Oh dear god, all this over a stopwatch??

[Triggles]

DS2 has been obsessed the last couple days with a stopwatch that we got in a free games pack. We've let him play with it, no big deal. But DH set it down somewhere today, and now we can't find it and DS2 is having a meltdown. And of course, DH is having one as well, doing the whole "laying down the law" crap, which we all know works sooooo well with children with ASD, eh? So DH shouting and swearing, DS2 screaming and crying... DS3 unbelievably (thankfully) sleeping through it all. I'm trying to calm DS2 and telling DH to stop shouting and swearing as he's just making it all worse....

Yep... right old fun time here tonight. I need a drink.

moosemama - I have to agree with your DH - that's EXACTLY how I feel, but at the same time I also feel like a referee as I'm always stepping between him and the children because he can be rather verbally hostile sometimes.

We had a home visit from the OT yesterday, and she was insistent that I could not keep up under this level of pressure indefinitely. She said it wasn't good for me, and that she was worried about me. She suggested CAF (?) and said she would put some "feelers" out for other things that would be helpful, but agreed that she would not (and legally could not) proceed any further than that without express permission from me. She pointed out that it could access more money for us, but I told her it's not the money that is the issue, it's the stress at this point. And that hopefully DH's meds will kick in soon and there may be some improvement in that respect. Although I know it's not an overnight thing, I'm pretty realistic about that.

But yes, sometimes I just feel like all we do is argue and all he does is shout and it makes me frustrated and sad.

Oh dear, I had this today with dd, because her little plastic shape with a rainbow picture in it had gone missing. I had to offer her sweets to distract her, thank goodness she has forgotten about it now, but she will remember it later on no doubt

oh no pigletmania!! best of luck to you. We're still recuperating from "stopwatch-gate" here.