'D' H has been having an affair.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

I've got a (long) thread in relationships if anyone has an hour to spare! Link here But in short, H has been having an affair for the past 6 months. I finally found out this morning after 3 weeks of him denying it, and I've asked him to leave. Just need some hugs from my SN friends.

Oh Ellen, I havent posted in a while but have lurked around a lot, and I am so sorry to hear about all this. You have always given such wonderful advice and have helped me out a lot just from reading your posts. My heart is going out to you and your fab boys and I also remember that it is a real turning point for your ds2 ( who is similar to mine ) as he has/is starting out on the road to secondary school. So hope that it is all going smoothly enough for him! Cant believe this has happened at what is already a stressful enough time for you. Keep strong- you can do this and things will eventually get better. Sending you so many hugs across the Irish sea!!!

Ellen - I can't bear that you are going through this. As if life is not tough enough as it is. You give out such sound advice to others that I hope your internal advice system works just as well for you yourself.

I felt very sick reading both of your threads. I sometimes entertain the idea that something similar might be going on in my home too and I am afraid to admit that, at this point in time (ASD DS, age 3, diagnosed last year and DD, age 2, in process of probably getting the same diagnosis), it is just actually too much to address so I am burying it. I just don't have the strength to even go looking.

Hold your head high, never stoop to his level, remain civil and stand back and wait for all of his future plans (which will be a complete fantasy) unravel as they will indeed do. And remember that all the people that have posted on your thread and all the many others that have read it have been going about their daily lives for the past few days thinking about you and really feeling for you. I certainly have - you've been playing on my mind all weekend since I came across your post.
There are times when you will feel very alone but you are not. x