The great non-sleepers, newborn and beyond.

[NinaMarieP]

Thread number four (I think).

Welcome to all past posters and any new ones who are also up at all hours!

Ds is fidgety tonight. He's not settling as well as normal. I've already had to pick him up and reload. I just need him to settle so I can nip downstairs to move the flipping elf before dd gets up. I forgot. She won't be getting anything from the elf this morning in her advent because of her behaviour yesterday. I'll feel bad about that but she was not herself yesterday. Tearing boundaries, shouting and generally doing everything we told her not to do. I said to dh that it was probably the naughtiest I've ever seen her. So. No gift from the elf.

Ds seems settled. Deployed EBLL which is helping.

Gotta love that left leg 👌

Sorry for typos, too tired to correct them!

I really want a cookie the size of my head right now.

Good luck @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs, everything's crossed for you. I'm off to sort the elf.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs a Ben's cookie 😍 YES!!!

Ha hashtag we have another year's grace before the sodding elf makes an appearance!

I've been playing white noise to DS. Currently on mellow heartbeat. Beginning to hate this sound...

My twins have been tagteaming me since midnight. One is now standing in his cot yelling DADADADADA! with glee. I love him but if he doesn't stop it I'm putting him on freecycle.

Or Stollen. We now have some in the house for Christmas...but we can always buy more, right??

Bought cookies the other day, four big ones from the bakery. A day later DH announces he really fancies 'one of those cookies we bought.' Heads to the kitchen, returns looking confused. 'They're all gone! How can that be??' Me: wipes crumbs off face, attempts to look innocent

Ooft @Tammy twins - that is impressive! How on earth do you persuade them both to sleep??

I have ordered the most amazing looking dessert from M&S. I thought I'd treat myself us on Christmas Day!

So the elf is folding her arms and has left a note to explain why dd doesn't get a gift in the morning.

Wasn't sure what elf writing looked like
Hope dd doesn't find the practice notes in the kitchen bin. I buried them but it would be my luck she somehow got to find them.

Totally eat the Stollen.

Ewan's legs are too clicky. When I need to deploy the leg, I push the button but it clicks at exactly the moment I need it not to. This makes the resetting of the leg a nerve wracking task 😬

Err.... I don't. Ever. They've just finished ancoirse of antibiotics for ear infections so it's been a hideous week of no sleep. Two nights ago one slept through for the first time ever and I thought maybe things were turning around. Nope!

Well I gave in and DS came in bed with me and he slept 4 hours. I think I'm going to have to go with the flow. Try the cot and then co sleep if it doesn't work.

Co sleeping just makes me ache all over and I don't like how unsafe it feels.

This parenting thing is hard, I do want another one. Just want this sleep sorted first

Hi all. Im on feed 2 i think since 10.40pm which is good going. Hopefully DS is settling again after a horror show last week of waking every 90mins ish to feed for 45mins......after a couple of weeks of 1 feed a night (no kidding) I wondered what the hell had happened until my wonder weeks app pinged to say DS was in leap 3.

So I spent 6 days feeding non stop what I can only describe as an angry bear. Ironically it was also the week I was asked to monitor sleep patterns by my postnatal group (awake times, nap times etc) so my sheet looked like I had attempted to rewrite encyclopedia Britannica. My feedback was that they needed to provide more paper....

Anyway. I'm hoping this week will be a quiet one to build up to xmas..DH has been so stressed at work we could all do with some family time minus the MIL

As for another.....I probably would. But God knows what age gap. Childcare costs would determine that I guess 😞

Thank you all for so much support
We're all traumatised at the moment but I suspect within a couple of years mother nature might make us forget just how bad it can get. I'm 35 and really feeling my age.

In theory we slept for 7 hours in total with only one feed in between. But he was squirming and thrashing all night and I was semi awake the whole time, I don't think either of us slept restfully. I feel like I've been up all night.

Told my husband the only way I'd be willing to entertain the idea of another baby was if we moved to where my family lives. No way in hell I'd be willing to go through coping with two small children with no family support again. Both our families leave far away, although his are closer.
My mother is very hands on. His mother not so much... When they were visiting a few weeks ago, she decided she'd rather go shopping until my husband returns from work than stick around and help with the baby

Ah @Ven83 we don't have any family near either. Dh doesn't really have any (backstory) and mine are over an hours drive away so we get no help either. Also helps with the age gap as dd is at school so when this one starts nursery I won't have to pay for both.

My family live over the road from me. Although my parents are nearly at retirement age they both still work full time so can only help occasionally in small bursts. Having DD has being far more isolating than I possibly could have imagined. I'm hoping the new year will be better for us as we starting some classes together.

My husband also believes I'm not serious about never having another baby. I'm going to get a copper coil put in ASAP to make sure that she remains an only one.

@theotherendofthesockportal Isolation is soul crushing :( I didn't properly leave the house until he was 6 weeks, everything was just too stressful and chaotic before. Once we started to attend baby groups, it instantly made me feel better and feel much less lonely. I make a point of leaving the house every day now, if only for a walk around the block. My advice is to attend as many groups as you can.

Having DD has being far more isolating than I possibly could have imagined. I'm hoping the new year will be better for us as we starting some classes together.

I've signed up for some classes starting in January when DD will be 7 weeks. It's a daunting prospect but I have to start getting out and meeting people because I feel the same regarding isolation. I've been getting out most days for fresh air and I have friends and family near me but they are all at work all day so many days I don't talk to an adult until DH gets home.

I've been doing baby sensory and we've really enjoyed that and I've signed up for sing and sign in January as well. My sister has 2 year old twins so we go to a toddler group together as well. They do really help to fill the days

DD was a good 'n last night. I actually woke her up at 2am because I thought her nappy would soak through. In yer face, DD!

Having a baby is isolating. I have found it so anyway. My family live in a different country, DH's family only down the road, but they rarely visit. I am going to stay woth my family for a month in the new year as I need a change of scenery.
DD was a screamer for the first 3 months, so classes didn't really tempt me. New Year, new start, though.
DD might be an only child if I go on what DH has been saying. I have been a bit traumatised by the birth, too. We shall revisit the subject in 4 years or so.

DS is also a screamer. We do baby sensory but whenever I take him out I feel it's a race against time before he is grumpy. Plus he hates the car and pram so he will only go in the sling... He's getting heavier by the day! So we don't get out much either, try to go for a walk when it's not rainy though!

He's asleep on me as a type. Would love a cup of tea! ☕

*@Jellybean*I keep telling you our LO's will be chilled toddlers!

Sod's law. Paediatrics referral has come through. Appoinent offered on 28th December! Can't attend as not in the country!
I am going to go private in my hometown as my mum knows someone good, apparently. I shall return prepared, then.

Whatever 'appoinent' is...

My twins are 15 months and I've never been to a baby group. Taking them out to anything like that is pretty overwhelming. No family around at all, haven't had so much as an afternoon "off" since they came home from hospital, and the first months were super tough as one was in for three months (with a brief spell at home at 2 months). I need a hysterectomy, currently on hold while I decide if I want another, but that seems impossible so don't think it will happen and don't think I could face another birth either.