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A thread for Beatrice: Because a life filled with love is a life worth living.

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cupofteaplease · 03/10/2011 15:18

We are back from the hospital, Beatrice has been fed and dh has gone to work. So I have time to sit down and start the first post about the journey ahead, which I hope will be a long and happy one.

Beatrice was born at 36 weeks weighing 3lb 14oz. After an initial diagnosis of Edward's Syndrome was proved to be incorrect, an MRI and genetics tests were carried out and today we have some initial answers.

Beatrice's brain is very small and underdeveloped. The consultant described it as 'simple', because it does not have all of the detail expected in a typical brain. She explained that we should expect Beatrice to be severly disabled. She is also very small and delicate, and at risk of catching infections. They anticipate that she may suffer from fits. They have told us to watch out for her breathing during feeding, as her muscles are weak. They also commented on her shallow breathing pattern. They believe the problem was caused by a gene that both dh and I must carry, but they haven't got the answers yet and admit that they may never know. They have ultimately described her condition as life-limiting.

However, we have left the consultation feeling at peace. We don't know what the future holds, but realistically, neither do the doctors. We have great faith in Beatrice, she amazes us every day, and she is surrounded by so much love from us and her wider family.

I would like to use this thread as a space to jot down how she is doing, and how we as a family are coping with life. If anyone wants to check in and follow her progress, please do. We couldn't have got through the past 2 weeks without MN. Smile

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LizaTarbucksNonSmokingAuntie · 03/10/2011 16:39

lovely thread title, so glad you've moved from the other place.

Still praying daily for you all.

rockinastocking · 03/10/2011 16:42

Have been reading your threads.

All your children are beautiful, but you don't need me to tell you that.

Beatrice is a lucky girl indeed to have been born into such a loving and strong family.

I'm sure she'll enhance your lives every bit as much as you'll enhance hers.

Much love.

4madboys · 03/10/2011 16:42

another stalker!

you have lots... glad you are happy with the hospital appointment and feeling positive about the future, hope you get some lovely photographs and i look forward to reading about Beatrice and your family xx

pocketfullofposies · 03/10/2011 16:44

Thank you for the update cupofteaplease - glad you have found some peace today xx

momnipotent · 03/10/2011 16:44

What a wonderful thread title, and a wonderful tribute to your little girl. I have been stalking all day for news. I'm glad to hear that you feel peaceful after your visit to the hospital. It sounds like the doctors can't really say what the future holds for your family, and I think that's a good thing. It makes Beatrice the same as all children - none of us know what tomorrow holds for ourselves or our children, we can only do our best and appreciate what we have here and now. Your girls are lucky to have you, and you are all in my thoughts.

shaz298 · 03/10/2011 16:46

HI,

I haven't seen your other thread but wanted to wish you all, continuing peace and love.

We started our journey 6 and a half years ago with a possible diagnosis of Edwards or Patau Syndromes. Turned out not to be them.We still have no diagnosis and have been told that he is unique in the world! I was told he wouldn't make it to birth , then that he wouldn't live a month and then that he would never walk,talk or have any quality of life. He is now in P2 at mainstream school ( with support) and yes he's been through the wars when it comes to his health, lots and lots of admisssions, surgeries etc, but he is a wonder. He has a fantastic sense of humour, in caring, kind and gentle and has been described as sprinkling fairy dusty everywhere he goes...........we still treat every day as a miracle.

No-one knows what the future holds, but never, ever let anyone take away your hope. Doctors are wonderful people, but they are just that 'people'. They don't know everything and can only base their prognosis on past experience etc.

Wishing your family a fullfilliny, happy life together filled with love and laughter. xx

AuldAlliance · 03/10/2011 16:53

You sound so strong, even though you may not feel it. I am glad that you feel some sort of contentment after the appointment, and look forward to updates over the coming days, weeks, months and years.

Bea is an inspiration. As are you.

ThePosieParker · 03/10/2011 16:53

cupoftea. So often the internet fails to convey a true emotion and we read not really being sure that we interpret the words right, but your first post here has me feeling that you are truly at peace with hope in your heart. I will keep reading, if not always posting, Beatrice's journey in the world and your family's story.

