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Anyone want to join me in a 'New School' anxiety thread??

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MugglesandLuna · 19/08/2011 15:50

Less than three weeks until DS starts school and I am so nervous. He is only going mornings for the first half term, with me picking him up at 12.30. He also has a 1-2-1 all the time.

But I am so worried about it. Worried that I have made the right choice about MS vs SS. I am also nervous that he wont be able to manage a full morning, as his visits have been for 1.5 hours max.

Anyone want to join in some hand holding. I have tea and biscuits :)

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MugglesandLuna · 19/08/2011 19:31

Just me then :D

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TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 20/08/2011 06:48

oooh, did someone mention tea and biscuits? Dd3 isn't a new school starter, she's going into year one but at a new ss, ms was a disaster for her so we're all a bit nervous. That said they'd have to go a long way to be worse than the last shool Even though ms didn't work out for dd3, I still think it was the right decision at the time it was made, she also did the part days for most of the fist term, that was something that did work.

signandsmile · 20/08/2011 07:41

I'm wavering between hope and anxiety.... ds will start part time too and the school look to be brill, (hopeful emoticom) but..... he is still 'out of my reach' IYSWIM. what if they don't understand him, what if they forget to take him to the loo, what if the other kids are mean to him, what if, what if... ARGH! .

am telling self I have done all I can to prep, but the waiting is hard.
hi ninja hoping ss is brill for Dd3,

dietstartstmoz · 20/08/2011 08:05

Can i join in? DS was 4 this week and is starting MS primary on sept 6th full time, and we are waiting for his proposed statement any day now. No specific TA to work with DS until the school know the number of hrs on the statement, although lots of help and people from Autism outreach will be in school for the first two weeks. I'm not sure the school are being as 'inclusive' as I hoped and I have serious reservations about sending him there and whether they will be any good. Very worried.

Marne · 20/08/2011 08:52

Can i join? mine are not goingin to reception but starting a new school (year 1 and year 3) and i am very Anxious, mainly due to the fact the school have hardly spoken to me and have already cut dd2's 1:1 so i have to arrange a meeting as soon as they start and tell them 'they can't cut the 1:1 and i have involved the LEA and am ready for a fight' . Also worried as dd2 will be starting on full days and i feel half days for the first week would be easier for her .

bedheadz · 20/08/2011 08:54

Please can i join?, DS is 7 so not a new school but he is going up to the juniors in MS. Trying to think positive but deep down I get butterflies every time I think about it.

We now have AS in black and white from the paed (not full dx waiting for ADOS) so I am hoping school are going to be a bit more proactive.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 20/08/2011 08:56

My DD is starting special school (for SLD) on Thursday, they are.lovely but I am stressing ad she can't speak and won't like the structure and learning. Am looking forward to some time for.me after 8 weeks of hols though.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 20/08/2011 08:56

Full days from the start here too

dietstartstmoz · 20/08/2011 10:19

Full days probably better for DS, as doing a gradual start will confuse him. He will be better off starting full time and then he will know this is the school pattern. Not sure the school will be better off or share the same view though!

survivingsummer · 20/08/2011 20:31

Can I join too?
DD also starts in 3 weeks (primary). I'm very nervous - mentally and emotionally she's ready but whether she'll manage physically is another matter Just have images of her getting pushed over all day

She's also just doing mornings for half a term - maybe longer if school think a good idea (they seem very relaxed about this which is good)!

signandsmile · 20/08/2011 20:39

yeah our school said they were happy to be guided by what I feel ds needs, so will start mornings then mornings with lunch then adding afternoons, one day at a time.

dietstartstmoz · 28/08/2011 09:54

I'm now having a major wobble about school!! Just over a week to go and i'm seriously stressed out now. Ds2 has had all his settling in sessions - went well, and he knows he is going (but he doesn't 'understand'). It's a mainstream primary, and older DS goes there and is very happy BUT i'm not sure if it's the right place for Ds2. I feel we have no choice but to give it a go, but someone tell me it's normal to feel so stressed-argh!
His proposed statement came through this week, and he will get full support-phew, but now we have to name the school we want on the statement and i'm thinking should we put somewhere else, despite it being the school hols should I try and make contact with other schools? but then I dont know where to try. Would anywhere else be better? I need someone to say send him here as its great with ASD kids. Also, should we consider the local MLD school, despite 2 professionals saying he is not MLD, he is mainstream-with support? Also have all the worry over his MRI results this week, bloody hell anything else to worry about??

intothewest · 28/08/2011 10:26

Not in this situation,but FANJO,when my DS started at SS for SLD he couldn't really speak or communicate much-It is hard to let them go,but over the years (he's now 7) his communication has improved greatly.They should have it all in place to help her- DS loves school.
Good luck to all the DCs ...and the parents !

signandsmile · 28/08/2011 18:28

thanks into its now 'this' week. only 4 more sleeps!!!!! trying on uniform tomorrow.

