Sleep regression. Anyone else want to join!? Sleepless mums!

[pinkgin1]

Currently going through what I believe could be a four month sleep regression? For ages my son slept really well didn't wake up in the night and if he did it was for one bottle then slept. Most nights slept 9:30pm till about 8am next day.
Has alllllllllll gone out the window the past week 🤣 I always knew the good sleep wouldn't last long and I appreciated it when it did but it's kinda making me feel extremely tired now including my partner🥱
How long does it last?? Will it go on for months?? Will I ever have a 8-8 again? 😥😥🤣
The strange thing is if he wakes up. As soon as I place him onto my bed and pillow he sleeps. So if it was a sleep regression surely he would wake also in my bed?

Woke up at 12:45 just moaning a bit so I put dummy in and shhhhushed and patted him for a minute and he went back off. Woke up at 2:41 crying and unsettleable so came in with me, then slept through without waking til 7:30am. Not as bad as I thought 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sounds fairly positive then @StickyStickyStickStickSong!

We had another rough one but it was largely due to the fact that she desperately wants to sleep on her front but when rolling over in the next to me she gets stuck and doesn’t have the room to get comfy so starts kicking off. This morning I put her down for a nap in what will be her big cot (currently her big brother’s bed) and she went off in 5 mins. Rolled straight over on her tummy, wriggled a bit to get comfy and off she went 🤷‍♀️ Think it’s definitely time to move her

Lo slept amazing last night compared to all the past weeks
Went to bed 9pm woke 12:40am for a bottle went back to sleep straight away, slept till 4:35 had a bottle, then slept till 9:00am
No waking Inbetween those and straight back to sleep each time
I wishhhhh he does it again 🤣

In his cot too!

Hey everyone, sorry I've been a bit quiet on here I've been in a bit of a funk this past week - I think all the broken sleep as well as crap naps defeated me a bit but last night was a tad better and DH is home now until the new year to share the load.

Soo pleased to see some of you have had some good nights!! Its nice to know there is light at the end of the tunnel

Yayyyy @pinkgin1 sounds great!!
@JammyRedRooo just about to pour me a glass of that right now 🍷😝 hopefully with ur DH home it will help xx

@pinkgin1 excellent news that you’ve seen some improvement.
@JammyRedRooo Hope you’re OK. It’s incredibly wearing isn’t it when it’s been going on a while? Glad you’ve got some support now.

I’ve just come downstairs after an hour long screaming sesh with baby getting her to bed 🤦‍♀️ why do babies hate sleep? Why? And how do some people end up with magical babies who they can pop to bed and they get themselves off to sleep from the early days?

I'm so done. Cannot take this exhaustion any longer. It's not just the sleep but EXTREME separation anxiety which means even if DH takes her so I can catch a quick nap, all I can hear is her screaming endlessly. Aaaaaaarrrggghhhh

Hope you’re ok @JimHalpertsPA. I think there’s a big bout of separation anxiety that hits around 14-18 months. It did for my son around that time anyway and then again as soon as he turned 2. Lasted a few weeks both times. We just made sure we stayed consistent with our routines as best we could which did mean some crying from him but when we tried staying with him for hours at night it meant he came to expect it every single night.

@pinkgin1 so glad you've been getting some respite!

@JimHalpertsPA same here, as soon as he sees me prop up in the middle of the night after husband has tried to calm him for 30 mins he stops crying, it makes my husband so sad 🥺

I am a zombie today, a zombie

@JimHalpertsPA I’m sure you’ve tried these tips but Slumbertots has a useful post on Instagram re: separation anxiety
www.instagram.com/p/CXxqawosr5n/?utm_medium=copy_link

@StickyStickyStickStickSong
@LCF2021
@Sneezymcsneezy
He woke about four times last night. Still much better than 10! Slept three hours In between each wakening.
I hope this is a start to an improvement. White noise has definitely helped.

@pinkgin1 do you have it on all night? Gonna definitely use it when we do the move to his own room

@Sneezymcsneezy We use it all night for my son and his naps. DD doesn’t seem to respond as well to it but I don’t think he did at this age either. Now he’s got a screamy little sister it’s even more important to block it out. We use a machine that stays on all night called Avantek, got it from Amazon for about £25.

