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Non-sleepers unite...

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Jellybean2017 · 18/01/2018 22:40

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is five months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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xxrealistmumxx · 27/01/2018 16:48

Grrr, app not paragraphing again!

AMagdalena · 27/01/2018 16:49

@Jellybean I can assure you that whenever you're stuck under your DS, I am probaly stuck under DD, too. If that's any consolation!

DD not interested in formula. Took a couple of sucks and the usual spitting into the bottle began, so I am not fighting it. I know she would never drink enough. Even when she was drinking EBM, she'd have 50ml at the most.
So diet, it is!

actino · 27/01/2018 20:04

Hi, everyone. Thanks for the replies about the flights, I think I will go with option 1.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs, I am from the US, but I've been in the UK for about 5 years now. I do miss it, especially now that I have my Dd. I don't fit in too well with my inlaws (no animosity, they're just very different), so I miss my family a lot.

I went for a swim today which was amazing, it feels really good to have done some real exercise. I'm now celebrating with chocolate cake.

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Jellybean2017 · 27/01/2018 22:18

Off to a bad start here. DH just suggested I go off to spare room while he tries to settle DS. Think he was joking but I agreed and am now in the spare room.. Wonder how long for 😂

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Sakura03 · 28/01/2018 03:05

No one around??Wow everyone is sleeping, how amazing is that!!!

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 28/01/2018 03:11

Very quiet here tonight! Hope you're all tucked up in bed and fast asleep...

DS woke for first feed at 1.45. Tried to resettle him but he had no interest in that. So feeding him again and hoping

@actino must be hard to be raising your family in a different country. Congratulations on the swim- I'm dying to get some exercise in but still way too tired and don't have the opportunity - would feel bad leaving DS with DH when he also has DD to.look after. Think I just need to carve time out though- problem is when DS is napping so am I!

Hope you're still in the spare room @jellybean??!

Sakura03 · 28/01/2018 03:13

Well we’re up for feed #1 after about 3 hrs sleep. Had a good day,walked with ds in the pram for 3 hrs via a couple of shops. He’s really enjoying his new play mat and it’s so much fun to watch him cooing when he kicks and bats the toys. He’s started studying our faces with his hands, so much happening😊

NinaMarieP · 28/01/2018 03:29

I'm up, feed one. Tried him in his own end tonight after 2 nights in with me/his dad... only lasted an hour once we came through to the bedroom because he got very stuffy and snorty. He was making himself unsettled with it and he was bloody loud so I propped him up on his nursing pillow beside me again and that was him for three hours.

user1489931797 · 28/01/2018 03:45

Morning everyone!!

Thank you so much for all your support and kind words!

@Sakura03 you are so right every 24hrs now seems like there's something new happening my DS making noises and cooking too nice distraction through the reflux/CMPA stresses reminds you to enjoy your ever growing and changing baby!!

We had my DS christening Saturday (yesterday) went as well as it could my mum reassured me that I cried an awful lot more he was only quiet when everyone clapped at the end he enjoyed that bit haha!

It was amazing having family and friends meet him just a stressful military operation with a distracted DH frustrating me and not listening when I needed help for instance asking him for a jug of water to cool the bottle and he passes me a small glass of water whilst sipping a cider and socialising I could've chucked it over him!

Sakura03 · 28/01/2018 04:57

We’re up again after an hour and 15 min, there is just no consistency, every night is different...

Sakura03 · 28/01/2018 05:02

Congratulations on the christening of your son user1489931797, that reminds me that I should probably start thinking about arranging my ds’ christening...

Catscatsandmorecats · 28/01/2018 05:41

Good morning everyone!

We made it on holiday, both boys were amazing on the flight/at the airport and DS2 only had a little bit of grumbling in his car seat on the way to our accommodation. Didn't manage to get them.to bed on time though - 8.30 UK time and DS1 is up for the day already! But I do want him to adjust to being an hour ahead so I'm pushing through, at least he slept through the night even in a strange bed.

DS2 not bad overnight (3 feeds) either so I got some sleep. DS1 woke him when he.got.up.but he's back.snoozing on me after.a.feed now. I'm leaving DH to sleep, he and my dad drive overnight to get the stuff here then pick us up at the airport so for once he's more.sleep deprived than me!

Actino I'd go with the first option too and well done on the swim, I bet you feel refreshed from that.

Whoateallthepercypigs just let your DH get on with it and go, you have to deal with them both on your own, so can he. When I ride, I feed DS2 then go and leave DH to get them up and DS1 to nursery, I come back in time for him to go to work and feed DS2. It's actually helping their relationships, and my mental state!

User so pleased to hear you're having a few fun times with you DS. Your description of your DH is exactly like mine when we are at a do. At one we have become infamous for me shouting 'can you do some parenting'!

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Jellybean2017 · 28/01/2018 06:11

I lasted ten minutes in the spare room @Whoateallthepercypigs 😒

Pretty rubbish night since, until about 2 when he slept for three hours! Unheard of. I was asleep long enough to have a very odd dream about looking for breadcrumbs in tesco.

