Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

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Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

A horrendous night here. She went down at 7.45pm (that was a battle), woke up at 10.30pm and wouldn’t be settled without a feed. Up again at 2am for another feed then into our bed. Then again at 4am and again at 6am. Woke up at 7am for the day. Absolutely shattered.
I know she’s after comfort but she doesn’t need 4 feeds in a night surely? She feeds so much in the day, I’m offering it to her constantly. Feel so so drained and she doesn’t even take a bottle so my husband can’t take over a feed.

Up every 45 minutes again from 7pm here, he was in his cot all night and we were able to just shush and pat him back to sleep which was better than previous nights, getting a camp bed set up next to the cot to continue doing this tonight.

@LCF2021 growth spurt maybe? Milk is a comfort to them too. Sounds incredibly tough though.

Sending my sympathies to everyone really, we all had pretty rubbish nights but at least we are not alone. I just hope things improve before Christmas

Rough nights all round by the sounds of it 😓 I moved my LO into bed with me after the 3am feed and he just woke up now, which has certainly helped!! Especially as he has his jabs today, I really didn't want him overtired on top of that!

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet it used to bother me, but my husband is a police officer so he works two lates per week (home at 2am) and two nights per week (gone until 7am) as well as two day shifts. So tbh I got used to doing the nights alone anyway!! But it works better for us that he gets a full night sleep (when not working) so that he can help me more during the days xx

@jmj90 @Mytigerhasstripyfeet my husband also sleeps in the spare room, only because he's useless with broken sleep. I've ordered him back in with us next week as it is very lonely sleeping on my own and he's had it pretty good... Only thing is that the baby is moving out soon, so I've said we are splitting night duties down the middle from then on.

Yesterday was 3-2-1.5-1-1... which is an ok night for me now

@LCF2021 how old is your little one? Mine went through phases of rejecting the bottle, the amount of breastmilk that went down the drain still gives me nightmares today... We just persevered and he took it in the end, he had to be in a silent, dim room and at least 2 hours from his last feed. I also had to be away in a different room (I washed up). I'm not sure bottle feeding will sort out the current sleeping problems as he's not actually hungry, he just needs soothing so husband needs to work out how to do this at 3am

@JammyRedRooo sending you xxx

@Sneezymcsneezy She’s 4 months. We had the exact same with my son which is why I breastfed for 15 months as he refused milk any other way and I spent a fortune on every different bottle out there. I said this time round I’d do a bottle a day and of course I haven’t. I had a lot of issues with BF this time and I’d say it’s only gotten more comfortable in the last couple of weeks so I was reluctant to push a bottle until her latch felt better. I went for lunch last weekend with friends and left a bottle for her and she screamed the house down before eventually falling asleep and waited until I was home to feed. I’d just love my husband to be able to do a night feed or even one in the day so I could rest but I think I’ve got another bottle refuser on my hands. I’ll try her with a cup in a few weeks but my son rejected that too! 🙄

@LCF2021 Will you need to give bottle at some point in the future i.e. return to a workplace? I know so many mums whose baby just did not take to a bottle, I asked the consultant midwife at my hospital for advice and she said that the marketing by these bottle companies do an amazing job at preying on parent's fears, if they don't take a bottle they just don't, but it doesn't stop them from pressing their product onto desperate parents made to feel inadequate because their baby won't take one.

@Sneezymcsneezy No, I’m not going back to work until she’s 1 and I plan to only feed her until she’s 12 months at most. I’d just like the option of going to get my hair done or something, basically to be out of the house for more than 2 hours at a time. I know once she’s established on solids that gives me more time as from memory once my son got to about 8/9 months he only fed 4 times in the day and once at night. I just need to focus on reaching that sort of stage!

@LCF2021 @Sneezymcsneezy this is really helpful to read, my LO had a bedtime bottle with DP every night till he was 11 weeks and since then has rejected it every time we tried it would be so nice to have the option of someone else feeding him but I've accepted he just wants his mummy. I felt shit for him not taking one but this helps

So I was right that I had a cold coming - its here with full force today 🥴 Just when I thought I couldn't feel any worse! Cough, headache, body aches, chills, sore throat.. the bloody lot. And DD has got a little cough too

Luckily as DH is off work this week he's taken her for the morning so I've managed to catch up on some sleep rest and hes had some quality time with her so its win win. Luckily she takes a bottle, but now I'm lying here worrying if its affected my milk supply that I havent fed her since early this morning! This brain of mine just doesn't turn off with the worrying.

Sending and to all you ladies today sounds like no one had very much luck.

