Hi
My beautiful 4 week old boy is not settling for a nap in the day unless he is asleep on me or my OH. As soon as I put him down in his Moses basket or sleepyhead about 15 mins later he starts to stir and won’t settle on his own again. I’ve tried swaddling which has a mixed response. I have read and was told at antenatal that you cannot spoil a baby and that if the baby wants to cuddle then you cuddle them and meet their needs. However, we are being told by countless family members that our 4 week old can manipulate us from an early age and the words “rod for own back” have been said. So basically we are being told if we don’t leave him to cry and settle himself we will be creating all sorts of problems for ourselves and that he never will settle to sleep. I have tried to leave him to cry a few minutes and feel so guilty and he is crying real tears. Am I creating a rod for my back or should we be responding to him at this stage when he cries. And if we carry on responding to him will there be a point where he does start to self settle? Would be keen to know others views! Thank you xx