Anyone want to join me in a 'New School' anxiety thread??

[MugglesandLuna]

Less than three weeks until DS starts school and I am so nervous. He is only going mornings for the first half term, with me picking him up at 12.30. He also has a 1-2-1 all the time.

But I am so worried about it. Worried that I have made the right choice about MS vs SS. I am also nervous that he wont be able to manage a full morning, as his visits have been for 1.5 hours max.

Anyone want to join in some hand holding. I have tea and biscuits :)

Hi all, silverfrog how awful that your DD's school shut suddenly that must have been a blow!

Its scary isn't it, my DD also doesn't have much understandable language and had none when she started playgroup. Her keyworker got to know her so well(sob!) that she understood her needs well though.

sending hugs to everyone preparing...

Im marking my place,

DS (age 4with ASD) starts special needs school in two weeks time.... He's too young (sob)

Home visit this afternoon from DS1's key worker and SEN lady at the nursery.
He has no idea what's going on, bless him.

well, the countdown has started properly...

off later this morning to get last few bits of dd2's uniform (thought I might be able to get away with not getting her a school coat until half term or so, but judging by recent wether I don't htink I'll risk it ), and then can do the last bits of naming etc tonight. she gets to look around her classroom tomorrow morning, then starts on Weds.

dd1 going a bit loopy now. she has coped very well all summer with "old school finished, going to go to new school after holidays", but now that that is nearly a reality, she is getting a bit anxious (mostly to do with not knowing which day activities are on, or which teacher she might have, or what itme lunchtime is etc - she is big on timetables )

still, all should be well by the ned of the week, hopefully

Can I join? Ds is 11 so its not quite the same as at 4 but started secondary (MLD) today. I clearly remember how I felt on his very first day at ms primary without any support at all. When I collected him at lunch time the teacher said he was fine - well not the worst! His latest school (an ASD/MLD primary) understood ds very well - the new school is big, not ASD specific and they have to change classrooms for different subjects. (Bites nails still further!) . The bus driver seemed very nice ( no escort now!). No calls so far!

magso, we have a secondary starters thread on sn education if you want to join us there. This morning was tough watching ds1 walk off for the bus

dd3 starts her new ss on wednesday, transport is collecting her at 7.35, it's going to be a long day. School have said I can go in as much as I want for the first week or so, so I'm going in on wednesday but will go after the rush hour is done and go spy on her!

good luck to everyone

I have just put DS2 to bed, early ahead of his first day at school tomorrow, and he really does know how to stress me out. he was up early this morning (stupid cough woke him up) and he was grumpy all day, lots of screaming and strops and even deliberately pinched DS1's arms, which is unheard of as he adores him-and all the time i'm thinking 'how the bloody hell is he going to cope in mainstream?'. I now want to sit here and weep. All his stuff is ready, all name labels are in, sandwiches made etc I just need to be able to compose myself by tomorrow. I can't cry in front of the boys in the morning and need to hold it together. I'm going into work after that, keep busy mode so i'm not thinking about him. I will post tomorrow about how he has been. Good luck to any other's starting tomorrow.

DS is starting in 2 weeks (although got visit with teacher this week). He has ABA support though and only going parttime so I feel a bit of a fraud being on this thread as he is going to have a softer landing than most. Actually more worried for my other boys about possibly teasing etc but they say they are only worried about how DS will manage.
Good luck to all those going this week.

Late joiner dd2 (4.6)off to MS school tomorrow,she does not talk,has mobility probs&is still in nappies.School,so far,have been great,she has a full-time one to one but I was sobbing last night as I am so worried about so many things
Deep breaths. . . . . .!!!

May I join?

Ds is not starting school as such but transferring to a new placement tomorrow - asd unit in ms school. He said he was frightened and nervous - hurrah for new words and recognising emotions - but he keeps asking if any of his old TAs will be there and he will be taken by taxi so I cannot even talk to the staff about his day.

Good luck everyone.

Can I join?

Not a new school but new class (yr 1) and job sharing teachers. I'm struggling now I'm home having dropped him off. He went in OK but the teacher didn't have the radio aid and seemed a bit when I asked. She didn't seem to think it was important to use. But a full time TA is in the classroom not attached to any particular child. The TA made of point of beelining to me and took medicines etc so hopefully DS will be OK as they've clearly thought about things a bit by getting extra help into the classroom.

The house is very quiet.

Just seen ds off on his first day at secondary (Ehlers Danlos and suspected dyspraxia/dyslexia). I'm mildly hopeful- they've been good with his sister and apparently dyslexia screening is the first thing on the agenda.

we went for dd2's classroom settling session today. it was ok-ish. she trotted in happily enough, and tried to play with a few bits and pieces.

woudln't talk to her new teacher, or classroom assistant though (quite deliberately woudl not engage, bottom lip trembling as she knew she was being rude).

none of her best friends form pre-school are in her class, and the one girl she kind of liked ignored her all morning

but, we found her peg, established what she shoudl bring with ehr tomorrow, go the definitive answr on whether she could wear ehr watch to school (I had ready-pimed ehr teacher to say "no" ) and by the end of the session she was ensconced in the home corner where she will, undoubtedly, live outmost of her reception year.

then, on the way home, she said "when you are with me tomorrow, mummy, I can show you where we will play outside", and "mummy, which classroom is X (her best frined form last year - not staying on at this school) in? I didn't see her today, but maybe I can play with her tomorrow"

• tomorrow is not going to go well, I don't think...

still, on the bright side she is looking forward to her uniform ( - this is the girl who will only wear red, and the more flowers/spots on the dress the better), and is chuffed to bits that the picture on her peg is a ladybird (I suspect the involvement of her key worker form last year in that one!).

fingers crossed...

so day 1 went well. DS had FT 1-2-1 from autism outreach in a TA role, which was great autism training all day for the teacher and TA's. Ds enjoyed school, no real probs. A couple of screaming moments when a car track he was playing with broke, but that's to be expected with DS. They also took him to the library when the registration and admin stuff took 30 mins as he couldn't sit for 30 mins (reception class though, how many reception kids could do that?). He said he will go again tomorrow so thats a good sign!
Phew, lets hope the rest of the week goes OK.