The non-sleepers are still not sleeping

[NinaMarieP]

New thread, guys!

My DS has been asleep for nearly 2
Hours, I really should have gone bed but it's been a lovely evening. I'm torn between staying up til he wakes or going to sleep and then he wakes up just as I drift off.

Yes we have 2 mamaroo swings, they used to work! But not anymore. They seem to want out of the chairs for sleep. They usually nap on the sofa (safely) for wariness so I can run back and forth to put dummies in and soothe etc. They sleep in their own room and cots at night. They go down so well, can self soothe then and stay asleep til they're hungry. It's so odd! I've tried napping in their cots but running up and down the stairs is exhausting. Should I be doing something different?

I think I'm out of ideas sorry LyndseyC hopefully it's just a phase and they'll stretch them out soon, I've only now managed to get DS to not nap on me. It's great they self settle for you at night though, I think DS has done it twice in nearly 9 months. Hopefully someone else might be able to help.

It's just so fucking frustrating. AH is all can you do this for me, can you do that for me. I'm starting to outwardly get irritated at him now. He's started to see the eye rolls. I bathed and put dd to bed myself earlier, (because he was jetwashing the decking - not a joke) then did dinner for us and cleared up. We usually have fruit for pudding but I literally don't want to do any more work today and he won't do it for me even though I've asked.

Why does nobody do anything for me? Ahegrgrrhrufjfnn I'm so angry!

@tealandteal it's not you even in the slightest. I keep going back to this myself and it's difficult to see when you're in the thick of it.

Agh fuck fuck fuck. I got worried about dd being too hot - she has only woken once for her dummy so far and I was thinking oh crap maybe she's overheated. I went in, touched her hand (warm but didn't feel TOO hot to me) and she woke up and cried.

Whyyyyy did I do that ! Hope it doesn't ruin the rest of the night ..

Hope the rest of the night was okay @FrozenMargarita17.

We are up for the day. DS was very unsettled last night but did manage an okay stretch at the end. Looks like it's going to be a lovely day so that will help with the tiredness

It wasn't @Meepmoop she woke at 1am and was rolling about and singing and so I took her in with me. She woke me up at 5:50 and I was SO angry with her. I put white noise on and ignored her until now :(

I thought I cracked it last night to by giving DS a dream feed before he normally wakes up about 11ish in the hope that he wouldn't get unsettled and continue to sleep through the night. Pah! He woke up every hour screaming after that until he ended up in bed with me about 4. I'm trying to not let him comfort feed every time he wakes up but how do you stay strong when it's 3am and your exhausted?!? Eurgh.

@Missonhartbaby sometimes you've just got to do whatever will get everyone the most sleep :(

Quiet day on here today. I hope everyone has been out enjoying the sun and are now sleeping.

Just got DS asleep and am heading to bed myself.

This is an awful night. I don't think I've managed an hour block yet. DS was to hot so stripped him down but he keeps waking up

After a few better nights we had wake ups at 12, 1, 3, 4, 4.15, 4.30 & 5 and he's now being fed (usually he doesn't feed between 10pmish and 7amish) because he just wouldn't stop screaming. And I mean screaming. I'm praying he goes back down after this for an hour or two.

I'm not feeling well too - queasy, sore stomach and exhausted so I think I've caught his bug.

I'm never sure what AH stands for, but have worked out it's rubbish husbands right! So let me just say, it's no coincidence that it's no coincidence that the week I went back to work and dh was off with the kids and also doing all the nights, was the week the sleep consultant got a call! They're just not as hardcore as us women!!! When ds was a few weeks old dh got himself in a right state, became angry, depressed, started to have waking visions of terrible things happening to us all, ended up going to the gp, taking St John's wort and a course of counselling. A lot of this was put down to sleep deprivation! As a result I've done the lions share of nights. I've since heard of several other men folk with similar situations. There must be a biological route cause, be an interesting thing for someone to research!

Hmm sorry for repeating in the middle there!

