Thank you. So if I word the sister letter like this:
To LEA,
My son, XXXX, will be attending XXXXXX school full time as of the 6th September 2011. Could you please liase with XXXXXX school to make sure that they are supported with this, as, until now, without my agreement, he has only been allowed in school from 1pm until 3pm each day. The LEA has a duty to educate my son, XXXX, full time, irrespective of his SEN.
Would that be worded ok? OH - and thank you for having a look. TBH my friend is having great difficulty with this, and it was only in conversation with me that she realised just how much the school have tried to pull the wool over her eyes.
The HT even told her that he would not allow her son back into FT school unless she had him medicated for his ADHD (against the clinical psych advice, due to his age, and the fact that he is small for his age too, plus mum is worried about SE's from the meds). But refused to put it in writing, and pretended he hadn't said that when in a meeting with the LEA. Then reiterated it to her when the meeting was over and they were alone again.
Also the HT keeps refusing to let my friend have another friend go with her to meetings for moral support, depsite knowing there is no PPO to go with her. So a lot of these meetings take place with her on her own, therefore no witnesses to what is being said. I am trying to find the bit of legislation that covers this, because I KNOW there is some, and I want to be able to wave a printout in the HT's face if he tries to say I can't go into the meetings with my friend...