I actually believe in inclusion, really, but when you have a dc whose disabilities are so severe including challenging behaviour, trying to fit in to the mainstream world is just so exhausting, demoralising and thankless. I just want to close the world on the rest of the world sometimes and live in peace with my friends and their equally challenging SN kids.
No more constant stares and gawping from the horrified public
No more constant danger for the escape artists
No more having to put a positive face on every morning before leaving the house - you know the one that says, 'I know my son is lashing out and touching women's breasts, dribbling and spitting and carrying on but it's perfectly ok and I am perfectly calm. Yes, really I am.'
No more buildings/outside spaces that aren't designed with severe autism in mind
No more having to constantly look at normal families, having fun doing normal things
No more listening to hardline inclusionists saying, 'inclusion can happen if you just have the right attitude'
No more having to avoid going into shops, towns, public areas of any sort where it might be crowded
No more staying in doors all day because it is easier than leaving the house
No more continual struggle...
Of course, I would let other people in the gated village to come and see what a fab place it is and how - if you design the physical environment right - even the most challenging children can flourish.
Now I just need to win the lottery.