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Baby waking every 1/2 hours at 8 months

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lorza03 · 21/12/2019 06:25

My baby is 8 months - he’s a great little baby but since weaning at 6 months he has woke during the night prior to food he would sleep 9pm - 6am no my life has changed he will always fall to sleep about 7.30! Sleep until 9.30 the wake up and the it just carry’s on throughout the night, he doesn’t cry much just squirming and squishing . I have 2 other small children 4 and 2 up until know I’ve been holding it together but now I just feel like I want to shatter I am so mentally worn out from the constant waking. My husband works long hours and sometimes isn’t even home for nights , so I have no break or time to rest at all. I am definitely not finding the easy. Has any suggestions

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PatricksRum · 22/12/2019 21:55

@bellajay I don't care what other mums do. But saying babies do not need milk, only sleep at night and whatever other rubbish I will call out.

PatricksRum · 22/12/2019 21:56

@Snowflake9 What you do with your child I couldn't care. But your attitude towards biological normal infant sleep has truly shocked me.

PatricksRum · 22/12/2019 21:57

@SpaceDinosaur That's the way to do it Smile
18 months on and my lo still wakes frequently for boob but I hope she will get to where your lo is soon.

hoorayforharoldlloyd · 22/12/2019 22:03

My baby has never slept through the night, although up until 6 weeks ago was starting to do six hour stretches. Since then, he wakes around every 2 hours. I usually feed him to sleep again as it's exhausting. We have a one bedroom flat so he has to be in rhe same room.

Any tips/ideas?

We've been sharing the load differently, which is helping so am ready to try again with him after Christmas

PatricksRum · 22/12/2019 22:08

@hoorayforharoldlloyd how old is your DC?
Sleeping through is a developmental keep which involves self soothing. Unfortunately there's no way to rush it unless you force it (sleep training, cio, weaning) but there's ways to make it easier.

Snowflake9 · 22/12/2019 22:26

@PatricksRum FYI I never FORCED my DS to stop feeding at night. He chose not to wake for many nights without a feed. Therefore I don't feed him if he wakes now. He has a cuddle and goes back to sleep. Hardly worst mother of the year that you are making me out to be!

Sorry my child sleeps through. Don't praise other mothers but "call me out" for offering what works for me. OP can make their own mind up.

PatricksRum · 23/12/2019 02:42

@Snowflake9 I don't care what you do.
Sleep training, cry it out and night weaning are forcing a child to sleep through. If that doesn't apply to you I'm not sure why you're commenting to me again.

CatShapedCushion · 23/12/2019 03:28

Absolutely agree with sleep training...took me3nights of gentle touch on chest -no words..the first night DC woke probs6-7 times but by3rd night just a mild grumble at 2am ish&then good as gold..

whatswithtodaytoday · 23/12/2019 03:51

My child has also slept through and therefore was night weaned from around 12 weeks. If he wasn't waking I wasn't going to set an alarm and wake him myself! He did become unsettled when we started giving him food and woke for a few weeks, and he does have a few intolerances, but he's better now at 10 months. If he does cry in the night he usually just needs a cuddle and falls asleep on my shoulder within a few minutes... it would take me longer to make a bottle 🤷

GlamGiraffe · 23/12/2019 04:51

From experience older babies tend to wake up I'm the squirm stage you describe as their sleep cycles are immature and dont join up. We sleep with continuous cycles. I believe they wre having a series of short naps, waking up slightly to see what to do before carrying on. If a baby is crying it's clear there is a problem like hunger. If they are just unsettled I believe they might be seeing what happens now..is it getting ip time or do I stay here? I'll murmur and wriggle and see what happens. If you pick the baby up that answers the question for them. Ah, Iget up and am supposed to have a snack.
Out of interest foes your baby have a big feed. If baby is starving then perhaps the milk isnt filling enough and your life would be easier to give a bottle of 'hungry baby's formula? If it's a quick snack, hunger isnt the reason.

hoorayforharoldlloyd · 23/12/2019 05:40

Sorry, overtired, lack if info! Baby is 9 months and eats fairly well. He is mainly breastfed but also formula. I'd say his wake up at 9pm and usually one around 2/3 is for an actual feed, the others are comfort

Harmonica5 · 23/12/2019 06:04

@PatricksRum you seem to only praise ones who do as you do. Comments like that's the way to do it makes it seem as though you deem every thing else wrong. If it works for you then great. It obviously isn't working for OP who is exhausted.