@ayylauren if he has taken one before I reckon he would take it again if you persevered, it takes a considerable amount of patience, but obviously only if you want to of course. My husband now does a bedtime bottle at night as daddy-son time, although baby gulps it down in 4 minutes usually soooo...

@JammyRedRooo awww noooo! Lots of lemon and honey and ginger tea for you ❤️❤️❤️ don't worry about milk supply, your body is amazing at adjusting so just do what you need to do at recovering

Disaster naps for us today. She’s refusing to even be transferred to her cot so I’ve been holding her all day. I just went upstairs to get a nap while my husband held her to sleep but she howled the minute I got into bed so I’m now back downstairs and feeding her hoping she’ll go back to sleep as there’s no time to fit 4 naps in now.
I’m really finding myself wishing the months away second time around. I don’t think I realised how much I don’t like the baby stage, give me a toddler any day! I’m sure that sounds bad to some!

@LCF2021 I would crack on with a three nap schedule, try and extend each waking as long as possible without baby going into meltdown to minimise how much you need to bring bedtime forwards!

I'm considering trying a dummy tonight.

I've read so many older 4 month regression threads and keep on seeing it recommended by a poster who is a sleep consultant.

Has anyone else tried this? My baby seems to love to comfort suck but I'm worried that il end up having to keep putting it back in all night. Is it just another bad sleep association?

@JammyRedRooo I've always used a dummy since LO was born. Always soothes him when he needs it.

We had his jabs this morning. All was well until he woke from his nap at half 4 and was inconsolable just like when he had Men B at 8 weeks 😓 Calpol and feeding has helped and we have had smiles and a play. But because of the fever we can't do our. normal bath/massage/bed routine so I'm expecting a rough night!! Just breastfeeding him to sleep now but not sure how long he will stay down for!

One to get you all through the night.. https://www.instagram.com/reel/CWaq4agqDM/?utmmmedium=copylink

Aw @jmj90 that's just what you didn't need 😣 We have ours next week too.

Hope at least a few of us get a good night tonight. Don't think it will be me if I'm honest

@jmj90

One to get you all through the night.. [[https://www.instagram.com/reel/CW]]aq4agqDM/?utmmmedium=copylink

That brought a tear to my eye

@JammyRedRooo

Aw *@jmj90* that's just what you didn't need 😣 We have ours next week too.

Hope at least a few of us get a good night tonight. Don't think it will be me if I'm honest

I'm sure I'll be up! We can have a midnight discussion lol xx

I've not posted for a few days. Took DS to GP as his cough just got worse and he had a temperature hovering around 38 all day yesterday and today too. Turns out he has bronchilitus, apparently it's a very common respiratory virus in babies. It's NOT nice 😢 I feel helpless. Doc has told me to expect him to be poorly for another week yet and he can have the cough for 3 weeks! He just has to naturally fight it off 🥺😩
Thankfully it's not affecting his sleep as much as I thought it would be wakes himself up coughing but then is easy to settle again. But he is in with me, I'm not putting him in his room til he's picked up a bit. Poor babba!

Oh no sorry to hear that @StickyStickyStickStickSong. Wishing your little one a speedy recovery xx

Oh no! @StickyStickyStickStickSong he's a strong boy and will get better soon xxx

Thank you 😘😘😘 me too 🤞 xxxx

Solidarity here ladies - 18 week old DD is my second and currently in the thick of regression. DD1 was such a crappy sleeper that I never noticed any regressions (she still wakes us up a few nights a week at just turned 3 because of nightmares) and thus was very smug about my good sleeper this time around. HA. Pride before a fall and all that.

DD2 has a very limited milk intake for reasons as yet undiscovered by the medical profession - only about 15oz per day when she should be on at least 25oz - and thus has faltering growth, so I’m grateful for a few wakes to get milk in her but honestly. Up every 90 minutes for FOUR MOUTHFULS of milk seems like a waste of everyone’s time.

We are now reluctantly co sleeping from around 4am and DP has been evicted to the sofa. When I say co sleeping, I mean I have to lay on my side with her in the crook of. Y arm facing me. So essentially I’m a human pillow. Luckily she goes to bed at 6pm, as her sister wakes us all up at 6am so no hope of a lie in.

Thanks for setting this thread up, it’s nice to read to know I’m not the only one awake at all hours!

Oh no @StickyStickyStickStickSong !! So sorry to hear that your little man is unwell, wishing him a speedy recovery and sending love your way 💕

Also just wanted to say how refreshing it is to be in such a positive thread on here! So many of them are full of nasty people!!

I'm currently awake even though LO is still sleeping because I'm on high alert after his jabs 😣