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 28/08/2011 20:38

ooh it's getting close sign, my lot are all back the following week so we have a little longer. What does ds think of it all?

dietstartstmoz · 03/09/2011 07:46

DS starts on Tuesday, only 3 more sleeps now for us. Both DH and I are getting very worried now, but he is going on tues.
fanjo and signandsmile how did your DC get on?

signandsmile · 03/09/2011 08:17

ds was fine... few tears on drop off and pick up but that's transitions for you... he loves his nudi-forn, (uniform ) and walking to school. He is 'away with the fairies' on the walk home, but that's understandable.

only is they are letting them out a different door from the one used for his visits and expect them to line up and wait to be released to their individual parents... which is fine, but will take ds time to 'learn', think I will write a nice sucky up collaberative note with a few ideas that might help.. (them making a couple more pages for his social story book, breaking down the skill they want into easy steps, using the red and green traffic light symbols, doing more verbal prep for what is happening etc etc)

hoping they will feel empowered, not 'overlooked' IYSWIM,

how was it for anyone else whoes dc's have started.

used2bthin · 03/09/2011 08:30

Hi my DD starts mainstream primary full time next week. The school have put lots in place for her, two excellant one to one workers on a job share, and have sent her a post card with a photo of her in the classroom with her class and teacher. They have done lots of settling in visits last term but DD still asks 2playgroup today?" and doesn't seem to get that she isn't going back.

I am anxious but looking forward to it as I think they will give her more support than I have been able to, and I am hoping she will make progress there. A few of her NT friends have said recently why can't she speak very well which has made me worry abput the potential for bullying and knocks to her confidence which at the moment is quite high.

No choice but mainstream here as the SS were unsuitable, she may well not cope long term though.

Need to get all her meds organised and it will be odd having to be formal about time off for appointments etc. But I think it could be a good change for her.

signandsmile · 03/09/2011 09:24

Hi used to, that sounds really positive
ds's school have been really good too, (and his one to one is lovely) I know how the anxiety feels tho...

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 03/09/2011 09:26

forgot about this thread..my DD is absolutely LOVING her special school, she runs to her taxi squealing excitedly every morning

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 03/09/2011 09:27

she is also trying to speak quite a lot!

used2bthin · 03/09/2011 09:28

Thanks oh thats great baout your DSs one to one and school too, I feel very lucky that we have been treated well so far and am aware that many schools are far less helpful-the head has employed an ex TA of thiers who has just trained as a SALT but hasn't got work yet and is goung to keep up her skills working with dd and a few others.

I have arranged to meet a friend whose DS starts school same day, different school and not same issues but we wanted to do something nice and keep busy that day so are meeting up.

silverfrog · 03/09/2011 11:04

oh, can I join?

dd1 isn't a school starter - this will be her 3rd school!! but she starts at a new one next week, with little settling in (only had 2 weeks notice of her last school closing...) - a bit of a scramble to say the least.

and dd2 is starting in reception next week too . she has vastly improved over this year, and will be ok in school, I htink, but I still can't help but worry. I was talking to her last night about something, and acasually mentioned her peg is not where she expects it to be (she hwas taken round her classroom at the end of last term, but there has been comprehensive building works over the sumer, and the whole school has been reorganised...) and her bottom lip wobbled, and she was nearly in tears at the thought.

however well she is doing, she still crumbles at the slightest little thing

so I will be a nervous wreck next week - dd2 intro settling on Tues, first porper day on Weds, and dd1's first day on Thurs.

OctonautsOnRepeat · 03/09/2011 11:09

DS1 starts next thursday at nursery. First time he's been and only time he's been left with non-family, close friends.
We've walked past a couple of times and have a little photo book they sent him. He is looking forward to it.
I am so nervous
He still so little to me and I'm worried that with his speech delay, they won't know what he's trying to say.

AlysWho · 03/09/2011 11:30

Can I join in- DD is 14 and on her 6th school.. as far as i know she loves it and they are fab -BUT i'm still really anxious [nailbiting].
Will they do all the things they've said they will? Can they possibly be that great? Will she still like it this term f/t? will she be nice to the little boy sharing her taxi this year? Can I really start to pick up the pieces of my life again having put everything else aside and been f/t carer for year and half? Do i even dare tempt fate by doing so?..
....and breathe...x

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