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A thread for Beatrice: Because a life filled with love is a life worth living.

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cupofteaplease · 03/10/2011 15:18

We are back from the hospital, Beatrice has been fed and dh has gone to work. So I have time to sit down and start the first post about the journey ahead, which I hope will be a long and happy one.

Beatrice was born at 36 weeks weighing 3lb 14oz. After an initial diagnosis of Edward's Syndrome was proved to be incorrect, an MRI and genetics tests were carried out and today we have some initial answers.

Beatrice's brain is very small and underdeveloped. The consultant described it as 'simple', because it does not have all of the detail expected in a typical brain. She explained that we should expect Beatrice to be severly disabled. She is also very small and delicate, and at risk of catching infections. They anticipate that she may suffer from fits. They have told us to watch out for her breathing during feeding, as her muscles are weak. They also commented on her shallow breathing pattern. They believe the problem was caused by a gene that both dh and I must carry, but they haven't got the answers yet and admit that they may never know. They have ultimately described her condition as life-limiting.

However, we have left the consultation feeling at peace. We don't know what the future holds, but realistically, neither do the doctors. We have great faith in Beatrice, she amazes us every day, and she is surrounded by so much love from us and her wider family.

I would like to use this thread as a space to jot down how she is doing, and how we as a family are coping with life. If anyone wants to check in and follow her progress, please do. We couldn't have got through the past 2 weeks without MN. Smile

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cupofteaplease · 03/10/2011 15:18

Right now, I feel exhausted. I think the last few weeks have caught up with me. My older girls will be home from school soon and we have a photographer coming round. I can't wait until bedtime!

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Overcooked · 03/10/2011 15:32

Hi, I have been following you through this and have been checking all day for any updates. I'm glad that you feel at peace and hope that you can start to move forward with Beatrice.

Wishing you all the best of luck for the future x

WitchOfWoo · 03/10/2011 15:38

Your dignity and grace has been an inspiration and the very best wishes to you, baby Beatrice and your family.

Your girls are all absolutely gorgeous!

CestTout · 03/10/2011 15:38

Another who has been checking all day. Pleased to see you sounding more positive and look forward to following her progress in the future.

Hope you can have a relaxing evening once your older girls are in bed. x

AgentProvocateur · 03/10/2011 15:39

I've been following your story, and I'm glad you feel at peace with the results of today's consultation. I'm sure the future will have many ups and downs, but with such a lovely and loving family, Beatrice will have a happy life. Wishing you all the best for the future too.

Norfolkbumpkin · 03/10/2011 15:39

Phew, what a day for you! I am so glad you have some answers and are feeling contented and more positive as a result. We are all rooting for your whole family and thank you so much for the update xxxxx

Fuzzywood · 03/10/2011 15:40

Hi, been following your other thread as well. Glad you now have some answers even if it's not the full diagnosis. Hoping and praying she continues to fight like she has been x

kimberlina · 03/10/2011 15:41

I too have been checking for an update. I hope baby Beatrice will continue to amaze and surprise. I'm sure she will bring so much happiness to your gorgeous family. xxx

BobLoblaw · 03/10/2011 15:46

Hello :) I'm glad the appointment went ok, it sounds more positive. Have a lovely time with the photographer. Be kind to yourself too :)

Molivan · 03/10/2011 15:50

Someone else who has been watching and hoping. Your strength is an inspiration, Bea could not have had a better start, whatever the future holds.

madwomanintheattic · 03/10/2011 15:51

hello lovely, i saw your original thread but haven't kept up in the interim. so pleased you are at home now!

my dd2 was tube fed to start as she was born with no suck or gag reflex, but they eventually developed later and her suck strengthened enough to bottle feed (but not to bf, we latched once Smile). she was a very weak feeder with issues with co-ordination, so aspiration issues etc, so i understand entirely where you are with feeding. she also had very weak respiratory system and sounded like darth vader for the first two years. although she had szs for the first couple of months which were medicated, she's had none since. and we got well used to forecasting necessity for anti-b's, and the gp just trusted us to know when chest infection etc was lurking, and would prescribe precautionary anti-b's as necessary. she also has two older siblings.

