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The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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Jellybean2017 · 21/02/2018 01:32

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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justanotheruser18 · 21/03/2018 10:49

You might find that his earlier naps start to lengthen to compensate if he's refusing your efforts to get him to sleep late afternoon. DS used to be a 4 1/2 hour naps a day kinda guy and suddenly that shifted.

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 12:08

I really tried to keep her in there. She was up 3 times between 7-2:30 which wasn't so bad but then at 3:30ish she wouldn't go back to sleep and I tried til 4 and gave up. I was so tired it was awful.

Sakura03 · 21/03/2018 13:27

@UtterlyConfused111 I don't think we will have another baby, you see I'm 40 this year and do will be 46 so we're no spring chickens.... but part of me feel a bit bad for not giving ds a sibling...
We had a rubbish night ds woke every hour and was ready to start the day at 6.30 am, I wasn't... and woukd he nap in the house oh no so no chance of me getting a nap. We're currently out for a walk and ds has been asleep in his pram for 1 1/2 hour, I'm sat outside a cafe with an iced coffee and a slice of a banana spelt loaf I felt I deserved a treat. It's nice to have a bit of time to myself but I would have preferred a nap never mind hopefully tonight won't be as bad.

lizzlebizzle33 · 21/03/2018 14:29

So ds2 had a 2 hour nap this morning and now won't have his after noon nap. He's just lying here grinning at me. Can't win 😩

lizzlebizzle33 · 21/03/2018 14:31

This made me laugh (but cry on the inside)

The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)
Sakura03 · 21/03/2018 15:28

@lizzlebizzle33 gosh to the picture 🙈 hilarious but at the same time depressing...
My ds only napped 20 minutes this morning and the night was pretty pants but he's just got up from a 3 hour nap... honestly what are they like🤣 got to go with the flow I suppose...

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 21/03/2018 16:25

lizzlebizzle the picture sums up everything! Ds's room is quickly becoming a storage room seeing as it's unlikely he'll be sleeping in it any time soon.

Ds had a 30min nap this morning and an hour and a half this afternoon. He usually has 3 naps but I can't see how we will fit the next on in without pushing bed time really late. I can't see him lasting till his usual bedtime so he might wake up really early tomorrow. Really not sure what to do.

lizzlebizzle33 · 21/03/2018 17:11

I'm still hopeful, ds1 was exactly the same but started sleeping better at around 7 months so I'm not far off. Only thing is I didn't co sleep with Ds1 so it's not just getting him to sleep longer it's longer and alone.
I'm going to stay positive!! (Until about 1am when I have another breakdown).
He's down for a nap now, little later than I would like but better than him moaning while I'm making tea.

DH is actually making tea while I Lie on the bed with ds2. Win!!

Emberblu · 21/03/2018 17:39

Oh lord ds has been asleep since quarter past 4 ( I started trying to settle him at half three!)... I need to wake him but can't bring myself to do it, his other naps were awful today, about 3 20 minute ones.Bedtime is gonna be late for sure.

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 17:45

Dd naps been terrible today too ember no idea what tonight will bring. Dh is in a mood with me so has refused to come to my dm for her birthday so I have whingey baby on my own.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 21/03/2018 20:15

Already on first wake up. Hope this isn't a sign of how the night will go.

Meepmoop · 21/03/2018 20:34

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything had our first wake up to. DS had a 5 hour gap between naps and I think I'm going to suffer for it.

Has anyone else got a 7/8 month old that still doesn't self settle? I feel like I've failed as he doesn't. Everyone I speak to seems to have cracked it although still having wake ups.

I've got sleep training on the back of my mind but he's either full of cold or teething so I don't think I will do it.

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 20:41

meep my 8 month old rarely does. You've not failed!!

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 20:42

Dd went to bed VERY LATE tonight. 8pm. She is usually in bed by 6:30. She's only had 2 hours of naps today so it could go either way I guess!

justanotheruser18 · 21/03/2018 20:55

Omg @lizzlebizzle33 that photo is so accurate.

justanotheruser18 · 21/03/2018 20:58

@Meepmoop my 7 monther doesn't self settle. He boobs to sleep, is rocked to sleep or falls asleep in the car. When he wakes, he can quickly return to sleep with a boob or rocking. I don't think we're abnormal or failures. I wish I knew the trick though. And I wish it didn't mean leaving him to cry alone which goes against my every parenting instinct.

justanotheruser18 · 21/03/2018 20:59

@FrozenMargarita17 mine went to bed late too. I doubt this bodes well for us. Good luck.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 21/03/2018 21:00

Not even 9 and ds has woken up twice, the second time he woke up screaming and was inconsolable. How is everyone else getting on so far?

lizzlebizzle33 · 21/03/2018 21:15

Ds2 just will not be put down tonight, been trying for an hour already, every time he goes in his cot he wakes up, fed up of rocking so he's in bed with me having boob now, he's not even feeding just chewing on me, it Tickles rather than hurts but it's really annoying.

Going to try and scoop him into bed again once he's asleep. I don't think I'll last long tonight, he'll be in with me for the night before 12 I bet.

DH has a new job and isn't going to be here for bedtimes anymore so I have to start putting ds1 to bed too, haven't done that for months, last time I tried he wouldn't let me leave his room, just kept screaming mamma.

Eurgh so I'll have to try again tomorrow, I'm flying solo from Sunday night 😩😩

Thing is though what if ds2 is screaming while in trying to settle ds1? That's my worry, totally dreading it!!

Worlds0kayestmum · 21/03/2018 21:19

DS didnt settle until 8.15 and we are already on wake up number one. I'm feeling so drained today, I really need some time out. Dreading tonight

onone85 · 21/03/2018 21:41

Mine went down pretty well at 620. Hasn't napped well today so was exhausted but has been up twice already. One time completely inconsolable (with tears). The only thing that soothes him when he's like that is the 'say hello to the sun' song from baby sensory. I'm sick of hearing it.
I'm not holding out much hope for tonight.. sending everyone positive sleepy baby vibes x

UtterlyConfused111 · 21/03/2018 21:48

Two wake ups already. I know it’s going to be a long night
@lizzlebizzle
I have the same thing with bedtimes; two of them to settle! I bathe both and then I bung DD1 in front of the telly in the play pen. She loves it and it is her treat every evening. I feed and settle DD2; takes around 20 odd minutes; some times longer. Prise DD1 away from telly and story time and then bed. It usually works but then some evenings DD2 wakes us during story time or something happens and then I just go back and forth. It happens. I was v nervous about double bath time and bedtime and it was fine in the end.
@sakura
Sorry didn’t mean to pry! Seems so definite to be getting rid of maternity clothes! Life is soooo much easier with one and honealtly it’s so nice you can concentrate and enjoy the one you have. I am constantly torn and I feel and that dd1 gets not as much attention as I would like

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 22:00

I'm a one and done :) definitely not doing this again !!

justanotheruser18 · 21/03/2018 22:05

Preachhhhh the one and done mamas. 🙏

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 21/03/2018 23:31

Evening all! Sorry to hear about the difficult starts to the night.

@meep DD didn't self settle for a long time. Even after I stopped BF at 13 months, she still required rocking to sleep for a long time. You are most definitely not a failure! Feeding to sleep or rocking or cuddling is very natural and we should never be made to feel bad for that. Self settling is a developmental skill so it's more about when they are ready.

Been so tired today. Had a few nights of both DC waking and it's taking its toll. Akso had a blocked duct (how's yours now @Cheshire?) and generally feeling run down. DH really under the cosh at work right now so not much help.

First waking of the night. Hoping he goes back to sleep...