Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

[pinkgin1]

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

@Timeturnerplease cannot imagine how hard that must be for you! Having 2 LO's sounds so so hard!! I have so much admiration for you Mumma's of multiple's!! We are here to support one another so at least we don't feel alone 💕

having a terrible night he just seems to be getting worse, we've been up every hour and sometimes more again, and I'm dreading 5am cos that's when he screams to get up any advice on how to keep him upstairs and sleeping in later?

Ah @Timeturnerplease that sounds so tough and frustrating for you. I was also internally smug before this regression as from about 6 weeks DD was sleeping 10 hours overnight with just one wakeup. It was absolute bliss! Fingers crossed we can all get through this and get a decent sleep pattern again.

So DD finally fell asleep at 9 after a bit of a battle and then woke at 11. I braced myself for a shit night but we decided DH would give her a bottle and she went back down again until 4 hurrah. 4 hours seems like a win. I didn't massively want to do formula overnight as HV said it could mess with my supply but fuck it we both needed the rest.

@ayylauren ahh that's so frustrating poor you. Its just the most deflating feeling as morning approaches

@StickyStickyStickStickSong hope your LO starts feeling better soon!! It's so awful when we can't help them poor things 

@Timeturnerplease @jmj90 I agree, I can't imagine how hard it is with more than one small person to look after!!

Well, I’d expected an awful night as she woke up 5 times between 7.15-11pm. Ended up feeding her at 11pm to get her back down and thought she’d be up again at midnight. At 3.30am she hadn’t woken but my 2.5 year old did and baby ended up going until 5am at which point I brought her into bed with me.
Her first nap though this morning, christ! Absolutely going mental even when held. Tried to get her in her cot and it took 30 mins, she slept in there for 1 minute and woke up screaming. So I’ve decided to abandon cot naps with her on weekends as we can’t just expect our son to stay in all day so she can sleep in a cot, she’ll have to nap as and when she can. There’s just no time when you have two 🤦‍♀️

@LCF2021 can she do extra naps in the carrier while you go out and about with your eldest? My DD actually does her best napping in there, unfortunately for my back...

@JammyRedRooo Yeah, she’s always in the carrier asleep. It’s the only way she could nap this morning but sadly my son’s tantrum woke her up after 30 mins.

@Timeturnerplease I know it's easier said than done but try your best not to stress too much about it, you will look back and forget how hard it currently is. You are an amazing mum and you know what you need to do, we will be here to support you on this forum.

My husband woke up today after experiencing a typical night of him taking a few times to settle between 4-6am and he was like... How do you do it? I think I woke up 50 times yesterday 😹😹😹😹

Thanks all, we took DD1 ice skating today (blimey that’s exhausting with a kamikaze just turned 3yo!) and so DD2’s lunchtime feed fell while we were out. Poor DP was so embarrassed trying to feed her in the cafe while she was wriggling and milk refusing. He’s also on duty this evening while I go out for dinner with friends so he’s praying she doesn’t have her first wake up until I get home.

I feel for all of you with the nap issues, especially if it’s your first. I honestly just assumed babies would sleep when they were tired before I had my own, and it’s such a shock having to spend your days forcing a nap! For those struggling, DD1 screamed at the top of her voice before every single nap she took until she started dropping them at 18 months. She was legendary at nursery for being a nap refuser, to the point where they bought a buggy and Snoozeshade like we use at home so they could keep her from disturbing the other babies 😂 All of this drama and honestly, she’s been the easiest 2/3 year old ever.

It does get better I promise - IME the overtired issue starts to fade as they get closer to 1, and it’s not so much of an issue if they refuse a nap. You then don’t have to spend your time doing nap maths and suddenly realise that you can go out all day without chaos ensuing!

Hoping the silence on this thread means everyone and their little ones are sound asleep!

I'm up cuddling MiniJammy and just read something on KellyMom that I thought was quite interesting. Has anyone noticed that their LOs are feeding a lot less during the day (especially if BF) at the moment because they are trying to look around at everything? I definitely have, I commented on it to my husband yesterday that I feel like I hardly feed her at the moment. It's apparently very common for 4 month olds to be easily distracted while feeding at their age and consequently not get enough milk during the day, leading to increased night wakings. Solution is to feed them more often in a dark room with no distractions during the day... sounds boring but going to give it a go!

