The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

Sorry to take over the thread a bit but I don't know what to do. Me and dh had a massive argument and now he's packing his stuff. I don't know what to do. Ds won't settle for a nap and dh won't even talk to me.

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything I don't want to advise on a situation I don't know a lot about but just to let you know someone is here listening!
If it were me I'd let him pack, stick to your guns, you know your own emotions and how you feel xxx

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything don't worry about getting lo settled right now you're too stressed, missing a nap won't be the worst thing (ds refuses naps all the time!). Just distract yourself. Do some fun play with him, focus on you both. Your ah is an adult and it's not your job to make everything better for him too

Thanks guys. I don't want him to go. As much as he annoys me I love him and don't want him to leave. I'm wondering if perhaps he's realising how things have been, he keeps talking about being an absent parent.
Ds was screaming because he was so tired but wouldn't sleep, I've calmed him and got him to sleep. I think dh has stopped packing but that doesn't mean he's staying, he's upstairs in his study but I don't know what he's doing/planning.

Hey all. Our Internet has been playing up so I've struggled to post much. We have had a couple of bad nights. Hoping for tonight to be a good one so I'm making sure DS gets his naps.

@mummycuddles hope you're ok, sorry to hear you're going through this. We are all listening if you need to vent

4 wake ups but at least he went back to sleep in his cot afterwards so I'm happy plus have been to a cheese festival this morning.

mummycuddles if he is talking about absent parenting is he feeling guilty and taking it out on you? Will he actually leave or is he packing to make a statement? Hope you are OK

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything sorry to hear your having arguments with DH, I know what you mean though as annoying and thoughtless as they can be we do love them and it's so difficult. I hope you have managed to speak to each other by now and hopefully he has stopped packing and apologised. Hugs to you anyway.xxx

I'm just back from a kit day at work, it was fun apart from being told several times that I look "well" hmm I think that is code for fat.......

My AH has eared DH status today, both kids alive and happy when I got back, that's all I could ask for. Not a sniff of housework done though, oh well, baby steps.

Off for a nap now with ds2, hope you're all having a good day.xxx

@mummycuddles
Hope you’re ok. Obviously don’t know the situation, but just stay calm and have a cup of tea and we are all here to listen. Having a lo puts a lot of pressure on a marriage..,,

I've been and got myself a fancy watch (a cheap version) to count steps. Been out with the dog to the beach thinking I would get my steps in. Not so much only half way. 10000 seems like lots to fit in. It also says how much deep sleep you get, I'm not sure if I want to know...

We're meant to be out for a meal tonight but DH isn't very well and it's started snowing. I'm hoping we make it out.

Hope your okay @MummyCuddlesSolveEverything

DD2 now on 91percentile of weight and dd1 on 25th! They almost weigh the same!
Today DD2 grabbed DD1s bowl of cereal and put her face in it.... time to wean.. 24 weeks old and clearly hungry all the time. Hope it helps sleeping...

That's hilarious @UtterlyConfused111, I keep thinking that about ds2, he's started getting really cranky when he sees us eating like he's thinking "where's mine?" He's 20 weeks, I think I'll give it a few more weeks, mainly because I haven't bought a high chair yet! 🙈

I think up until now ds2 has been relatively free (hand me down clothes and toys etc) but we're about to feel the pinch of another child 😩

Thanks everyone it's really helped knowing I can talk here, not something I can talk about irl. Everything seems ok now, dh isn't leaving. We've talked about it and agree that we both feel under a lot of pressure and things boiled over.
We both said things we shouldn't have/didn't mean. But he's realising that he's not spending enough time with ds, he is a workaholic and is going to try and get a better balance. So tealI think you're right about the absent parent comments.
Lots to work on but we are going to work on it together. Thank you!!

utterly ds is on the 90th percentile....he's heavier than his cousin who is 6months older than him! 6montts next week and almost out of 6-9 clothes. Hope food helps you get more sleep.

lizzle glad your kit day went well.

Glad things are better @MummyCuddles and you managed to talk things out.

