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A thread for Beatrice: Because a life filled with love is a life worth living.

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cupofteaplease · 03/10/2011 15:18

We are back from the hospital, Beatrice has been fed and dh has gone to work. So I have time to sit down and start the first post about the journey ahead, which I hope will be a long and happy one.

Beatrice was born at 36 weeks weighing 3lb 14oz. After an initial diagnosis of Edward's Syndrome was proved to be incorrect, an MRI and genetics tests were carried out and today we have some initial answers.

Beatrice's brain is very small and underdeveloped. The consultant described it as 'simple', because it does not have all of the detail expected in a typical brain. She explained that we should expect Beatrice to be severly disabled. She is also very small and delicate, and at risk of catching infections. They anticipate that she may suffer from fits. They have told us to watch out for her breathing during feeding, as her muscles are weak. They also commented on her shallow breathing pattern. They believe the problem was caused by a gene that both dh and I must carry, but they haven't got the answers yet and admit that they may never know. They have ultimately described her condition as life-limiting.

However, we have left the consultation feeling at peace. We don't know what the future holds, but realistically, neither do the doctors. We have great faith in Beatrice, she amazes us every day, and she is surrounded by so much love from us and her wider family.

I would like to use this thread as a space to jot down how she is doing, and how we as a family are coping with life. If anyone wants to check in and follow her progress, please do. We couldn't have got through the past 2 weeks without MN. Smile

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Mum1369 · 06/12/2011 23:23

Just wanted to say good luck and in absolute awe. Have been following your threads and the gorgeous Bea. I never had the chance with my little daughter, but hope that I would have been just like you given the chance x

starfishmummy · 07/12/2011 00:10

It probably depends on the ward - whether it is a proper childrens ward or an assessment ward. Certainly on the childrens ward at our local hospital and on various wards at the children's hospital, parents do go home overnight. I have done it myself, although maybe not the first night, and depending on how stable Ds was. I think they do rely heavily on parents being there but they should be able to cope - some parents simply can't stay as they have other dcs to look after. When he was smaller Ds had numerous lengthy stays and there comes a point when the sleepless nights on a camp bed (or even on a chair) take their toll, especially if you know you will have to be fully functioning when you get the child home!

Good luck with the gp and i hope you get the Dr doom situation sorted out

cupofteaplease · 07/12/2011 11:20

Well, that went well.

The GP doubled my dose and asked, 'Do you feel supported by the hospital?' and I responded, 'Well, ...'!! Out poured the whole sorry tale about Dr Doom, and the GP was very sympathetic. He too was amazed by the fact that she didn't come and see Bea on the ward on Monday.

The upshot is, he is going to ring my preferred consultant, as he knows her personally and professionally, and ask if she will take over Beatrice's care. If she can't, they will try and get her another consultant.

So, bye bye Dr Doom- you just didn't deserve to have Beatrice as one of your patients. Xmas Smile

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SoupDragon · 07/12/2011 11:24

Excellent :)

DutchOma · 07/12/2011 11:30

Oh, that's good and an answer to prayer.

mmmSprouts · 07/12/2011 11:34

Keep losing this thread, but lovely to read that Dr Doom shall be no more. What a prize twat!

Hope your doubled up ADs kick in quickly and you're feeling a bit better. Hope Bea is doing well as well as your two other lovely girls.

ChippingInNeedsSleep · 07/12/2011 11:40

YAY what a lovely, lovely GP!!!!

Well done you for telling him all about it :)

The demise of DrDeath/Doom!!

Thumbinnapuddingwitch · 07/12/2011 11:53

Oh fanTAStic!! What a lovely GP you have, cup! So very pleased that he is able to help you out and get you and Bea away from ol' miseryguts!
With a bit of luck, you might get that barium swallow done a bit earlier now as well...

Good riddance to Dr. Doom!

CestTout · 07/12/2011 12:17

Lovely to see you have a path away from Dr Doom. She definitely didn't deserve Bea as a patient :)

Four4me · 07/12/2011 12:33

Brilliant news cup well done you!!!!!!!!! Roar.......

TheOriginalFAB · 07/12/2011 12:36

You are so right. Dr Doom does not deserve to have Beatrice as her patient and enjoy her company and progress.

BobLoblaw · 07/12/2011 14:22

That's excellent news, Bea (and you) deserve a good consultant who will support you both. Dds consultant has rung in the evenings to check on her, visited us when he's been off work and will always talk things over, I hope the new Dr appreciates how special Bea is :)

Angelswings · 07/12/2011 16:43

What a fantastic GP, how wonderful that you have been heard and cared for.

Pray that the double dose soon gets to work and you get the Consultant your daughter deserves.

CaroleService · 07/12/2011 17:02

ThanksThanksThanks to GP

You know all those threads, where the DIL gets cross because the MIL keeps referring to 'my baby'?

I open this thread every day thinking 'must check on our baby' Blush

SparklyGingerbreadMuffin · 07/12/2011 19:15

Ah Carole that's lovely, I think it describes how many of us feel too :)

Hurrah for the excellent GP and double hurrahs for you Cup :)

Whatevertheweather · 07/12/2011 19:41

Ah Cup so glad Bea and you are going to get a consultant you deserve Smile Well done you for standing up for her again xxx

fhdl34 · 07/12/2011 21:24

Sounds like you have a great GP, very supportive. Fingers crossed you get the consultant you want x

MunchingNoPickles · 07/12/2011 21:50

Fx Cup that Bea can have an approachable and interested consultant.

PacificDogwood · 07/12/2011 22:05

Oh, cupoftea, I am so pleased you were able to tell your GP about your concerns and that something may be done about it Smile.
I really hope this has given you a bit of lift (until the increased ADs kick in Wink)

madwomanintheattic · 07/12/2011 22:22

oh bless you, you have been through the mill. glad it's all sorting out slowly.

fwiw, i always left dd2 in the hospital if they admitted her. we lived close enough that i could get back if i needed to, and the other two were only 18 mos and nearly 3. the hospital were always fine with it. so if you need to go home (sometimes i needed to just for my own sanity) then do ask if there's a next time.

hope the increased dose makes life a little bit more manageable. x

saffronwblue · 07/12/2011 23:15

So pleased that Dr Doom will be out of the picture. Imagine walking past a room with our Bea in it and not going in to see her! Not to mention the negativity and lack of support.
cup I am so glad you have a good GP on your side. Wishing you and your girls and even DH a good week.

saffronwblue · 07/12/2011 23:17

Didn't mean to put even there.

Thumbinnapuddingwitch · 08/12/2011 02:59

How are you doing now, whatevertheweather? Hope things aren't too hard coming up to Christmas - (((hugs))) for you anyway.

Carole - I know what you mean about the group "ownership" of Bea - she's "our" special little fighter!Xmas Smile

Dannythedragon · 08/12/2011 06:32

Thats great news for you. Xmas Smile

GColdtimer · 08/12/2011 06:51

So glad you have got a supportive GP cup, I know it can make all the difference. Hope things start picking up soon. Xx