Nearly 3 year old wakes up carrying on!

[Bluebell121]

My 2 nearly 3 year old goes to bed at 7pm she watches her dvd till 8 sometimes half 7 as she falls asleep! She doesn't have a nap due to her giving her dummy up herself before she turned 2 she wouldn't leave a nap without it after that , but on the odd occasion if she does fall asleep she can literally be asleep 10 mins and that's it she will be up until 12am! I don't let her nap for this reason as I have 1 other child who is 1 and has same routine but he does have a nap she literally gets up loads of times in the might crying and when I go in she throws herself about I give her a drink and take her to the toilet when it's back in time for bed she makes every excuse not to go back " I'm scared , I'm hungry , I want my tv on" I do not turn her tv on she has a night light projector on her ceiling and she has a special teddy that " keeps the monsters away theoretically " but even when she wakes up loads through the night you would think she would stay in bed and have a little longer sleep? NOPE she's up between 6-7 I no 7 isn't that early but sometimes it can be half 5 or if she wakes up crying she won't go back to sleep at all! It can be 3am! She has always been a fab sleeper as a baby and always had routine but it's only recently it's been wierd everyday this week it's be 5.48 bag on the dot every day I've been so freaked out from it she was at my bed bang on that time!

@JKScot4 becuase it's her okay rooom too so she plays in ther and watches CBeebies so she feels like no "monsters" will get her it makes her comfortable

Your child only plays in her room if a tv is on as she thinks there’s monsters?
I think you need a look at how things are being done, a young child shouldn’t be dependent on a tv or in fear of monsters, I’d be finding ways of making her enjoy her room or cut down the time she spends on her own in the room.

It’s normal for kids to have fears like monsters and CBeebies is comforting, the psychologists say not to overly reassure though, say monsters don’t exist and you will be ok, being scared is a normal feeling and it will be ok rather than x, y or z will protect you. There are lots of picture books on feeling scared to look at - may be a good idea to find some at the library as getting used to feeling a bit scared and it being ok is very useful for children.

We’ve had this too btw with fear of dark, wind, monsters, storms etc.

@JKScot4 I think your misreadingthis be ry dramatically she isn't on her own littler 10% of the time she is when I'm in the next room putting everyone's clothes away she absolutely loves been in her room and sometimes she likes laying down with her babies and watching cbeeboes why you making that out to be such a bad thing? There's people abusing and not looking after the children and people are having a go because I let my nearly 3 year old watch tv when she plays ?

OP you’re making things worse for yourself ... you sound so rude and attack everyone who comments. Everyone said in the beginning that a tv is bad for a bedtime routine yet you ranted at them like a loony. You’re doing the same now when someone says something you don’t like. Grow up, calm down, listen to the advice. Others are trying to help.

@Whattodo1610 I'm not attacking I'm been defensive for a reason people are telling me l I need to look how things are done like I'm doing something so wrong! This person has started this all over again as I have already took everyone's advice and stopped the tv on a might ?

@Bluebell121
I’m not misreading anything, you said she has to have Cbeebies on yo keep monsters away and now it’s only for minutes and she loves her room 🤔
No parent is perfect but we do admit we need help, you are very defensive and angry. No 3 yr old needs a 43” tv at all, from what you’ve said she’s quite reliant on it, high screen usage has direct links to many behavioural and developmental issues, I’d be taking it out her room, no idea why anyone would think to put it in a toddlers room 🙄

Op’s done a good job to take night time tv away. I don’t know many people with small kids that don’t have tv on for parts of the day for rest periods. It’s hard to change anything with children’s routines when you know in the short run it’ll make things worse before they get better.

What time does your heating turn on? Or have you a neighbour who goes to work at 10 to 5? In just thinking maybe something is waking her at that time!

If you won’t listen to us telling you a tv in your child’s bedroom is a bad idea and the reasons why, google it and come back with a link that says it’s a great idea and will help your child sleep.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/3831609-TVs-in-kids-bedrooms

@Ballygowenwater hiya the hearings on till 12 then turns on a low so it's on all night and then goes high at 5-6 so it's warm for when everyone wakes up for school she's always warm as she has a winter quilt , also we have no neigbours atm we haven't for 8 month there supposed to be new one moving in next month hun but we are the end house so we will only have 1 neibours and my daughters bedroom is on the end house part where there's no neighbors

Well done OP
I'm impressed you took on board all the advice given.

@ZoeandChandon no I am listening and very greatful I have stopped it on a night time Shes getting used to it abit still cries but she's getting better , I never new it was a bad idea till now I understand she doesn't really watch it through the day as I mainly get bouncy castle in the living room and they have loads of role playing toys " kitchen" supermarkets " ice cream truck so they play a lot downstairs with me and there dad only times she really goes upstairs with with her older brother or in her bedroom to play with her baby's or doll house and I'm in the next room cleaning all upstairs she doesn't always have the tv on sometimes she just likes to watch CBeebies to sing and dance with them x

@littleduckeggblue thank you!

Sorry I meant the sound of the heating clicking on rather then heat levels

Sounds like things are improving over the last couple of nights, OP. I definitely think no TV in evenings, quiet play and an extra story is the way forward. Keep going with it for a couple of weeks as it might take her some time to get used to her new routine

@Moonshine160 hey! Thankyou I'm much happier for the advice now! I was only just about to write to you all then it's night 3 and tonight we went to bed with NO CRYING!!!!😮🤭 she wanted 5 stories tonight which I was happy to lay and read her them I have a lovely bond with her but I love reading with her as she goes and gets her books and gets all snuggly and warm and lays down she's super excited for pancake day!

That's great! Keep it up.

Great work OP! She will really thank you for reading to her when she’s older.

update cannot thank you guys enough my daughter woke up once last night at 9 she was angry and had to tell her a few good stories to get her back to sleep but she went back to sleep and stayed asleep!

The blue light emitted from tv is proven to have a detrimental effect on sleep. Nobody is having a go at you, just trying to help.. it’s really not good for anyone to sit in front of a tv or phone screen before they sleep but is especially bad for children..
I’m sorry that you feel you’re being vilified, as parents we all try our best and nobody is here to judge. But if you don’t want to hear actual solid advice then don’t post.....

glad to hear things are going well!

My son (almost nearly three) has only just started sleeping.
He sounds like your daughter, he can literally fall asleep for less than 1 minute and he up 3 or 4 hours later as a result. It’s crazy.

I think with him it was a anxiety type thing, he needed a little more security of a night. We got him a little tent type done that does over his bed of a night and a scented comforter. They helped him massively!
He has even said that he woke up in the night, felt scared but he could smell his unicorn (yes he picked a unicorn out of about 8 different animals haha) and he felt okay again and went back to sleep.

I also totally changed his routine, I stopped giving supper (he used to have toast) and cut it down to me a bedtime snack. Usually a banana but could also be a yogurt. I stopped bathing every night, I thought it would help him sleep but it was definitely doing the opposite. He gets a bath every few days now and just a full body wash in between, i plan on trying to reintroduce nightly baths when he starts nursery in September but for now whatever works.
I used to read him 3 stories and light out, he would scream. Now we do 2 stories and I have an app called Moshi sleep. It’s a paid subscription but I cannot reccomend it enough! It’s plays calming stories or sleep sounds which calm him massively an he’s asleep in less than 5 minutes most nights.

@WingingItWithTwo hey Hun! I've had no tv since this post we read a lot of stories then I have like a projector that shines stars on the ceiling and around the room , my son falls asleep with the sound of a fan and that's it but my daughter she's having abit of a change in behaviour atm and I'm struggling abit with it I'm trying all sorts of things to keep her asleep xx