I've been trying to avoid the phone at night and been too tired during the day. Ds still doing 30 minute naps, usually 3-4 a day and each one a fight! But for the past week his sleep has been awful at night too. He keeps rolling over (has stopped sleeping on his back as soon as he could roll ), crying out in his sleep and hitting his head on the side/top of his cot. He's 5 months now and I thought we had already had the sleep regression but maybe this is it? His naps have never been worse. He's also got a cold and a third tooth pushing through

ergh and dh is away Monday-Friday next week, I rely on his help so much in the evenings on the worst days I just hope ds is kind to me next week...

We didn't go out in the end as DH isn't feeling any better. I have been to the shop however and bought myself some fancy ice cream and sweets.
Now trying to put DS to bed, what's the chances he goes down quickly and stays down?

Just got ds down, as I was sat with him while he fell asleep he managed to shuffle down to be almost horizontal along the bottom of his cot in the most awkward position... I imagine he'll wake up soon and complain but there's no way I was waking him to move him!

And DS is still feeding after 40 mins!

@mummycuddlessolveeverything sorry to read about the stress with your DH, it's great you've been able to talk, many can't even do that when under the stress of a new baby. I hope things ease now, sending good vibes.

After the night of no sleep last night DS1 has come down with another vomiting bug. DS2 woke after 40 minutes and wouldn't be resettled without boob even though he really shouldn't need a feed. I wish I could have some caffeine to keep me going but really can't risk keeping DS2 up any more. I am actually dreading the night but at least DH isn't out drinking so will be able to help.

Hi @MummyCuddlesSolveEverything I'm glad you resolved it. Sometimes all these things need to come out.

Currently on wake up 3/feed 2 for DS2 and wake up and vomit 1 for DS1. DS1 is being a little soldier though and letting DH help him even though he wants me :(

We’re up, ds joined me in bed around 10 pm and we both slept so well until dp just came in, I transferred ds to carrycot and he woke up full of beans... I’ve taken him into the lounge and he’s drifting off again (came off the boob himself, getting better at that) so I will keep it brief. @WhoAte I waited and had a cinnamon bun (read 3 - they are tiny) in the morning with my coffee (at 6.30 am as that's the time we get up these days yay🙈💤...). The night went okay here’s hoping for another average night. I took ds into town yesterday in the pram it was bloody freezing though but he slept the whole time😊 right I’m going to attempt a cot transfer!

We're on wake up 3, DS is very against his cot tonight which is killing me and my back. Annoyingly DS seems to not like co sleeping anymore

Hi everyone, can I join? 10 month old DS who is yet to sleep through the night. Feeling like I'm losing the will to live at the moment. He's breast fed and won't take a bottle so my OH hasn't had to get up once in the night since he was born. He will have a lie in this morning instead of getting up and taking DS down for breakfast and letting me sleep because he goes to WORK and WORK is more tiring than 10 months of sleep deprivation which has me literally shaking with exhaustion during the day. But I don't WORK so I don't need the sleep apparently...

Omg @Worlds0kayestmum that's a horrible thing for him to say!! My dh 'works' but recognises I do too so we both get a lie in at the weekend. This weekend he offered me both lie ins as he is away mon-fri! Just cos you're breastfeeding it's no excuse, he could settle lo or get up and play in the morning! Sorry lo wont take a bottle, what about a sippy cup at that age?

After watching this thread for a while hoping I wouldn’t need to join I’ve accepted that my sons sleep isn’t getting any better 😭 He is 6 Months and was a fabulous sleeper until 4 months and since then he’s been all over the place with regression, teething, illness etc. Most of my ‘mum’ group have sleep trained their babies and are encouraging me to do it, but I just don’t think it is for me. So hard to know what’s best sometimes. I breastfeed but he takes a bottle ok and my husband is a DH more often than a AH most of the time but I still end up doing pretty much all of the night waking!

Worlds0kayestmum what you are doing is hard work, you might be at home with the baby but it's certainly not easy. Are you on maternity leave? If you go back to work will he start helping more? Perhaps you could go out for a day, or few hours at the weekend then dh might realise?
Easier said than done. my dh is the same at night and has lie ins most days but has never said the work thing (he's a full time post grad student). When I go back to work he'll be looking after him 1 day a week so might appreciate what I've been doing more.

Ds has been up since 5:30. Dh will want to go church which means leaving at 8:30 and we've got a friends christening this afternoon...going to look like a zombie because no amount of make up could hide how tired I am.