The non-sleepers are still not sleeping

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@FrozenMargarita17 looool blame your husband. My son is my OH's emotional double too.

So glad you're feeling much more confident. I would like to lose a stone and a half too. I like to read SW magazine for the success stories.

Step away from the smug mum posts and most definitely step away from anyone successfully implementing a Gina Ford routine.

Waiting for an Amazon delivery of a book about baby sleep by Dr Sears. He promotes the opposite of cry it out re: sleep so I'm interested to read what he has to say.

Hope everyone gets a good night (looooool)

So far I have been up to dd 5 times. Dh is out for a bike ride and said as he left 'good luck'.

Dd then did an enormous poo in the bath and screamed because it hurts (she's horribly constipated). Now I'm trying to do dinner and she's up every 5 mins. I get to do one thing and then I have to go back up again. Am sitting in her room now while she sleeps just in case. It's driving me mad.

Argh @Bartos I feel your pain. Last week I tried to make some dinner for myself. I put dd to bed, got to work and then she woke. I thought 'she'll only want the dummy and then I'll be back down'.

This is what happened:

There's meant to be a picture of a burnt pan. I give up !

@FrozenMargarita17 I say this many times, I wish I was a man! Much easier that side of parenthood.
I went for a "relaxing" shower. I'm getting into the tub, DD screaming. DH goes to her but she just screamed more. She was crying and screaming the all time until I got there. Bye bye relaxing shower. Maybe tomorrow... He tries. But he needs to spend more time with her, otherwise she won't feel comforted by him.
I've been up there 2 times. Barely an hour as passed. It's going to be another "walking dead" night. Good luck everyone! Maybe some of us will actually get some sleep! There's always hope!

Going out for a bike ride? 🙄

5 times already?

Gah.

She managed to sleep for half hour so I finished the dinner. Now I'm grabbing mouthfuls while running up the stairs in between them. Arghhh

Everyone must be sleeping!

Since DS started moving more, he definitely sleeps more.

He went down v early as skipped his danger nap and has woken a couple of times for boob. Managed to pump 3oz milk from one boob because he went to sleep early and missed his usual 7pm feed. I'm sure he'll make up for it in the wee hours.

I can't stop eating Custard Creams and Ben and Jerry's Birthday Cake ice cream 😶.

Nope! No sleep here. Usual thrashing about and denying sleep, rubbing eyes etc. DD also waking. We have a big morning tomorrow and need at least some sleep. Not going to happen is it!

I'm wondering if he's not getting enough naps during the day? He only does two, which doesn't seem enough, but trying to get that third nap is a huge struggle and he fights it!

That's good to hear about the movement @justanotheruser. DS is desperate to crawl but hasn't quite got the hang of it (he's 6 months next week). Once he can do that then I think/hope it might help??

Could cry. After a very bad night DH took DS at 5.20am. I tried to sleep...but DS started screaming the place down and I do mean SCREAMING. It's not like him at all to be this bad. DH couldn't soothe him so he's back in with me, angrily feeding and breaking off to wail. I feel like I'm at absolute breaking point. Given him calpol but nothing ever seems to work on this boy!

I am going to be a zombie today...

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs sorry you had such a bad night. hope your Ds is better soon and you can find out what's wrong.

Fairly normal night for us but he had a late nap so went to bed about half an hour later than usual. He woke up every 2 hours until 5:30 then woke up every hour and up at 7:30.
He's all over the place with his naps at the minute which is making him grumpier in the day. Already having his first nap so hopefully today will be better.

I'm already being asked if we are planning another one (Ds is only 7months!). I'm certainly not ready yet but probably will be in a few years. Talked to DH about it and he says he's not ready either and isn't sure he'd want to go through all this again. I'm not sure what he's on about...he hasn't done anything, gone through anything and his life hasn't changed that much.

Yes we have to do things differently but I do everything. When we go out he still starts getting ready 5minutes before we leave not thinking that we have Ds to get ready (I end up doing it all and he looks annoyed if I'm not ready). He sleeps all night and has lie ins most days. He books things without checking it's ok (usually work/study related things but that's not the point, he doesn't worry about who will look after ds). He hasn't been alone with Ds when he's awake for more than 30minutes. He doesn't want to go through that again but it sounds like an easy life to me...

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything that makes me furious . He needs to spend more time with baby! How come it's so hard still nowadays to share parental responsibility. It doesn't have to be mum 24h/7 days! I really need some me time as well. I'm going crazy. And DH "helps" a lot more from what I've seen on the thread. But this morning she woke up at 6:30,and it's suppose to be the night he was taking care of her and I should only feed her. But he couldn't hear her with is heavy sleep! So either way he slept all night and I went to her. In the morning I asked him to stay with her while I tried to sleep a bit more and again his reply is :"so what do I do with her now?", "I don't know what to give her for breakfast". Because it was laxative day and it would take me too long to explain I said I would wake up before 7:30 to make her breakfast. I go down and he had fed her already, swede and parsnip!! "she was hungry, it was the first thing i saw on the freezer (prepared in cubes) and I know she likes it". I didn't now if I should laugh or cry. What kind of breakfast is that! And he didn't give the laxative (fair enough he didn't know he should give it today), I end up waking up either way because that's what we discussed, he says "I'm not helping again then" and I snap and say "you are not helping, you are her father!" argh, then I feel bad. He took the initiative of giving breakfast true but instead of asking me what to do with her he should just take her and let me sleep a bit! I keep telling him he needs to spend more time with her! Clearly we are having this conversation one more time. I know he works full time but I have no break! Sorry for the long complaining. I'm a professional complaining wise...