[quote pinkgin1]@StickyStickyStickStickSong
@LCF2021
@Sneezymcsneezy
He woke about four times last night. Still much better than 10! Slept three hours In between each wakening.
I hope this is a start to an improvement. White noise has definitely helped. [/quote]
Yeah same here woke about 4 times just unsettled and then settled when I put dummy in and patted a little thankfully

My DS sleep is all over the place at mo.
I'm literally not getting any downtime to myself at all really. His wake windows are now 4 hours between naps. And his naps are only 45mins long to an hour ish (which I do jobs: wash up, Hoover, mop and do wash loads etc when he's napping)
He's got into a habit this last week now where he has a late nap and it's driving me mad I don't know how to get him out of it.
He wakes around 7-8ish so then he's napping around 11-12, then 3-4, then 7-8pm!!! This means he's not down til 11pm he's currently lying on my bed while I finish wrapping he's squealing, laughing, bouncing around, kicking about and disabling my iPhone 😂 there's no sign of him sleeping yet 🙄 I need him to drop that late nap. Can't remember the last time I had a long soak in the bath before bed! ☹️ I'm just waiting for him to start rubbing his eyes so I can get him down..... waiting and waiting 😴

@StickyStickyStickStickSong do you reckon it's time to drop the 3rd nap???

@StickyStickyStickStickSong just re-read what you said! Have you tried dropping the third nap yet? Done a night time routine and keep everything chilled/dark?

@Sneezymcsneezy I don't know how to really 🤦🏼‍♀️ a couple weeks ago for about 4 nights on the trot he went down earlier than he used to (which was about 9pm usually) he went down about 7:30 and I thought GREAT!! But then he just started waking up after an hour and has done this for about a week now it's like he's just invented this late nap himself all of a sudden. He used to nap around every 2.5-3hrs during the day and his last one would be about 3:30pm then I'd give him his tea about 5/5:30ish, bath bottle and bed afterwards I just can't pin point what I'm doing any differently 🤷🏼‍♀️ the only thing I can think which has changed this past week or so is he's dropped a bottle so he's on 3 solid meals a day with a mid morning bottle and a bedtime bottle. He's dropped the bottle between lunch and dinner naturally himself. That's the only thing I can think of but I don't know how that affect his sleep? Unless it does somehow 🧐🤷🏼‍♀️

Tonight has been better. It's amazing what sleep deprivation does, isn't it? I was in such a horrible place yesterday and was totally exhausted. It's hard to remind myself that this won't last forever sometimes. Anyway today she went down at 9ish which is still late compared to her usual...but no random 3 hr wakings yet so I'll take it as a win. 2 wake ups so far which is a bloody record. I saw a molar popping through today so that might explain a lot of the last couple of weeks.

Absolute nightmare night. Has anyone else got a feed to sleep association that they cant break? I feel like I'm trapped in a relentless cycle. It was ok when she was only waking once or twice per night but now its constant and I have this constant sense of doom at night that keeps me from easily falling asleep between cycles. I'm irrationally angry at DH for not being able to help. She just screams and screams if we dare try anything else to get her to sleep and it makes me feel like a terrible mother so I give in and feed. And so the cycle continues. Doesn't help that I've got a nasty cough and sore throat so I'm stressed about potentially having covid over Christmas (waiting on PCR result). I dont know what to anymore.

@JammyRedRooo absolutely same situation, up from 12-3am yday, tried to get husband to get him to sleep at 1.30, he just yelled and yelled... And yelled, to the point where even he was like 'lets just let him cry'... Think he might come round to the idea that we need to consider sleep training... I fed him to sleep finally at 3 as he was too exhausted to not sleep, before that he just would not let me put him down in the cot, his eyes just pinged open every time!! Doesn't happen with naps so I wonder if it's an association development creeping in..

@JammyRedRooo and @Sneezymcsneezy I’m right there with you. We had another horrendous night and it’s all down to a breastfeeding association too. Naps have gone to shit today so I’m currently sitting with her asleep on me. Last night it took over an hour to get her down and she was screaming even with me soothing her then she was up every 1.5 hours from 1am-7am and boob is the only thing to settle her.
Feeding has become painful this week too as she’s started clamping down when she feeds. She’s got a cold (always does as my eldest gets them from nursery) so I wondered if it’s that. I can’t see any sign of teeth yet and I don’t remember this from last time. I’m at the point of wanting to stop breastfeeding but she won’t take a bottle at all so DH can’t even help at night. I’m not feeling very merry about Christmas at the moment.

@Sneezymcsneezy and @LCF2021 it's so bloody difficult to know what to do for the best.

I've considered stopping BFing too, she is combi fed anyway atm but BF only through the night due to ease and the fact that she doesn't go to sleep any other way. My friend has just stopped and her DS is sleeping so much better on formula.

DH has just taken her out in the carrier with the dog to try and get a long nap in (energetic spaniel that loves a lengthy walk!) but she was so overtired and cross when they left I'm sure he will come back and say she hasn't slept at all! Its such a vicious cycle.

I also think some sort of sleep training is our only option now..

@JammyRedRooo Helps to have a dog doesn’t it to have a reason to get out for a long walk and encourage a nap?! I’ve a Labrador cross so he’s more than happy to be out for as long as baby needs to sleep!
We’ll definitely be doing some sleep training once she’s in her room mid-Jan. I’m reluctant to try it before as I don’t want to have to do it again if she’s unsettled once she’s in a bigger bed and in her room.