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The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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Jellybean2017 · 21/02/2018 01:32

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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AMagdalena · 13/03/2018 11:33

lizzlebizzle I think your AH is having a laugh

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Jellybean2017 · 13/03/2018 12:42

There was a serious jumperPOO incident in the jellybean household this morning. My goodness. Never seen anything like it!! 💩

Definitely sounds like the AH'S are living up to their names 😑

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Catscatsandmorecats · 13/03/2018 13:28

Hello everyone,

Meepmoop I'm with you in the hating coughs club. It is so torturous when they get off to sleep only to wake 10 minutes later coughing.

After last week's dreadful nights I'm really trying not to look at my phone when I'm up with DS1 or DS2 so I can get back to sleep more quickly when I finally do get a chance. We did get a bit of respite with two better nights at the weekend and I'm stretching DS2'S feeds out now which seems to be helping, annoyingly he still needs resettling just as much but we've had a couple of random longer stints, small wins.

Just got him down in his cot for a nap, he managed 20 mins before his cough woke him up and I couldn't resettle him. He was due a feed then anyway so I'm letting him have a sleepy feed now. He's rattling away while he does :(

I think I'm going to move him to his own room this weekend, I have no doubt DH disturbs him with all his flapping about. I may end up in the spare bed in with him but I think it's worth a try and it'll help with naps i hope

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 13/03/2018 13:32

Wow I'm Shock at all these AHs!

@lizzle I can't believe he actually asked that. Is he insane?? More to the point...is he still alive?? I've got a good shovel here if you need it...

I think men just don't get it, even when they're trying to. I was not happy with my DH yesterday. I'd had both DC to entertain on very little sleep, DH had been at work but by his own admission he had the easier deal, and by the time he got home, I was ready to collapse. Did he offer to help?? No - he spent all evening tinkering around setting the PC up so he can play his fcking computer games on yet another screen. Absolutely non urgent, did not need to be done. Meanwhile I'm left with looking after both DC (and a very overtired DD, anyone with a toddler will know how trying that can be), making the dinner and getting them ready for bed. Fuming!

DS had his third set of jabs this morning. Poor wee soul was very upset and still unsettled now. He's snoring away on me, meanwhile I have my smear test booked for 3pm (he's having to come with me) and I don't think he's going to be happy to be woken...

UtterlyConfused111 · 13/03/2018 14:02

@lizzle
That’s fantastic. Your AH is surpassing himself - but if helps you are not alone. My AH did a reverse Mother’s Day; slept in till 845 and then had leftover pancakes I had made with dd1 in the morning. Complained there was no bacon to go with the pancakes. He too wants to relax and go on holiday because he is so tired from sleeping only 7 hours every night....
@whoate
Yup they don’t get it. My AH also spends hours doing non essential tasks - like gardening! - on the weekend and then says he’s been working hard all day too when I ask him to give us a hand. Says send me a text and I’ll come help when you need me.... gah

Catscatsandmorecats · 13/03/2018 14:10

Sat him up to wind and he fell asleep again, obviously being upright helps. Annoyingly I'm not in a comfortable position to doze...

Catscatsandmorecats · 13/03/2018 14:17

X posted!

Yes what are all these AH's up to?? I cannot believe yours said that lizzlebizzle and utterlyconfused yours does really live up to his name.

Mine is still a DH but is very tired and stressed with work. He's locked his business partner out twice this week which is entirely unlike him. He needs to have some down time too, unfortunately work is eating into his spare time when he's not parenting and sometimes when he would normally be parenting, which is leaving me shattered too as I am solo parenting a lot of the time and do everything overnight with both boys. Non essential tasks need to be out the window but somehow they always slip in which doesn't help either of us!

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 13/03/2018 14:32

lizzle thats awful! What did you say??

utterly ah does that too...sometimes he says text/shout if you need me. I wonder what would happen if I did that! Then on the rare occasions I do text him he acts really put out, like he's doing me a massive favour and I can't cope on my own.
when in reality I do everything on my own and end up having to wait ages if he does anything because he's so slow or correct everything when he's gone

tealandteal · 13/03/2018 19:42

All the AHs are really coming out with some cracking lines recently! Happy to provide an alibi if required.

I'm anticipating a long night, DS two front teeth look ready to pop out and he isn't very happy about it. I'm still bf so not sure I will be either!

NinaMarieP · 13/03/2018 20:19

Holy crap. I think I need to come up with a new acronym for you guys, what's stronger than asshole? CP/CH??

UtterlyConfused111 · 13/03/2018 20:39

Right
Question for you lovely ladies if you have any input on this?
So last night DD2 slept.....I am no longer feeding her between 1030pm and 630am.
BUT she is atill getting up multiple times - mostly because of the dropped dummy.
Now DD1 did this when she was a baby but only 2-3 times a night and when she was 6/7 months old we got her the dummy bunny and that solved the problem.

DD2 is too young and is actually dropping the dummy once an hour after 1am....this is driving me mad. Read Ferber book on this; don’t think I can do what he says....not in me.

Any suggestions on how to “gently” get rid of dummy?