Totally losing my mind here, I'm starting to think motherhood will send me straight to a psychiatric institution! If it could get worse, it just got worse, this night was absolutely f* crazy! Baby wouldn't settle for 30 min even, I was 5/5 min up going to her, she just couldn't stop moving! Windows were open, she was not overheated, but she wouldn't stay still not even in my arms, just crying a lot. Morning nap was fine, 1 hour thank God! Now for lunch I spend an hour trying to put her down, she was just so restless, wouldn't stop moving! It's scary! She rolls now from front to back, sometimes, back to front. Is it one of those episodes where they learn a skill and can't stop doing it? I am dead. At a certain point I've put her in the play mat and went to the other room cry my eyes out. Me! This isn't me! God how I would love that she would find out how to sleep! I have to strength to cook lunch, what I need is a gin tonic! And keep it coming!

And she slept 15 min

Last day or 2 they have been going a little longer or not waking just as much whole sleeping on the sofa. So I thought I would try them in their cots (that they sleep in at night and have done for weeks) DT1 just screamed and would not go over to sleep he has went from 10.30am until now with no sleep. I put him on the sofa and bang he's out like a light!!! Why??? It's not as if he doesn't know the cot. I just don't understand. And they've started waking nor win the night, not even to bed fed, just for a whinge.. eugh so tired

@Missonhartbaby how I understand you! It's so hard not to give the comfort feed! My HV was telling me to let her cry overnight but I asked her how can I do that when husband has to go to work the next day? She said it's hard. Yes it's very hard. And I'm afraid she will be more alert and it will be harder to get back to sleep... Anyone tried this overnight? To let baby cry?

I tried to leave DS cry for 5mins he ended up being sick after 3 and crying distraughtly. I think he was teething though so probably a bad time to do it. I think someone in the thread has done controlled crying and had some success.

In bad news our internet has broken and we don't have normal tv just Netflix and Amazon. I would like to pretend I don't have the tv on when I'm home with DS but I do. I'm getting through many box sets.

I've got the window open in DS room so I don't have a repeat of last night however it's making his door bang and it's so irritating but if I go in and shut the window he's going to wake up

@Bartos I just got my little boy to go down in less than 20 mins on his own in his own room. I fed him, burped etc and the put him in the cot and left the room.. He did cry but I went in at 2 mins, then 3,4,5 etc. I was then going to continue going in at 5 mins mins although at that point I was close to giving up as the crying was killing me but by the second 5 min wait he went quiet... So I peeped in and he was flat out! It's sort of controlled crying I guess but I wouldn't of left him for longer than a few mins to start off with. I wouldnt just leave him to cry either, I'm fact he's cried harder and longer before when I've been desperately rocking him because he's been so over tired and frustrated. A lady on another post had been doing it and said it worked so thought I would try.. You don't pick them up when you go in, I just sort of lent over him, kissed his cheek and stroked his head, said goodnight I love you and went out again when he had stopped crying! Hope this may help others but I totally get it if its not your thing! :)

P. S sorry for the super long message!!

@Missonhartbaby thank you for your reply. I've done a sort of controlled crying very similar to yours almost 2 months ago. We has 2 weeks of agony with loads of crying, followed by 3 weeks of baby falling asleep by herself with minimum or no fuss at all. But nights continued bad with multiple wakings, feeding 2/2h (baby is 7 months) . A week before we went in holidays naps starting to go a mess. On holidays less than a week things were bad, but now that we are back it's just crazy and worse. It's been an horrendous 2 weeks, and the last 3 days just totally crazy. She wakes up 10/10 min, last night 5/5min. Rarely sleeps 1 hour in a row. Wakes up crying and moving a lot and arching her back. I gave her gripe water today and she passed a lot of wind but either way it has been crazy since I put her down in cot.... It seems something is not quite right, the wind, the heat, I don't know. I know this isn't normal even for her. Maybe teething? I tried giving her paracetamol around 20h,hoping it will help her somehow... I don't let her cry for periods overnight. I usually go to her right away to sooth her with dummy and if that doesn't work, with breast. It's been crazy. I have a headache from holding my own tears