The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

My shopping didn't come... so still no milk for breakfast tomorrow but I forgot I've got some eggs and some sad looking bacon I can have.

DS is asleep on me so transferring in a minute. Late to bed tonight as DH was late back from work for bathtime. I can't seem to do it by myself, DS goes crazy splashing and kicking so it's like holding on to a bar of soap! I can hold him but not wash him at the same time

@Meepmoop I'm the same with bathtime, it will be so much easier when he can sit up on his own. I have managed it on my own once but it was sketchy!

Good naps here today, although not in his cot. He is in there now though so fingers crossed. I'm sat eating cheesy wotsits in bed and watching friends, should probably go to sleep but I just need some down time.

Sending sleepy thought to all your littles tonight, good luck mummies!x

Hope you all have good nights! Dh is working but will be home soon - it's been just me and ds this evening. He's sleeping so I'm next to him watching friends, one of the benefits of dh working a couple of evenings a week is being able to relax in bed instead of going downstairs.

Been trying to sleep now while I can but can't...why is it that when I get the chance I can't sleep!! Anyone else find this?

meepmoop and lizzlebizzle we've got an angelcare bath seat for DS2, I always thought they were a bit if a gimic but it is amazing, I can bath DS1 and DS2 at the same time on my own.

DH and I just made he mistake of falling asleep downstairs on the sofa watching TV. We are woken by DS2 needing a feed so I've rushed to bed and haven't done my teeth or anything, ugh.

sigh.... Been up twice already to settle ds2 back down, so glad I didn't bother going to sleep. I've snapped and taken his cot mobile down, I'm sure it just keeps him awake once he stirs, he thinks it's playtime.

So cold tonight, I hate being out of bed. I hope it doesn't snow again, were supposed to be at baby clinic tomorrow. The in laws are having ds1 so it's just be and bubba, I think we may accidentally go for coffee and cake...

Another shit night! Please please don't let us be headed for the four month regression...

DS hardly been pooing, only had a small liquid poo over the past 48 hours. Not like him, he's very windy too. Prob what's keeping him up. He just won't settle in his cot so he's in with me. So tired. He woke for first feed at 2330 and we've been awake since.

This crazy snow is doing my head in!! Plans have had to be cancelled and we are going to be housebound for at least another day. Meant to be getting my wisdom tooth out today. Obvs not something I'm looking forward to but I'd rather just get it done and not delay! So am hoping dentist will be open, but it seems unlikely.

It's quite scary too. I'm in Scotland and we are on red alert, never had that before!

Welcome new people!

And off to AIBU I go...

I have children but they are grown up now. I have noticed that most on here have small children or are pregnant. Will I be welcome to join your chats? I remember all through my pregnancies well however!

😱 where is everyone!

@Percy I hope you've managed to get some sleep by now, and fingers crossed bubs tummy sorts itself soon!

We are about as far south as you can get, so would love a bit of snow for a change, as long as it arrives before DH leaves for work so he has an excuse to work from home help mummy with DD

I'm here, currently on feed number 3 which seems to be a long one. So far it's been half an hour. I'm hoping I can squeeze another hour of sleep in though

Here too, horrendous night, so many wake iOS I can't count. Co sleeping not helping tonight, just making what little sleep I have had uncomfortable.

DH done fuck all to help as usual, I could scream I'm so tired and angry #Tangry

I think I am losing my mind. For the last week the longest stretch of sleep has been 2.5 hours.
@meepmoop and lizzlebizzle
The bath cradle seat is amazing - I have it too; and it is the only way I can manage to bathe two of them on my own.

Thank you all for your solidarity re DH! We are still not really speaking which is fairly epic. I am just in a place of such extreme tiredness - which you ladies will know - that I can’t spare the energy to have a conversation and bother to explain.
It’s when the OHs hand the baby over and say “look dear I changed her nappy FOR YOU” that you want to hit them in the face with a spade....

Last night went ok, managed to get a 3 hour block of sleep.

This snow has meant me and my 4 week old have had no visitors (help) all week, we are very rural and miles from any shops etc.

Plenty of food in, but feeling really lonely and exhausted 😩

Not a great night but still better than a few weeks ago when we he was up every hour.
He woke up 5 or 6 times, I've stopped checking the clock every time because I get disheartened when I realise he's woken up 3 times already and it's only 2am

utterlyconfused111 look dear I changed her nappy FOR YOU this drives me mad. I asked dh once if it was ok for him to change ds's nappy while I pop to the loo....he said not really! NOT REALLY???It wasn't really a question!! What would happen if I decided I didn't want to do something. I've stopped saying thank you when dh does things like the pots, changes a nappy etc because he isn't doing me a favour he's just doing what he should do, and what I do every day without him really noticing.

*lizzlebizzle33 #tangry sums everything up!

Snow day here! whoAteAllThePercyPigs where abouts in Scotland are you? I'm from Scotland but living in the East Midlands now.

