My daughter has always said that any nursery/educational setting do not want her youngest son. He's been in placements (nursery) since he was 12 months old and she went back to work.
She has two older children in primary school and her youngest is now in the school nursery. He is three and a half and has been assessed by an educational psychologist at 12-18 months stage.
All three children have additional needs.
Her youngest child has global development delay, no speech, hypotonia, hearing loss and epilepsy.
We applied for an EHCP in January this year. We sent back some amendments we would like to add before it gets finalised. We did not know that the school had to send back any comments as to whether they could meet his needs. The case worker rang my daughter today and said that they had not heard back from the school and the deadline had passed.
We know nothing about the process - we've not done this before. My daughter is convinced that the school do not want him. They tried to prevent him from starting nursery by saying that they were full and he did not have a place, despite taking younger children than him in January. When we questioned their admissions policy they suddenly found a 12 hr place for him. When my daughter asked if he could have his full 30 hrs entitlement in one setting, as recommended by his epilepsy consultant, he was offered a further 6 hrs. So this nursery is his main setting.
This school do not comply with her older son's requirement for prescribed drinks. He has ARFID, delayed speech and is waiting for an ASD assessment. He has fortified drinks prescribed as his blood tests showed deficiencies. He has lost weight and much lighter than he was more than a year ago. These drinks need to be stored in the fridge. My daughter sends two small bottles of diluted/fortified drink (half juice, half prescription drink is the only way he will drink them) which need to be drunk throughout the day. He has one bottle before school and one bottle after school (4 bottles) so half of his drinks need to be in school time. The nursery do not store them in the fridge and they are giving him two bottles of drink at 3pm (home time) and making him drink them under time pressure while we wait for him in the playground. He gags on the drinks as they are more unpalatable when warm. Sometimes it is 3.25 when he eventually emerges from his class as he really struggles to drink them quickly. The school 'pretend' that he drank them during the day, but of course he tells us differently and we have seen him with the two bottles through his classroom window at the end of the day.
My granddaughter is in year 3 and is waiting for ASD assessment. She has no friends. She says that she is very sad and lonely at school. She follows other children around but they never include her in their games. When we have mentioned this to school they say that they'll keep an eye on the situation but nothing has ever been done to actively encourage friendships. She begs to go to another school. We do understand that another school can't force friendships but maybe could be more proactive in encouraging friendships and having a buddy system.
My daughter is upset that the school appears to do nothing to support her children.
Would it be possible to name a different school on the EHCP and then apply there for her other two children to attend? I think that the relationship between this present school and my daughter is irrevocably broken as my daughter does not trust their assurances that her children's needs are being fulfilled adequately. (Her youngest actually had a seizure and fell headfirst into the water trough and, instead of taking him out, they filmed the episode 'for evidence'.) Is it too late to apply to a different school for September?
She would be unable to drop her children at different schools due to distance/time and working.