintheattic · 01/03/2012 00:29

A 60yo in batgirl boots, y'say? Hope for me yet.

So tomorrow morning i have to take ds1 for his psych appt to see if she can do anything wrt to soiling (as the paed has run of more run of the mill solutions), and then I have to drive an hour and a half into the city for dd2's orthotics appointment after lunch. I am particularly looking forward to it as when I called to make the psych appointment, she got me to give a brief run down of his ishoos. At one point I mentioned that he was extremely stubborn. She said (I kid you not) 'when we hear a comment like that we can usually track the behaviours down through the parents'. Grin Grin what fun! I'm sooooo looking forward to it... Grin

Do you know which school you want triggles? Or are you still trying to work it out?

bochead · 01/03/2012 00:40

Yup I'm stubborn too, it's deffo genetic and its why my kid is now accessing an education.

After a comment like that let her get on with it if your kid is stubborn during the appointment, don't help her out.

madwomanintheattic · 01/03/2012 02:18
Grin

I just laughed and said 'yep, i can see that!' which I don't think was the answer she was expecting...

Ds1 will charm the pants off her and then ignore everything she says. He will probably end up interviewing her. He spent two years seeing the school counsellor for these issues and he would breeze in, distract her for an hour, breeze out, and she would call me in later and say how well he was doing. I'd ask what he said about the residential trip and she would say 'oh, it sounds as though he had a great time! I couldn't get a word in edge ways!' and I would go 'mmmm. Did he mention that every single other child on the bus was chanting 'someone's shit themselves, it stinks! Who has shit?' for two hours? And she would blanch slightly and then apologise for not having had the sense to ask him about, y'know, what he was seeing her for. He's goooooooood. And he left her feeling all warm and cosy that she was doing a good job, and he would come home and hide his pants and then lie about it. I only knew about the bus because dd1 was on the same trip... Not that it wasn't obvious when he got home, he was sodden and indeed stank. But I wouldn't have known about the two hours of jeering and shouting. Poor little bugger.

Ups and downs, eh?

My mum does make me laugh sometimes when she says 'you used to do that' and it's always something that drives me crazy. He currently puts on a really bad American accent when he's talking to the paed. Blush