Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

[pinkgin1]

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

@Sneezymcsneezy oh no really hope you and your family get well soon 

@LCF2021 that really sounds rough wishing you luck for tonight

My DS sleep has gone to shit 😩 I don't know where I'm going wrong I thought maybe the 7 month sleep regression along with cutting his first teeth at 7 months, then put him in his own room which seemed to go ok for a bit, then the bronchilitus hit so had him in with me, now he's better I tried him back in own room and it's been awful. A few nights ago he woke and was screaming and when I went in to him he was crying screaming kicking and seemed genuinely terrified, it was horrible never seen him like that before so I thought maybe he'd had a nightmare?? But since then he will not sleep in there at all
Doesn't help I'm superstitious either 😕

So he's back in sleeping like a log with me and DH in spare room 🤦🏼‍♀️
Oh dear

Anyone up?

How are you all ladies?
I think we had a bit of a fluke last night but DD slept from 7.30pm-12.45am, fed, up again at 4am and then woke me up at 6.15am with a huge 💩 Managed to feed her back to sleep until 7am. I actually feel human today and making the effort to go to the gym for the first time in 2 weeks. Hope you all had OK nights x

Yesterday mine woke up from his nap at 1:30pm and then do you think he would go back down again for the rest of the day? Nope.
So I did his usual bath and bedtime routine and gave him his bottle at 7:30pm which he fell asleep on so I thought he was done for the night and I started wrapping. Nope. He woke up at 8:30pm crying and screaming in his cot so I got him out and then he didn't go back down again til 11pm 😩 will NOT go in his cot so had him in with me. He sleeps fine with me, we woke up for the day at 7:50am
It's just all gone tits up with naps and sleeping in his room I don't know what's going on. Will still keep trying in the hope that one day something will click and he'll just sleep in there fine 🤞🤞

@LCF2021 Gym!?! Omg couldn't think of anything worse 😂 fair play to you !

@LCF2021 how lovely glad you finally got some rest!

@StickyStickyStickStickSong all you can do is try, and remember it won't last forever . We've had 4 nights in a row of mostly 2-3 hour blocks so feeling much better about it. We are nowhere near "sleeping through" but this is a massive improvement on waking every 30mins to an hour

@StickyStickyStickStickSong It makes me feel a lot more energised afterwards. I just haven’t had any energy to actually get there for a while.
It sounds tough with your LO not wanting to be in his room. I guess just keep trying. Can you maybe give him some toys to play with in his cot in there so he makes some more positive associations with the room itself?

Hey ladies, @ayylauren and @LCF2021 so pleased to hear you're getting some better nights! @StickyStickyStickStickSong I think that's all you can do...just keep going and hope something clicks. We had our worst night yet...LO would not sleep for more than 30 mins at a time all night...by 4am I was feeling completely broken from all the rocking and feeding (and felt so frustrated at her which made me feel like a bad mama)....DH sent me off to another room to get some sleep and lo and behold she went to sleep on the bed with him for 3 hours!! I literally cannot figure out this child

@LCF2021 also very impressed with the gym going! You're superwoman!

@Sleepymama285 I won’t get too excited just yet as I suspect it was very much just luck. The only thing that happened differently yesterday
was that she only did a 15 minute cat nap for her 3rd nap and two hours later she went down to bed but didn’t wake when I transferred her fast asleep. I could probably do the exact same today and we’ll have an awful night 🤷‍♀️
Sorry to hear about your night. Can you get any rest today at all? Even just lazing on the sofa watching tv for 20 mins if your little one is happy to have a little play on a mat on the floor?

@Sleepymama285 Also don’t feel guilty for getting frustrated, you’re only human. I must admit that now I have two kiddos I have even less patience than before purely because I have so much less energy, it’s really tough sometimes.

@LCF2021 Thank you, really appreciate the reply and moral support! Feeling a bit better now and have got a bit of perspective back after the shocker of a night! I'm wondering if she's teething as she doesn't really seem content anywhere at the minute, even after food/sleep.

I know what you mean, you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out the reasons behind a good or bad night!