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 13/03/2018 21:26

Urgh. Took 5 attempts to get ds down and he's already woken up 3times. It's going to be a bad night.
I'm sure ah will be as helpful as ever, and moan about how tired he after 8/9 hours sleep.

Feeling sorry for myself today, I'd planned on reading my book while ds napped this afternoon (on me). I was so tired I just slept (I know I shouldn't have) I was glad of the sleep but wish I had time and energy to do something for me.

lizzlebizzle33 · 13/03/2018 21:33

Hi all, been a long day here, just got in from burying AH in the garden, thank you for the shovel @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs 😂

Seriously though I think he realised he had put his foot in it and was super nice all day, making me cups of tea and took ds1 out for a splash in his new wellies.

@UtterlyConfused111 I'm afraid I have no suggestions, what is it that Ferber says to do?
Ds1 never had a dummie and I seem to have the opposite with ds2, it's worked for us for a while but now he cries half the time I give it him and the other half either takes it out himself out projectiles it across the room.
I'm back to having to feed him to sleep now, I can't believe it.

We're on wake up 3 here and he's already in my bed. I think in going to have to accept this co sleeping for a while and not get so mad, he just wants to be near me.
I'm just afraid I will never get him into his own bed. And I feel completely judged by the in laws as they're always going on about BIL'd DD who's still co sleeping and is nearly 4.

Good luck for the night everyone, no doubt I'll be back soon with stingy eyes.x

FrozenMargarita17 · 13/03/2018 21:51

Bad start for dd tonight. It took me a good hour and a bit to get her down. She had some amazingly long naps today and was extremely happy. It's totally out of the ordinary so who knows what kind of night I'm going to have.

AMagdalena · 13/03/2018 21:53

2 wake ups already! DD won't be settled by AH anymore, she just cries for me. Loving separation anxiety...NOT.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 13/03/2018 22:03

Oh dear sounds like lots of us are not having the best start to the night.
Took ds to his swimming class this morning, some of the mums were talking about sleep. One had a baby who started sleeping through at a month but now (4.5 months) was waking once or twice a night, and another who dc had just started sleeping through at 6months. They looked horrified when I said ds hadn't slept for longer than 4hours since he was born...then started with the unhelpful tips.

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 13/03/2018 22:25

Ha you're very welcome @Lizzle Grin

Bad night here. DS went down at 8.30 but awake again. He's very warm so have given him calpol, he's now feeding and trumping away. He's very congested too. So I don't think much sleep will be happening here tonight!

lizzlebizzle33 · 13/03/2018 23:32

Worst night ever here, literally wpild rather be dealing with a newborn than this. He's strayed to scream bloody murder if I put I dummie in his mouth, could it be the teething?

I'm having to feed him every half hour or just non stop just to stop him from crying. This is shit. He won't even go back to sleep now.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 14/03/2018 02:39

lizzle I sometimes think it would easier going back to ds being new born, then o remember having to set my alarm so I could feed him!

I seriously give in. On wake up 6 and he's just dropped back to sleep after being awake for an hour. I can't do this.

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 14/03/2018 03:40

Hourly wakings all night. Eyeballs like concrete. Have things got any better @Lizzle?

lizzlebizzle33 · 14/03/2018 06:14

It did het slightly better here, I think longest we managed was 1.5 hours.
What s disaster of s night.

MIL keeps telling me to have a couple of drinks before bed to help baby sleep ......(it's what BF mums used to to apparently) I always thought that was a bit batshit but I think I'm warming to the idea!

Thoughts?

lizzlebizzle33 · 14/03/2018 06:15

You can tell my eyes are stingy from my awful typing!

NinaMarieP · 14/03/2018 08:35

waves I'm back...

Despite my truly dreadful cough I decided after 7 nights it was only fair that I did a night of sleeping beside the baby...

Total and utter disaster clusterfuck shitshow.

We just kept waking each other up and by 4am I'd spent so long inadvertently trying to cough quietly that I couldn't stop coughing and I well and truly woke him up. And I couldn't get him to settle again because every time he calmed down I coughed and startled him... so I had to get my AP (in my case angel partner 😂) up and it took him 20-30 minutes to settle him.

I then coughed myself silly until 6.30 when I managed 1.5 hours sleep.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 14/03/2018 10:10

nina sounds awful. Hope you feel better soon. Awful needing to cough near a sleeping baby, and not coughing makes it worse!!

lizzle strange advice from mil, not something I think would work (not that much goes into milk I think). I think co sleeping advice is not to drink. I see the temptation though....I'd love a glass or 2 of wine.

Dh has taken ds out so I'm running a bath Grin
He mentioned he was walking into town for something, so I said great you can take ds and got him ready. Given the state I'm in after last night, that he's working tonight then is away overnight Thursday and Friday for is MA he didn't question it. Going to enjoy an hour or so of peace.

lizzlebizzle33 · 14/03/2018 14:57

How is everyone's day so far? Awful weather here so we're stuck in all day. I'm going a little stir crazy. Ds1 seems to be having a no nap day and ds2 keeps trying to nap but gets woken by big bros antics.
I'm hangry and Tangry right now, no food in til tesco shows up later. I love it when food delivery comes, it's like Christmas morning 😄