Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

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Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

Hey @LCF2021 We're up too and trying to feed back to sleep after a nappy explosion (the joys of weaning!) How are you doing? Sounds like a rough night. Hoping you're back to sleep now so not reading this!

Hi guys sorry I've been quiet then last few days.

Just wanted to say that LO has had 4 good nights in a row. As in, only waking twice between 10pm-6/7am to be fed. He tends to wake at 1am and 4am but has been going back to bed within half an hour each time.

🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

We haven't changed anything. Oh my god I hope this continues. Will keep updating if he does.

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet that sounds amazing! Hope it stays that way.

Last night was really hard, I think I’ve hit breaking point. She was awake every hour again from 11pm, I fed her 7 times! But that doesn’t keep her asleep anymore. She won’t be settled any other way but no my magic settle of feeding doesn’t work. I’m going to get in touch with some sleep consultants to see if they’ll work with younger babies as I can’t keep this up until she’s 6 months before starting sleep training. It’s been going on for nearly 6 weeks now and enough is enough.

@LCF2021 oh nooo that sounds like a tough night I feel for you!
How old is your LO? X

@StickyStickyStickStickSong She’ll be 5 months next week so I know she’s still really young but I honestly can’t handle any more nights like we’re having, especially with a toddler too.

@LCF2021 that's awful, when you're in the thick of it it really breaks you. I was holding my baby standing upright for 2 hours yday then husband took over, he refused to be put in his bed. 3-6am last night 🥲🥲🥲 we will look to sleep Train when he gets to 9 months with no progress

@Mytigerhasstripyfeet same on this end, 5 nights in and he's sleeping (mostly) 3 hour chunks. Isn't perfect but he's quite a big boy now and think he just prefers frequent feeds.

I'm still following the thread it just feels odd to report good news while some of you are having a rough time I'm still not convinced he's over his rough patch though because I think as soon as I relax he'll start again

@ayylauren good to hear some positivity!

Tonight is the first night I decided not to feed her to sleep. I fed her before the bath and settled her in her cot. It only took 15 mins although I don’t think she’ll last long, likely wake after a sleep cycle. I’m actually about to go to bed now to try and get a couple of hours sleep before the first proper wake up x

Been up since 9pm- she woke up the second my head hit the pillow :'( she initially fell asleep at 7.45 and I was thrilled, thinking maybe we are getting back to normal. Oh how wrong I was. I could cry from how much I just want to sleep.

@JimHalpertsPA Oh, I feel for you. Hope you’re ok.
She’s so far slept from 7.30-9.30pm, up again 11pm, at midnight (fed), up again at 1.50am where I’ve spent almost an hour trying to settle her back down without feeding and now I’ve given in and feeding. I know after this she’ll be up again at about 4ish and the cycle will continue.
I’d been really looking forward to Christmas this year but now I feel like I’ll be a zombie with no personality as I’m so exhausted.

@lcf2021 Ahh bless you, that is rough! The fatigue from sleep deprivation is just something else, isn't it? :(

Oh and she finally ended up going down at 1.15 (yes, one bloody fifteen) after playing with some pots and pans and babbling at me (can't fault the cuteness, I admit) for ages. I don't know how much longer this can go on...

@JimHalpertsPA that sounds really rough! I was doing a bedtime routine at an aspirational time (7.30ish) but the past two nights I've kept her busy and done quite excitable play until I do bath or massage at 9.30. Then I have gone to bed with her at 10.15ish, feed to sleep which takes around half an hour, then just feed/sleep through the night. The aim to get her down earlier was just stressing me out so I've given up lol.

@LCF2021 I think we might have the same babies, an awful night that started at 9.30pm, I was going to leave husband to deal with baby until 1am, husband comes in at 10.15 saying baby has been inconsolable for 30 mins, I walk in and immediately baby stops crying in anticipation of boob 😭, had 2 hours of pick up and put down only for him to wake after ten minutes each time. Going to try dummy to see if this will help

@Sneezymcsneezy I find the dummy does definitely help her to settle but she always pulls it out so quickly so sometimes I think it’s a hindrance. I think we’re going to move her into her own room when she’s just over 5 months (I know you’re not meant to but need to try something)

How long do you LO’s nap for in total? I’m finding it makes zero impact on the nights for us. She generally does between 3-3.5 hours but I’ve seen some say on MN that we should be aiming for closer to 5 hours at 4.5 months which seems insane to me! Ultimately we have a settling issue in that she needs feeding to be settled so I think until we properly address that we won’t see any improvements.

Between 2-2.5 hours normally! And yes 0 impact if he sleeps more!

Varies so massively I couldn't even tell you, some days 3.5hrs+, others as little as an hour and a half. And yep no difference to nighttime sleep.

I’m glad it’s not just mine then! There’s so much bandied around about overtiredness and I feel like it’s a way to make parents feel anxious and like they’re failing. I definitely felt that first time around and used overtiredness as an excuse for so long

Yeah I stopped reading a lot of advice about sleep when my DD often stayed happily awake for 4 hours then only napped for half an hour before being awake for another 3 when she was around 7 weeks old. All the books said she should only be able to stay awake 90 minutes max, unfortunately she hadn't read them!

I'm on a Facebook page where an approach called Possums gets mentioned a lot, it's a paid for program but from what I've gathered you have a set wake up time but no set bedtime and essentially assume that tired signs are bored signs and just keep entertaining them until they konk out ,😆

DS fell asleep in my arms after his bed time bottle at 7:30 I laid him in his cot around 8:00 and started wrapping presents.
8:15pm waaaaaahhhhhh waaaaahhhhhh
Tried to leave him although it breaks my heart, in the hope he would just settle after a bit.
8:25ish in with me on the bed whilst I'm wrapping and he was smiling laughing and bouncing around so happy.
9:55pm still awake and happy..... nearing my bedtime now 😴
I think I've come to the conclusion he runs rings around me and he will just sleep with me forever 😂

@StickyStickyStickStickSong do you reckon he's treating it at a nap 🥺

@Sneezy I don't know anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️ I thought he was down to 2 naps a day now (he tends to be awake 4 hours and then takes an hour nap)
Ive woke at 3:45pm so it might actually be?!
He's getting tired again now. Don't know wether to put him in there again or just give up and leave him with me.
I know if he's in his room I'll be up hourly to settle him, if he's in with me he will sleep right through with no wakings til morning.
It's a tough one because I know I need to get him used to being in there but I also need sleep 😴😴😴

I meant he woke at 3:45*

I did it 🤭😬 he's in there