Thank God DH is off work due to the snow. I have another terrible bout of mastitis and spent most of last night feverish and shivering in bed. Really wanted LO to do some mammoth feeds to help ease the searing breast pain but despite waking several times he'd only feed for a few mins before zonking out again can't bloody win with him!

Just got back into bed as DH has taken DC out in the snow. There's a million and one things that need to get done but I'm going to try to rest as much as possible to help shift the mastitis.

Has anyone else got DHs off work today to help out a bit get under their feet?

cheshiremum that sounds tough. I was feeling utterly miserable at the thought of being housebound and alone with LO..... But I think yours is still very young, right? Can you cuddle up on the sofa with snacks and drinks and something good to watch / read? I loved being able to do that in the early days

Tangry is my current normal state at the moment lizzlebizzle although DH has a snow day today so hopefully I can have a nap in the day.

DH is at work so I'm not angry anymore, just tired. It should be less stressful when he is home because he's there to help me but in all honesty I'm happier when he is at work, he's not in my way pissing me off doing nothing and I somehow get more done.

Washing up done and a wash on, even polishing done!

Dug out the ball pit that I had confiscated put somewhere safe for ds1, and even though there are now 200 balls all over my living room floor I'm not pissed off!

Oh and ds2 is asleep In the travel cot...for now. We decided not to go to baby clinic as its too cold to take him out, he's nice and chubby anyway so I'm not worried about his weight.

I hope the snow isn't affecting any of you too badly! Have a lovely day.xx

Still tangry here...dh was supposed to be out at a meeting today but it's been cancelled. I thought he might offer to watch ds seeing as he has more time today (he's studying so no set hours) but he had a lie in and is just upstairs like usual. Find it easier when he, me or both of us are out because I don't have to see how useless he's being.

cheshiremum that sounds really tough! Have a sofa day, blanket, box set and baby cuddles, the best things about that age.

Oh I love tangry! That's basically my natural state

Sounds tough @cheshiremama. Another shout for just chilling with tv and snacks.

Yes got DH off. He did take DS till 9 this morning - would have been longer but DD threw a strop and woke DS up. He's working from home so not too in the way...although having a houseful for another full day is getting wearing! Still very bad here (I'm in Glasgow @realistmum but actually from Newcastle originally!) warnings not to travel etc. Dentist appointment got cancelled which is annoying but I expected it.

Luckily we are going round for a playdate to a friend's house near us which is round the corner. Means we won't be stuck in all day...praying the weather improves for the weekend as we have stuff on, but I'm not holding out any hope!

So tired. Both DD and DS were waking lots last night.

I'm also in Scotland but outside of the red warning zone. Schools are still shut though, and there's no way I'm attempting to battle the pram through several inches of snow.

I'm supposed to be starting the 10,000 steps a day challenge for Cancer Research as well.

I too find getting out is easier than staying home, which sounds the wrong way around. Somehow it seems less exhausting?

Oh dear for the crappy parenting from some 'd'hs, hopefully they get their act together soon and realise how hard you are actually working.

Sorry to hear you're ill xxrealistmumxx

Sadly dh can make it to work since we live on a military base so no respite today. Thankfully he's usually quite hands on and I've never even thought to thank him for changing a nappy, he'd probably look at me weird if I did. But he had to get a new car last night so just me and ds. Then there was a power cut so I couldn't make ds bottles (with dh I was still breastfeeding!) or do bathtime. Luckily had readymade formula in the cupboard which he takes at room temperature. Then I think he had a nightmare and screamed for an hour. I was a bit of a mess by the time dh got home!

I missed baby clinic but am supposed to be going to baby massage later :s it's a 20 minute walk (I'm still learning to drive) but not sure how to go about it ... I wear a carrier most of the time but will that and an umbrella stop the snow getting to ds too much? Half the walk is sheltered in the woods anyway... his snow suit is thick but not waterproof but I might attach a thin waterproof jacket backwards over his carrier... no way I'm getting a pram out the house today and he'll be warmer on me, just wish I had a big coat that would fit us both. People in snowy countries must baby wear so how do they do it?!

with dh is supposed to say wish!!

Totally agree that getting out is easier than being stuck at home all day. I also find it easier when DH isn't here, though today I'm feeling so shit I'm just leaving him to get on with it. He keeps bringing LO to me if he needs to go to the toilet or make a drink I've just said for the umpteenth time i still wee and drink when I'm on my own with LO and was met with a sigh and an eye roll! But seriously, I don't understand how he can handle a classroom full of kids but can't handle one little 6 month old! I'm still doing all the feeds, including solids. Grrr. At least the other DC are out in the snow avoiding my tangry state and not causing havoc in the house.

I watched something yesterday that said in some cultures the men move out for the first little while when kids come along and just come by to give money / make repairs leaving the extended female family members to live together, raise the kids and take care of each other!

emberblu someone gave us a snugglebean to use with the sling and is great! A waterproof coat wrapped around should also work though. If LO is facing into you that should help protect from the snow

Thanks @xxrealistmumxx I just worry about his face getting cold 😆 will look into the snugglebean