so, welcome home beautiful beatrice. Grin

i'm sure she's going to exceed all your expectations, she's such a fighter. Smile

Bluetinkerbell · 03/10/2011 15:52

Dear cupoftea take this journey with your lovely family and beautiful daughters one step at a time! Enjoy every moment!
I am sure little Beatrice will enjoy every single moment, she is alive and with you and she is loved by so many!
I am sure God has a plan for Beatrice even though we do not know what it will be, just like the doctors don't know!
Just like you say a life filled with love is a life worth living! No matter how long, no matter how hard!

MmeLindor. · 03/10/2011 15:56

Glad to hear that the appointment went ok, and you are slightly more clear on what to expect in the future.

Will look forward to further updated on Beatrice's progress.

crazynanna · 03/10/2011 16:02

Hey Cupoftea...another stalker here Smile
Glad you're all home....and feeling at peace.
If it's ok with you,I will pop in from time to time...probably just to snot and snivel with happiness at Bea's photos!
Love to you all,you wonderful people xxx

GilbonzoTheSecretPsychoDuck · 03/10/2011 16:03

I've typed so many sentences and deleted them as I just don't know where to start so I'll just say what's in my head and hope it comes out ok. Beatrice is truly beautiful. She has the most beautiful eyes. She is an incredibly lucky baby to have a mum like you, as are your older girls. The way in which you come across just through typing is astonishing. You are so strong and full of love for your family and it is this love and strength that will get you all through the most difficult of times and enable you to enjoy the magical, wonderful times.

I'll keep you, Beatrice and your family in my prayers for as long as you need them and I can't wait to hear more about your little fighter.x

theDudesmummy · 03/10/2011 16:08

I have also been a stalker on your last thread (read it through tears of both sadness and great admiration for you) and just wanted to say that I found myself thinking about you and your little girl many times over the past few days. The title of this thread is just right and reminded me of what is really important in life.

Whatevertheweather · 03/10/2011 16:08

What a beautiful thread title cupoftea. Am so glad today's meeting gave you some peace and some insight as to what you can expect.

I hope Beatrice continues to grow and get stronger every day. Remember to try and take some time for yourself as well xx

Pinot · 03/10/2011 16:10

I only wish love and hope could make Beatrice better.

Massive respect to you cupoftea, I hope you have a chance to realise quite how wonderfully you've handled the past two weeks and how much dignity you have shown.

piprabbit · 03/10/2011 16:11

So glad you are all home calm and peaceful. Wishing you, Beatrice and your family much love and happiness. I think your thread title says it all.

Francagoestohollywood · 03/10/2011 16:13
Smile

Beatrice is just adorable, Cupoftea.

TheOriginalFAB · 03/10/2011 16:18

I looked for your new thread as I posted on your old one and it said I couldn't add a message but couldn't find it. I have been wondering how you were doing all day. I can feel the love you have for Beatrice through the laptop and you are all going to have a lovely time together, however long it is.

StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 03/10/2011 16:21

She is so very lovely, cupoftea.

Have also been stalking, and am glad your appointment went ok.

will be watching out for more updates on how you get on and wish you all the best, lots of love and laughter with your family. I, too, am very much in awe of how much dignity you have shown over the past couple of weeks.

starfishmummy · 03/10/2011 16:23

So glad you and Beautiful Beatrice are home and that you can start to live a "family" life away from the hospital.

BB3 · 03/10/2011 16:31

cupoftea I am so happy you have found peace even if the hospital don't have any answers. Beatrice amazes us all every day with her strength and fighting spirit (as do you and DH) and I hope she continues to do so. I am sure we will all be here following her progress - she has touched the hearts of so many people already and has a virtual army of mners behind her!

Are they going to carry on looking for the answers?

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