10wk old baby sleeping alone?

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Our DD has cracked sleeping (for now) and regularly gives us 7hour chunks of rest at night. Which is AMAZING except she sleeps so loudly that even though she's down from midnight to 7am, I'm still only getting half an hour here or there. It's unsustainable and i want to move her from our room into the nursery. I know NHS guidelines say 6 months but i don't think I can keep this up for long. She sleeps on her back and has no SIDS risk factors, we have monitors and the nursery is next door to our room and nice and cool, i really want to start putting her down in there... any advice?

I wouldn’t. Can you take turns with your DP to sleep in a room with her.

Massive SIDS risk still, there’s a reason the NHS says 6 months. Babies aren’t meant to be that far away from their parents either, you may well find she doesn’t sleep so well not near you

I used to wear earplugs in bed, as DD was a noisy sleeper too. I would hear her if she cried or was unsettled, but would sleep through her general noises!

Nope. SIDS risks aren't too great for me to consider it

SIDS risks are too great... 🤦🏻‍♀️

Babies regulate their breathing by yours. SIDS is increased in a separate room because they can’t hear you.

I’d get some earplugs. You’ll still hear if baby wakes up and needs you.

I put my DS next door at 2 weeks because he snored like an old man and I was broken. We bought an angel monitor to check his breathing and a video monitor so I could see him. Small house so next door was only a couple of metres away but far enough even with both doors ajar, that I could sleep.

Around 230 babies die of SIDS each year. (According to Lullaby Trust).

Just over 730,000 babies were born in the UK in 2018 (according to ONS).

Proportion of babies who died from SIDS was therefore 0.032%.

I felt like this. My DH slept through it so I’d sleep in the spare room and DH stayed with the baby.

Babies regulate their breathing by yours.

Is this really true? Don't babies need to breathe much more often than adults?

Ours went in own room from couple of weeks old with a monitor. I wasn't on MN at the time and didn't realise it was such a big deal! Both slept 7-7 from few weeks old & settled themselves. I think they found it easier in a nice cosy small room in a nice cot rather next to our bed in Moses basket.
I would think SIDS risk is higher when co sleeping or when parent is so exhausted they drop off to sleep on sofa with baby but sure someone on here will say that's nonsense....

Wow
I had my children in early 90 s and so I didn't know about this 6 month thing....
I was the same ..every little sniffle or sound they made I was wide awake...I'd have been exhausted if I'd kept them in with us for six months this....they went into their own room with basic sound monitor from around 6 weeks !!!
Times Change as does advice I guess !!!

We put DS in his own room at 20 weeks as I went back to work at 12 weeks and needed to make sure he was happy in his room. We had a to mee tippee monitor with a breathing monitor mat. This meant that if he stopped breathing an alarm would go off. This stopped me from worrying about him as much.

That should say 10 weeks not 20

I did because I couldn't sleep and I wasn't aware of the risks.

But I would try baby staying with your DH and you sleep elsewhere. Have a 2 way baby monitor so they can hear you...

DC3 is 10 weeks and can sleep up to 10 hours but sometimes I don't wake feeling refreshed which I guess is due to me semi consciously listening out for her. I have noticed her with her eyes open in the night looking to see if I'm still there so I personally wouldn't move her out yet. I also believe it's correct that they regulate their breathing with yours.

I've been in the same situation since day one. She's now 17 weeks but I'm still not going to move her into her own room until a few weeks and we live in an apartment so shed be a wall between us. I've just been putting her to bed with partner and he sleeps with her and then I get my head down in the spare room. You do what feels best but it just seems too small to go it on their own just yet

Babies regulate their breathing by yours. SIDS is increased in a separate room because they can’t hear you.

This is always stated as fact on MN. It's a theory. It is true that babies seem to be more at risk of SIDS if they sleep alone, but no one knows why, or even if it is a direct cause or just a correlation (are parents who put newborns in their own rooms more likely to be doing other things that raise SIDS risk? No one knows)

Your movement regulates their breathing.
There's no way I'd be forcing them to sleep alone at 10 years let alone 10 weeks.
Use white noise to drown it out or like pp said ear plugs or background noise, tv etc.

I wouldn’t.

Firstly, you need to read the facts. 3-4 months is the peak time for SIDS. A breathing monitor will let you know that your baby is dead, it won’t keep them breathing. My baby nearly died at 4 weeks and I had to give him CPR. If he hadn’t been right next to me and I hadn’t sensed something was wrong, he’d be dead, so for me it just isn’t worth it.

I think those of us that did put babies in their own room probably don’t dare admit it on Mumsnet, we did, our DS slept really well,7pm to 7am. It was probably just ‘luck’. We followed GF routine which is hugely unpopular on MN.

Bit odd to say that you wouldn’t let a 10 year old sleep alone? bastard. Perhaps you meant 10 months?

Same as Ragwort. My babies were GF routine babies and in their own room from about 5 weeks with a monitor. Otherwise I would never have got any sleep with all the noises newborns make and equally I was waking the baby every time I turned over, coughed, talked to my DH etc. My babies all slept through from about 10-12 weeks. I still think GF is brilliant.

@Ragwort I wouldn't force a 10 year old to sleep alone

I think the advice has changed a great deal - my parents and my inlaws were shocked (and horrified, i think) by the idea that DD was supposed to be in with us for 6 months - myself, my sister and my husband were all sleeping solo from day one and we're all still alive. The risk of SIDS is really low, less than 0.05% i think? Especially because she's female, a good weight, breastfed and living in a smoke-free home.

Also the whole "breathing regulation" thing isn't proven, there's no definitive science behind it, it's just an "association". We've got a monitor with a microphone and my husband breathes so loudly she could easily hear him over that regardless.

I'm inclined to think that this staunch adherence to 6 months is likely NHS arse-covering - new guidelines from them also suggest that you shouldn't swaddle your baby either, so now they can't recommend that at all even though it works really well. The advice changes literally every six months and is often contradictory, so it's very hard to know what to follow. I'm just going with my gut.