Bartos Don't be sorry...I understand completely it's good to have somewhere to moan. I think the problem with DH is that he doesn't get out to work (apart from 2evenings a week) he studies and works freelance at home so he can always find something to do and work/life balance is something he's never been great at. We are getting better at having family time the 3 of us, but he doesn't really spend time with ds without me. I think him having Ds one day a week when I'm back at work will help.

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything I think you are right, that will definitely help and he will understand better what means taking care of a child. In my case we will be both working full time. And since now I do practically everything for DD I think I will struggle to keep this rhythm once I'm back at work. I've spoken with DH again, asked him to at least once a week to get out on time and come home to spend some time with DD. And over the weekend to do more stuff with her. Let's see. We had this conversation before and we always end up having it again. It's my problem also, I just do it myself, I need to keep trying involving him more. Although I shouldn't have to. My friends were surprised by is lack of confidence to stay with her for a few hours, he kept asking when was I coming back. He never had contact with babies, but he could search online even, how to play with her and stuff like that. Oh well. Maybe when she is a bit bigger she will give him no option and it will be daddy this, daddy that :D

Ah DS won't stop screaming and I don't know why. He was getting more and more worked up so I blew in his face and he started laughing so I thought I had cracked it but he just started up again..

Same with the screaming @meepmoop. DS has been like this all day. Think it must be teething. Got him to sleep fairly easily at 7.30 but he woke again at 8pm. Just opened the wine too!

@bartos @mummycuddles. Their lives really don't change that much do they?? Swede for breakfast though

In happier news, we've finally cracked potty training It's taken a LOT of angst, drama and tears (and that was just me) but we seem to have got there (ish). Feel very relieved, as we did not want to have to stop and start again!

Hence tonight's wine (and cheesecake). Now if I can only get DS to cooperate...

Bartos, swede & parsnip for breakfast?
Omg. What are you working with here?
SO GLAD you said 'you're not helping you're her father'. Nice one.

WhoAte, amazing news on the potty training!

@justanotheruser18 he was not so happy with hearing it :p I have a great husband honestly, he cooks, he cleans, but he rather clean the house than staying with her. He says I take better care of her. I thought he was just lacking confidence, now I see its really because he is very ignorant in the matter. As I said he didn't have contact with babies, DD was probably the first baby he held. He loves her, I can see that, he just has no idea about how to take care of her!what upsets me is the same way he googles a bunch of things, why not Google these when he doesn't have a clue. Or take more interest when I'm doing it and learn. He is quite intelligent! But my husband is that kind that the more I do, the less he does, he can get very comfortable. So I boss him so that he does stuff, cause he knows how, he just lacks initiative :p I guess I need to be more patient teaching him the basics and putting him responsible for her more often.

In another matter, crappy crappy night. She went down pretty well at 6h30 (naps were terrible yesterday) but then kept waking up. Either needed to burp, or to pass wind, or just waking up for some unknown reason or no reason at all. DH tried to go to her (he was responsible for her) but couldn't calm her down. Fair enough. I think I had to give her breast every time :/ really not ideal. Thinking about re-starting sleep training today,but dreading it

im going out of mind. Max will not sleep, not for naps, not at night not ever. and he screams relentlessly at me, wether im holding him, rocking him, leaving him in the cot, nothing makes a difference. hes so over tired but he just will not go. im at the end of my tether and have left him in his cot crying his eyes out. i feel awful for it but theres literally nothing i can do. he wont feed either to calm down. i just really dont know what to do

@Missonhartbaby that sounds terrible! Poor both of you? Is he constipated? Or could it be wind? Maybe try infacol or gripe water. with DD when she is crying like that it's usually wind :/ even 1ml gripe water seems to help. If it's very out of ordinary maybe ring 111 for assistance. When I was pregnant they had midwifes on call that they put be through, maybe they have a professional that can help you! Good luck and I hope its nothing more than grumpiness and that will fade soon I hope!!

he has a slight cold but apart from that im sure its over tiredness. he hardly slept last night, waking every 40 mins from 7-11, ever 20 mins from 11-2 and thought it was wide awake time till 3 and eventually ended up in my bed where we maybe got an hour or so sleep with him comfort feeding. i gave him calpol last night aswell which seemed to make no difference. could possibly be wind, maybe il try some gripe water. hes finally just gone down in his pram. thank god. hope he gets a good hour at least!!

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