Take care of yourself and your family.xxx

VenetiaLanyon · 03/10/2011 16:54

So glad you've moved thread, and so glad you have some answers, if not all. Best of luck on your way forward with little Bea. x

youarekidding · 03/10/2011 16:54

Just got in from work and searched to find out how you got on today.

I'm glad to hear they're talking about her life now, and your focussing on the future. Smile

I also think it's amazing of you to update us on Beatrice's progress, thankyou for including us in your journey.

Soppy moment! But for a small child who is described as having a life limiting condition little Beatrice has touched so many hearts, opened so many eyes and bought out in the best in a a load of strangers parents all over the world.At just 2 1/2 weeks she has already achieved so much.

Love to you and your family.

Hulababy · 03/10/2011 16:55

Good to hear that you feel more at peace at the moment, and that the appointment has left you feeling okay.

Beatrice is adorable, as are her lovely big sisters. Your love is all Beatrice needs for now, enjoy her and enjoy your time as a family together. Let the future come to you step by step.

Take care x

befuzzled · 03/10/2011 16:55

Have also been following Bea's story and thinking about you all day. I am so pleased to read this thread and see that, yes there are challenges, but look how far she and you have come in the space of a couple of weeks when the initial prognosis was so very, very bleak.

Your threads have been inspirational, wishing you all the best in Bea's continuing journey.xx

Squiglettsmummy2bx · 03/10/2011 16:58

Thank you for sharing your little princess with us all. I've cried tears of sadness & relief reading your last thread & am so happy to see you start such a positive new one. Little Bea has her own plans Smile
Sending my love to you & your lovely family xxx

MustControlFistOfDeath · 03/10/2011 17:02

Cupoftea, thanks for continuing to update - your strength is really amazing.

Wishing you and your family the most wonderful time ahead with little Beatrice. xx

CheerfulYank · 03/10/2011 17:06

So proud of you and Bea! You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

StarlightMcKenzie · 03/10/2011 17:07

Thank you for the update cup. Beatrice has an awful lot of fans.

Wishing you and your family well.

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Imnotaslimjim · 03/10/2011 17:15

Im so happy to hear that Beatrice's prognosis isn't as terrible was initially thought. And that you have got some peace from today. I hope that she lives a long life with you all, but no matter how long it is, she will know how much she is loved and wanted

ForYourDreamsAreChina · 03/10/2011 17:23

Another stalker checking in.

You are a beautiful family, CoT and I wish you even more love for the future x

YougreatPamplemousse · 03/10/2011 17:40

Cup - how lovely to find you all out of bereavement an in a place planning life ahead with Bea in it.

Please also take time to take care of yourself - Bea needs you to be healthy, stong and well. Try and rest when you get the chance and remember to eat!

Looking forward to hearing how Bea grows and continues to astound everyone.

strictlycomedancingdiva · 03/10/2011 17:43

Just checking in to found out how today went, you have chosen a beautiful thread title Smile

I am pleased you feel at peace today, and I will continue to follow your journey, I wish you and your family well x

triskaidekaphile · 03/10/2011 17:49

Glad the appointment was bearable and not surprised that you are being hit by a wave of exhaustion- you have been through so much in the past few weeks. Love the new thread title and I too will be stalking checking in regularly to hear how you're all doing. That baby of yours has many fans indeed.:)

chocolatehobnobs · 03/10/2011 17:54

I'm really pleased to hear that today brought positive news. Little Beatrice is beautiful and your posts have really shown what a wonderful loving family she has been born into. I wish you strength to face the journey ahead with courage. I am expecting DC 1 in 3 weeks time and think we live quite close so i will look out for you and your family.
With love and best wishes.

Doobydoo · 03/10/2011 17:55

Thank you for letting us know.I am glad you are feeling at peace.As you know life is a rollercoaster and I am sure you will all adapt along the way.Don't forget we are here for you if you should need us.xx

sybilfaulty · 03/10/2011 17:57

I am so glad to hear that today's consultation went well. Thanks so much for updating us. I look forward to hear of little B going from strength to strength. She certainly has many people across the country and beyond looking out for her.

best wishes to you all.