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3.5 year old running into our room all night

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Teaandbiscuits16 · 28/12/2022 18:44

DS is 3.5 and we took the sides off his bed about 6 months ago. It was smooth sailing until about 6 weeks in and ever since he’s come into our room every night without fail at least twice a night, sometimes up to 6 times a night with all kinds of “reasons” as to why he’s up. It’s getting worse and for the last 4 nights he’s come bursting in screaming and crying (we think he’s had bad dreams) and will NOT go back to his room. Last night he was up from 1-5am.

We’ve tried everything that has been suggested so far (except locks on doors as it’s not our style) or a stair gate as he’ll either scream and scream waking his 17 month old sister or climb over it and hurt himself.

We’ve tried walking him back to bed calmly and quietly, being firmer, letting him choose another teddy to take to bed, talking to him about his dreams and reassuring him, bringing his mattress into our room, letting him sleep in our bed but he can’t settle and fidgets too much.

We’re at a loss of what else we can do. He simply will not stay in his room for more than 10 seconds when we take him back. He settles fine at bed time and doesn’t nap anymore so it’s not a timing issue in my opinion. He also sleeps with his door open and has a nightlight in his room.

I’m broken from months from sleepless nights.

OP posts:
CaramelMach · 10/01/2023 08:35

It's become a power struggle now. He's found a chink in your parenting, ie if he hangs on long enough at night he gets what he wants because you are tired.

I think you need to be firm for a few days as per previous post. He needs a very consistent message which I am sure you are trying but it's easier to bend when so tired.

I'd consider a sleep consultant consultation- not that they will tell you anything you don't know but they will help you with a framework for tackling it and if you pay provide the support to you to keep you on track .

Caspianberg · 10/01/2023 12:27

@Remona - that 100% doesn’t work for all children.
When we tried back to bed repeatedly with our 2 year old, within 15 mins he had been put back 22 times, then vomited, and had a panic attack.
A bed guard won’t stop a toddler, up and over in 2 seconds

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