Congratulations on the christening @user. I need to get one organised once we have moved house!

Glad you arrived safely @cats and hope you have a lovely time!

Right, DS asleep on me so going to try put him down and catch a few note zzz's

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actino · 28/01/2018 08:52

@Whoateallthepercypigs, your should definitely do some exercise, it feels so good afterwards. What we did was have all three of us drive down to the pool and I only left them during the actual swim, so like 40 mins. Do you run? You could all go to a park and OH could hold the baby while the toddler runs around and you get a run in.

Ok night here, I came down for a feed at 8 and our utility room had flooded! Luckily Dh troubleshoots machines as a part of his job, so he's already identified the problem.

GinUnicorn · 28/01/2018 11:51

Can someone please send me words of hope? It was all going better then since 4 months she won't go down in her Moses basket and only sleeps with me cuddling her. Got about an hours sleep and my back and shoulders are killing me :(

This will get better right? :(

xxrealistmumxx · 28/01/2018 14:33

Hope your enjoying your holiday catscatsandmorecats!

Congrats on the Christening user

GinUnicorn really sorry to hear how rough it is at the moment. LO was the same through the 4 month regression. Just remember that everything is a phase for the first year. It will change. Hugs to you.

Lost the plot yesterday. Ended up arguing with DH and crying a lot. I'm just so sick of the terrible nights. I can handle the waking and feeding it's the constant fussing and crying that destroys me. Another night of just a snatched hour / 30 mins here and there. It's too much. I feel like everyone on here gets the odd ok night but it's never the case here Sad I have that awful feeling of being pushed way past my limit mixed with the despondency of knowing there's sod all I can do about it and I just have to keep going. Torturous

UtterlyConfused111 · 28/01/2018 17:05

@user1489931797
Congrats on the christening

@cats
Have a great holiday! That’s brave, I’ve just come back from a night at my mother in laws and it was awfully difficult

@xxrealistmum
I know what you mean about being pushed past limits. Thank you for your lovely words earlier, it’s a hard job and it seems a bit of a relentless grind sometimes. It will end though - stay strong.

UtterlyConfused111 · 28/01/2018 17:10

I’m having a new nightmare: I’ve been low as going back to work and plan was for my mum to help/oversee a nanny. I don’t trust anyone with the kids really except family, even though I know there are many nice and reliable nannies out there who won’t be evil to the babies. Anyway this is now not happening and I have to find a full time nanny while I go back to work (nursery doesn’t work because of my hours and commute, and my work won’t do part time). I don’t want to go back to work; but that is what it is. I have started looking for nannies; it’s all super depressing.
DD2 doesn’t sleep still and DD1 is struggling with settling at preschool.

WorldPeasAndSweetcorn · 28/01/2018 17:12

Can I join? I don't have a child yet but I don't sleep

UtterlyConfused111 · 28/01/2018 17:19

And to complete my whinge - both kids have horrible colds and coughs which just don’t seem to be going away! DD1 has been snotty for a week and now is coughing; DD2 is bunged up not sleeping and coughing....
I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel.... this cold is literally not going away!

GinUnicorn · 28/01/2018 17:29

Realistmum thanks for the reassurance and hugs back. Sorry it's been so tough for you. I guess we need to keep reminding ourselves it will pass

GinUnicorn · 28/01/2018 17:30

I think Flowers are needed all around at the moment. We can do this xx

UtterlyConfused111 · 28/01/2018 18:36

Gah. Think I’ll have a glass of wine.
Hugs to everyone
@xxrealistmum
You are a hero. This will end at some point and you will sleep again...

AMagdalena · 28/01/2018 19:36

@realistmum it will get better, I promise! I know those sleepless nights are relentless followed by mornings where you struggle to keep your eyes open. It's awful.
I still hold DD for naps and co-sleep and she has only recenty started doing longer stretches (I can forget sleeping through, though). Unfortunately we have shit sleepers (ok, my DD probably gets disturbed by her bowels), but you will get more sleep. Even shit sleepers needs to catch up on zzz's eventually.

We got a problem. DD is having an extracurricular nap. To push bedtime or not is the question...

Catscatsandmorecats · 28/01/2018 19:52

xxrealistmumxx it will get better at some point but I know that doesn't help now. You are doing an amazing job keep reminding yourself.

Amagdalena the phrase extra curricular nap made me nearly lol with a sleepy DS2 on the boob, what a great way to describe it. I hope it worked out.

DS2 has not adjusted to an hour earlier yet, he was wide awake and causing trouble at bedtime and has woken for an extra bedtime feed now. DS1 was so knackered he fell asleep as soon as he put his head on the pillow.

Thanks to those wishing me a happy holiday, it's been a great first day, at one point I was sat on the side if the slope bfing and watching DH and DS1 ski. I got a couple of whizzes down the baby slopes and a bath thanks to my parents. I am relaxing as much as you can on holiday with a three year old and four month old and it is great. I think the sunshine is helping too.