My sons got a cold. Been in my arms from half 9 , doesn't want to be put down anywhere , nose is blocked I think that's what is annoying him. Will buy some sterimar tomorrow for him. Ahhh I've already accepted I won't be sleeping tonight

@pinkgin1 it's so hard, this is my fourth night of really bad sleep and I'm at breaking point 😭 I find if I don't get to him quick enough he stays awake... Does anybody else have this problem??

@pinkgin1 sorry to hear, mine has a cold and a cough too, caught from her big brother.
@Sneezymcsneezy agree. Supposedly we should leave them a few mins to see if they can settle themselves back down but it often escalates into screaming in that time and it’s so much harder to comfort her.

@Sneezymcsneezy yes I find as soon as I hear him I have to run to him and put him dummy in and he immediately settles, otherwise his moaning turns to crying and he wakes up.

@pinkgin1 sorry to hear LO is full of cold we've just got over it in our house, there's a lot going about. I put saline solution up DS nose before bed and sometimes had to use the snot sucker. DH bought a Vicks humidifier which was helpful aswell and I just put snuffle babe on him

@LCF2021 @StickyStickyStickStickSong it's so unhelpful when everywhere tells you to see if they will fall back to sleep on their own 🤦🏻‍♀️ I am getting more and more resentful of my husband getting his 8-10 hours in the last few days, I know he has it worse with COVID but my sleep debt is so massive right now, I might have to get him to do it a few days himself as he has no idea how to do nights himself...

@Sneezymcsneezy yep, it's not worth the hassle of trying to let my DD settle. Had a bad night last night where I think DD managed 45 minutes max at a time without a nipple in her mouth. I managed to doze through some of it but feel like the bags under my eyes have been filled with rocks.

@EdithGrantham very good description of how I feel, alongside with a brick on top of my head pressing down. If someone tells me to nap I'm going to bloody snap too, I just want a uninterrupted 6 hours sleep during the night 😭😭 very teary today, trying to hold it together as I can't bow to weakness, it sounds silly I know 🥲

@Sneezymcsneezy aww babe sounds like you're having a tough week. I feel for you

If it's any consolation my DH hasn't done a night with him, he just can't function without sleep. When I first had DS he said a couple times I'll do tonight you get a good night sleep, I remember waking up around 1/2am to express and I went into him just to check and he was like a zombie ahhh I don't know how you do this I can't do this man.... and I took over both times.
That feels like forever ago now 🙄

We just get on with it don't we us women.
Whenever DS stirs before our bedtime I nip in and put dummy in and shhhh him to sleep with some gentle bum taps, if I happen to be busy and DH goes in, he picks him up and sits with him with Cocomelon on or something and I'm like grrrrrr ffs he's fully awake now
They don't have a clue do they! 😂😂

@Sneezymcsneezy have you tried co sleeping with her and kick DH out to spare room or sofa?
I know it's not ideal but it works for me and if it means you'll get a decent block of sleep just do it for a couple nights to recharge xx

@StickyStickyStickStickSong cocomelon 😹😹😹 no they don't have a clue, at least mine doesn't realise that having a wrestling match and tickles at bedtime is just not the one! Husband has offered half heartedly so I'm going to make him do it, I know I'll take over at 3 but I want him to try, him saying I have two boobs isn't gonna cut it this time! And yes tried co-sleeping, it used to work but now he's rolling it not working out, I've tried it a few times already, husband has slept in the spare room for 6 months already!! So he's also said to share the nights, we will start when baby is moved to the other room!

My DH does try his best and I’ve left DD with him a few times to put down for a nap with mixed results. Having said that she doesn’t necessarily nap for me either. I’m currently sat with her asleep on me after waking up crying in her cot after 20 mins. What’s everyone’s strategies over Christmas? I’m going to take the carrier with me to try and get her to nap but I’m not sure she’ll do contact naps in a busy room full of family, especially with two 2 year olds. Really don’t fancy sitting in a room on my own for an hour so she can sleep.

@LCF2021 I'm going to just excuse myself during baby's naptimes, it's the first grandchild so we will start and stop lunch as and when I put him down for his naps, which are thankfully quite predictable now. Also helps mum bought a high chair for him so he will join us when he's awake!

Anyone else up? Struggling here tonight. I haven’t slept for more than 30 mins at a time and feeding is the only way she’ll go back to sleep tonight.