@JammyRedRooo I wish!! Been up lots again tonight for big chunks of time, definitely spent way more time awake than asleep

Yes I've noticed this too! It's hard because I feed DS on demand we don't have a set schedule but I'm trying to get more in during the day. At night though I think it's more comfort for my LO bcos most of the time he falls back asleep very quickly. He won't take dummy or bottle which makes it really tough

Hello!

No sadly mine has been up since 3am. He did do 12-3 thank goodnesd. He looks like he might feed to sleep now. Although he does have a big fistful of my hair which I'll need to untangle.

I've just heard my partner get up to go to the loo. Feel really sorry for him as we're taking turns to sit with the boy, but partner struggles to get back to sleep when it's not his turn. Whereas I'm asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.

Son is 4.5m and also v distracted, popping on and off constantly during feeds. I also feel like he takes enough to stop feeling hungry and then won't have more, whereas he used to keep going until the milk was coming back out haha!

Might try the dark room idea too then 🙂

Right he's asleep... Do I let him sleep on me or put him in the pram? Argh!

Oh also what does everyone do about letting their babies sleep on their sides?

A chunk of tonight was spent holding LO's hand and patting his back as he was rolled onto his side facing me. He'd fall asleep, but wake up if I tried to roll him onto his back. Not sure that it's ok to leave him on his side?

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet mine is the same, could feed him to sleep and it was simple, now he does seem to take himself off sometimes like he's not feeling it

@JammyRedRooo silence as all my energy was spent trying to pat his ass back to sleep yday. Every hour since 1am yday, and between 4-5 I was up every ten minutes, as he was about to drift into deep sleep he rolls or moves about waking himself up 🤦 loooong day ahead of me

Made my sons bedtime a bit later. Slept from 10 till 4 then 4 till 8:40

@pinkgin1 sounds like a far-away dream 🥺 did you change anything apart from that?

Oh my gosh mine has never slept that late!

Going crazy!! Think it might be the beginning of a the 4 month regression. Otherwise it might be just a very unlucky night for me. Took bubba up for his usual bedtime - 7.45pm. Usually he's out for 8.30...sometimes he'll wake up after half an hour to feed again and then go sleep quite quickly. So wasnt surprised when he woke up again at just before 9ish. But since then he hasn't slept...put him down twice and his eyes just flipped wide open. Hes like wide awake but wont let me leave him. Been trying to put him to sleep for nearly 3 hours now!!.. im losing it..im totally losing my mind

@MamaThr3

Going crazy!! Think it might be the beginning of a the 4 month regression. Otherwise it might be just a very unlucky night for me. Took bubba up for his usual bedtime - 7.45pm. Usually he's out for 8.30...sometimes he'll wake up after half an hour to feed again and then go sleep quite quickly. So wasnt surprised when he woke up again at just before 9ish. But since then he hasn't slept...put him down twice and his eyes just flipped wide open. Hes like wide awake but wont let me leave him. Been trying to put him to sleep for nearly 3 hours now!!.. im losing it..im totally losing my mind

By the way I'm abroad so there's a 3 hour time difference if what I'm saying doesn't make sense according to the timestamp

@pinkgin1 that sounds like heaven I am extremely jealous, how long did it take for things to improve for you?

Midnight here...put him down and praying he's off for the night now

How has everyone’s day been? By some miracle today I put her down for her nap this morning fully expecting her to wake the minute she was in the cot or at most waking after 30-40 mins but she slept in her bed for 1.5 hours!! Other naps were in the carrier so I could get bits done.
She’s been in bed since 7.15pm and I put her down asleep, she’s had one little wake up but I got her to settle quickly. I’m about to go up to bed now to hopefully get some sleep before she wakes for a feed. It’s so unpredictable at the mo!

@MamaThr3 has he stayed asleep?

Yes thank God! He went to sleep at midnight (after having initially taken him for 7.45,pm!) And he has slept till now (4am). Hoping this was just a bad night...can't understand what caused it though??