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sorry, have dd2 wailing in my ear, so am a bit distracted... Fanjo's on FB

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silverfrog · 07/02/2011 18:30

Just a quick post to say I have left the group.

The recent thread has helped cement my thoughts a little.

dd2 is wailing and screaming over somethign inconsequential, and as a result I have managed ot leave the group without posting to say I am going. sorry.

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bettyboop63 · 07/02/2011 18:57

two of you in one evening whatever yr reason n im new on MN sorry to see you go Sad tc hope your family get all the help and support you deserve tc

Lougle · 07/02/2011 20:05

silverfrog...don't actually know what to say. It wasn't my intention to make others leave.

Goblinchild · 07/02/2011 20:09

Lougle, have you left mn?
Can we have a roll-call of the departed...
Riven
2shoes
Fanjo
silverfrog

um...

Goblinchild · 07/02/2011 20:12

I must have accidently deleted Peachy when I was correcting my post.
So, Peachy.

Who else has taken an extended break?
Who will be left?

1980Sport · 07/02/2011 20:16

Has fanjo gone too?

& Startingafresh - Although I think she's taking a break?

Is all the horrible stuff happening on other forms or here on SN - I've missed everything. All I can say is please don't go - your advice, experience and knowledge is invaluable to mums like me, new to the SN world.

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silverfrog · 07/02/2011 20:18

lougle - I know that Smile, and you didn't.

your thread was timely, that is all. I was increasingly hiding posts made there, and biting my tongue.

as I said, I didn't like the fact that it was turning into a "moan about MN" place.

I still lurk here, and post occasionally.

I am undecided as to what I intend to do in the future - MN is a strange strange place these days.

I am not sure how easy it is going to be in the future to co-exis as a nce support board alongside the crap that is regularly left ot stand on the main boards. it's all very well being behind a veil a bit here, bu when you know your close neighbours are all bitching about you, then it's hard ot be at peace (iyswim).

but please, it wasn't your fault. (was going to send you a message to say so on fb, and then realised I'd deleted my memebrship of the group without befriending you - d'oh!)

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Goblinchild · 07/02/2011 20:19

I took a break from the SN forum and went for a stomp around the rest of the site for a while because of a couple of posters that irritated me.
I think a lot of the posters leaving just don't see MN as being a positive asset in their lives any more.
If you are battling prejudice, stupid and offensive opinions and judgemental parents in your RL, why would you log on for more of the same here?

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1980Sport · 07/02/2011 20:25

The selfish part of me wants you all to stay - but silverfrog the bit about neighbours and also goblinchild your post makes a lot of sense. I've only left the SN board a couple of times so I'm in a bit of a bubble.

Anyway - so sorry you are leaving :(

Ineedalife · 07/02/2011 20:28

I am definatly missing something, I guess its because I rarely venture from SN.

I am sorry so many people are moving on because I have had soo much help from lovely people on here in the last few months.

But I suppose if you are not finding it helpful to be on here then its probably time to move on.

good luckSmile.

Lougle · 07/02/2011 20:33

Goblinchild, for clarity, no is the short answer.

I posted on the FB group 'Fanjo's Club' tonight, stating (with quite a lengthy explanation) that I was going to dereg, for a few reasons.

One of those reasons, the only one that is relevant to this board, is that I can't morally line up the notion that in times of need when I was just starting out, there were people further down the line that helped.

Now, there are people just starting out, and where are the people further down the line to help? On FB, enjoying support from oneanother.

I haven't posted too much on here lately, but here is where I need to be. There are people who are just starting out, need support. It's what I am about Smile

I am sad that I have upset some posters by telling them my reasons for leaving. I am sad that I feel the way I do. I am sad that MN SN:Children has been stripped of valuable posters. But it is what it is.

Now, who wants DLA advice Grin

Goblinchild · 07/02/2011 20:55

So what's your poison then?
We can be oldtimers at the corner table in the local, eyeing up the other customers.

DillyDaydreaming · 07/02/2011 20:57

I am still here as well as having had an invite a while back to the FB group. The FB group has some FB friends on who also post here and some who no longer do.

I think some long standing members felt alienated and abused here by the influx of new non-genuine people who seemed to want to annoy people. Sadly this means that the genuine new people miss out on the support that these MNers could give. If it matters I think many of them will be back when things have settled down. At present there is support on there for each other and a general moan about the main board where some people feel ADHD or anything else similar is caused by "bad parenting". Hmm Or wonder why we need DLA - all the things moaned about here in fact.

By the way - Fanjos Club is not an exclusive group which nobody can join. Lougle has mentioned the name above and it is freely searchable.

Many of us do post on both sites though and I am more than happy to offer support to other parents with children who have extra needs. I have been more of a lurker than a poster at times but will offer support to anyone who wants it.

My DS (8) has an ASD and ADHD as well as Dyspraxia. I get DLA (well until Shiney Dave decides otherwise) and it makes a huge difference to my son's life. I am more than happy to help other parents just starting out on the journey with SN. Smile

So if you are new to MN and especially if you are new to the SN boards then a big welcome.

Lougle · 07/02/2011 21:05

Right now? I'd settle for Casualty and a cuppa...life is very stressful right now for a number of reasons Sad

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silverfrog · 07/02/2011 21:07

kettle's on, Lougle.

what's up? do yuo want ot talk about it?

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Lougle · 07/02/2011 21:11

later, much later, but DH is giving me the glare...casualty awaits :D

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silverfrog · 07/02/2011 21:13

Enjoy!

Will be waiting with the just-boiled kettle (the joys of an Aga! Grin) if you fancy a cuppa later.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/02/2011 21:24

I haven't left MN, had a break, now post a bit, althou sick of the nastiness/Trollery/extreme right-wing opinions of some posters (not generally on SN)

Toppy · 07/02/2011 21:25

I love you Lougle for that post on what you are about. I am just starting out ish and am mortified at the departure of many of those who have given me diamond advice. It has been gutting - feels a bit like being abandoned.

Goblinchild · 07/02/2011 21:26

I'm delighted that I was wrong Fanjo, and I rarely say that!
Smile

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/02/2011 21:27

Aww shucks Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/02/2011 21:28

Well, i will be in fanjo's and here, anywone at all who wants to join fanjo's can PM me or superfantastic)..I just stayed there fir a bit as I was attacked pretty bad,y by trolls on here