You are very very rude and seem to go after one poster when many others have said the same.

@GlamGiraffe I agree with you and what you mean about a baby trying to figure out. Ours was like that.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 06:08

Sorry. Couldn't comment back at 2am. Baby was fast asleep. As was I.

hoorayforharoldlloyd · 23/12/2019 06:17

As it's holidays, going to be braver and go back to comfort but not picking up if he's having a whimper and not a full cry. See if this helps! I don't mind a couple of nights wakes but this 2 hour business is not sustainable!

PatricksRum · 23/12/2019 06:22

@Harmonica5 I didn't do what the pp did. I praised for differing from the norm established in this thread.
It's not about it working for me, I'm a single mum and often have to struggle through with minimal sleep but I do so got my dc, doesn't mean it works, I'm just choosing to follow nature in that sense.

PatricksRum · 23/12/2019 06:24

@Snowflake9 is that supposed to be a sly dig?
Fwiw I don't want my dc to sleep through,8 want them to wake and prevent sids

WelshMammaofaSlovak · 23/12/2019 06:48

@PatricksRum So now @Snowflake9 doesn't care about SIDS? You really do come across as a judgemental piece of work. You also seem a bit obsessed with nature and are probably sleep-deprived and are probably talking such mean-spirited nonsense as a result of that but you really do need to calm down - there's no one way to parent and we all do what works for us. The OP asked for help and Snowflake offered up her experience at which point you got all offended for no reason except that it's not what you would do. The SIDS comment was a pretty low blow though so maybe you should reflect on the actual shocking thing that has been said in this thread?

Bluerussian · 23/12/2019 07:13

Snowflake
What is the evidence for not night weaning before 18 mo? I am curious.
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I wondered about that, never heard it before. Surely children need solid food long before that even if they are still being breast or bottle fed.

Regarding the subject of the thread, waking so frequently in the night, I always co slept with mine so wasn't a problem. It was nice and cosy cuddling up.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 08:47

@PatricksRum step away from Mumsnet my friend. Have a wonderful Christmas and don't you DARE question my SIDS concern. I still sleep in the same room as my baby and will do until 6 months. As per guidelines. I am aware of his every movement. You move in the night don't you? Wake every so often naturally? Do you go an chow down on a roast dinner? Probably not.

He does wake in the night. He murmurs. I assure him I am there with a hand on his chest and I shush him back to sleep.

@Bluerussian I don't know, I just follow the fact that my son slept from 9:30-6 for a week without feeds. So he doesn't have feeds anymore in the night. He has cried properly maybe twice, so I changed his nappy, then be fell back to sleep. I am not going to feed a baby that isn't hungry. I will say that my DS is FF and has been since 8 weeks as I had a pretty serious breast abscess which required surgery so could no longer BF. Alot of my family and friends stopped night feeds when their baby no longer woke for them, I did the same.

Anyway, I am backing away from this thread now. And maybe Mumsnet all together as it is actually unbelievable and downright disgusting how some people behave on here. Coming at me with lighted lanterns and pitchforks.

I am off to enjoy my Happy, healthy little boy.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 08:48

I have never co slept for dear of SIDS, I know there are safe ways of doing so but I could never trust myself. So baby has always been on me whilst I am awake, or asleep in his Moses basket/cot.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 08:49

Fear. Not dear 😂😂

Seasons greetings all. @WelshMammaofaSlovak thank you for seeing it too.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 08:53

Oh, sorry one last thing. I meant wean off feeding during the night. Not , not on to solid foods. I am not sure of the correct terminology as I don't follow certain methods. Sorry if I confused you! @Bluerussian

PatricksRum · 23/12/2019 14:06

@WelshMammaofaSlovak
I'm not sleep deprived. We slept well last night thank you.
Don't know and don't care if snowflake is worried about sids.

PatricksRum · 23/12/2019 14:08

@Snowflake9 "my friend" I won't step away from anywhere.
I'm not even going to read the rest because as I've said a few times, I don't care what you do with your child.
I care about my child and they are happy not to be forced off my boob so I can sleep. Child first, sleep second.

Snowflake9 · 23/12/2019 14:12

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