We're still not sleeping

[Meepmoop]

New thread for those whose babies are avoiding sleeping through.

My DS is now 11 months old today..

Think I might be joining too with almost 13 mo DS.

Anything from 15 min to 2 hours to get him down.

Anything from 2 wakeups to every bloody hour.

Trying to stop BF to sleep then night wean entirely but he's so tired come bedtime that isn't happening and then he wakes to feed as he's not filled up it seems.

But he's napped almost 2 hours in his pram today and I didn't feed him to sleep so....

(putting him down in his cot without feeding is usually not an option as yet)

DS has had 1 50 minute nap today. Wish me luck for tonight x

@meepmoop I read it as 150 minute nap and thought yay baby meepmoop! Sorry it wasn't the case, fingers crossed for you tonight. DS did a taster session at nursery and he did sleep there, only 35 minutes but hopefully it will get longer. Night times are going well but I am back to work on the 25th so we'll see how that goes.

Aargh. Back to 1 hourly wake ups last night then we gave him ibuprofen as we were convinced it was his teeth. Switched to two hourly which is something. But up at 5.30am 😞 why do they just decide no sleep tonight? Sigh.

3 wake ups and the last one went on for 2 1/2 hours...

Can I join?

My 6 month old has never slept through... we were down to 2 wakes a night (generally after a struggle to get him down) and waking up any time from 4.50am... now we've still got difficult bedtimes and early starts but last few nights we're back up to 4 wakes a night.

He'll only settle by feeding to sleep, any attempt to rock or soothe any other way and he SCREAMS for hours

Glad to have found other people who understand the tiredness but sorry you're all struggling too!

@Meepmoop oh no 😣

He's refusing his morning nap to so I've cancelled my play date this morning. I've got to go shopping later to get food for his birthday party, which is going to involve three different places. I really can't be bothered.

Hope you've managed to get some rest this morning @Jellybabie3

Welcome @thingybobwotsit sorry you've had to join us. I've found this thread very helpful for keeping me sane

Took until 9 pm to get him to go to sleep. But I didn't boob him so I guess that's a win

Plenty of wake ups (erm, no didn't count) and I was in with him from 4ish but had sleep til 8

Aargh. Ds wont nap for more than 5min today even though he is exhausted. Dunno what it is. He just wants to suckle...

Mine woke after 50 min when he needs twice that so we'll most likely be having a late danger nap

Argh so we will all be on here later. Haha. Just looked at DS gums and theres 4 teeth very close to cutting so that atleast explains it. A rocky few days ahead here i think

@Jellybabie3 I found a first tooth earlier (ds is 6 months) so that might explain why the last few nights have been SO bad here. Toothache is the worst, I do feel for them

We're heading for a late nap I think after a day of frustratingly short sleeps

@thingybobwotsit more than likely - DS screamed blue murder for his first 2.

DS has just fallen asleep on me. I think he gets half hour then we push on til bedtime. Its gonna be a disaster whatever happens.

Trying for the late nap now. Not optimistic but he's going to go critical before dinner otherwise

Can feel first molar cut in DS mouth which explains the hell last week

Those of you with bigger babies who feed to sleep, can I ask how you manage it?

DS recently started crawling, and is now sitting up in his cot and starting to try and pull himself up in it. I think we're going to have to drop it to the lowest level soon. He's a big baby and I can only just get him in asleep now, I have no idea how I'm going to manage it when the cot is lower! But feeding to sleep is the only way to get him to settle since he learnt to move and self-settling went out the window!

ummm, I just somehow do? He's apparently quite tolerant of being plonked down but that's partly why I cosleep on bad nights- 11.6 kg and not being able to bend knees to put him down is not a recipe for a good back

Since he's been in his own room he doesn't seem to wake up when I transfer him. A few times I've sort of dropped him the last centimetre and while his eyes open he will stay asleep. Now I've said that I won't be able to transfer him.

We're having a late bedtime tonight as the cat has been fighting again so had to take him to the Vets at 6. DS had to come to so had a danger nap.

Not looking forward to tonight as I'm sure DS will be up lots and the cat will be going crazy trying to get outside

We've only had an hour nap today, out and about all day and only one BF all day. So he's just fed to sleep quickly and gone straight down. We tried daddy going in and soothing last night once instead of me and boobs. NOPE. So perhaps not ready to night wean then :-( :-(

We're hoping not to have to do emergency vet tomorrow- smaller dog went arse over t*t today with help of bigger vet. She's a bit sorry for herself and sore somewhere but nowhere specific it seems.

Our neighbours are soo loud, I can't get DS asleep.

Hi everyone, just been catching up after a few months absence, sorry to see so many still having a rough time.

About 3 weeks ago I reached the end of my tether and decided to go cold turkey on night feeding my DS (11 months). We had reached a situation where he refused to sleep without my boob in his mouth, would screech if I took it out, was waking every 1-2 hours all night long...you get the picture!

Basically I now give him a bottle of formula after his bath and story, then we brush teeth and that's it for milk until 5am ish, when I give him a breastfeed. Myself or my husband rock him and sing to him to get him to sleep, sometimes we offer him water if he seems thirsty (it is super hot after all). Sometimes all he needs is a pat or a stroke on his head to get him back to sleep.

It has transformed our nights, he now sleeps solidly between 7.30pm-3.30am, which is the longest he's ever done since he was born. It's been such a relief.

I think DS was definitely ready for night weaning, we did have tears and he does still get annoyed with me that I won't give him the boob at night, but it's worked for us overall.

Just wanted to share in case anyone else is considering night weaning, obviously this will not work for everyone. Sending strong coffee to everyone struggling x

I am considering night weaning but the absolute rage DS gets into makes me think he isn't quite ready. I cannot bear it

I went out this afternoon and DS stayed with DH... he refused his nap (DS not DH). So he's been awake since around 1pm. I have a very bad feeling about tonight!

@arbrighton do you have a partner around? It's definitely helpful if a person who doesn't provide the milk does a lot of the settling initially.

Yes, but currently DS gets just as bloody angry if DH goes in :/

I'm managing to get him to go to sleep of an evening not on the boob sometimes so steps in the right direction. It was actually rather lovely tonight as he held my hand and I sang twinkle twinkle until he drifted off. Made up for serious serious screaming rage for nap time