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Awake with newborn, anyone else? :)

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Jellybean2017 · 14/08/2017 01:35

My little boy is nine days old. He sleeps pretty well during the day but at night just wants to be held and breastfed. He doesn't settle in his moses basket at night (but he will quite often do so during the day)

Anyone else up doing the same?! I'm not keen on the idea of co-sleeping but would be grateful for any advice. Baby sleeps in a gro-snug and we have a dream sheep but I'm guessing this frequent feeding and love of cuddles in the night is probably just par for the course at this early stage? 😊 I am napping during the day so I'm probably averaging about 6 hrs sleep in a 24 hr period.

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GinUnicorn · 03/10/2017 02:27

This gives me hope for the future! On night feed 2 currently x

Milliemoo37 · 03/10/2017 03:48

I'm home from hospital with a 2 day old DS. I had a little weep because I'm downstairs with him asleep in my arms because he just won't settle anywhere else. The cat just stretched and meaowed in her sleep. DFiance is in bed asleep so he can take over during the day. Just felt really emotional because I finally have a little family and it feels good.

AMagdalena · 03/10/2017 04:27

There is light at the end of the tunnel indeed!

DD did a 5hr stretch, then decided she needs to eat (fair enough) and talk to me at 3am Hmm After fighting sleep for a while, she's finally dozing off...

Millie congratulations! It feels good, doesn't it :)

Lwarnock · 03/10/2017 04:39

Having similar issues with jellybean2017. DS is 8 days old and is a dream in the day- will sleep or lay awake confent in his sleepyhead (usually if awake I play with him). He feeds almost every hour for around 15 mins on one breast but has started to have random times of 3/4 hours in between. At night, I have to hold him constantly or he won't sleep at all. I am so tired have turned to watching a series on the tablet to keep awake while DS is on my chest

GinUnicorn · 03/10/2017 05:47

Now on feed 4. Zzzzz misery loves company though xx

GinUnicorn · 03/10/2017 05:49

Millie congratulations!

UnbornMortificado · 03/10/2017 07:34

AMagdalena that's fantastic

Congratulations Millie Flowers

We made a bit of progress 12 then 4. DS is 12 weeks but on oxygen which he likes to pull out and chew on. Luckily he only really needs it for feeds so if we miss him pulling them out it's not a massive issue.

Milliemoo37 · 03/10/2017 09:00

Thank you guys. Smile

Be strong everyone. I think we're all doing fantastic jobs.

yolkybokey · 04/10/2017 01:56

After a great night yesterday DS has refused to settle tonight, I could only get him to sleep by putting him in the sling, which means I am now awake on the sofa Hmm
There doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to why he can sleep really well one night and then refuse to sleep the next!

AMagdalena · 04/10/2017 02:17

yolkybokey how old is your lo? I think the lack of consistency is just part of their development including 45 min sleep cycles. They just don't know how to sleep and have so much growing to do at this stage.
It will get easier :) On a couple of occasions I really thought I would never sleep again Grin

DD did another 5hr and woke herself up farting... Hmm She will be glad to find out when she's older what her nickname was as a baby Grin
Finally falling asleep after numerous attempts to engage me in a conversation.

yolkybokey · 04/10/2017 04:04

Magda he's 7 weeks, so you're right that he's just learning! I'm really looking forward to when he becomes more responsive like your LO.

DS is a farter too Grin I call him parpy pants

k567 · 04/10/2017 06:32

Parpy pants, that’s so cute.

I’ve been awake throughout the night with my 7 week old sleeping on my chest, not because he’s kept me awake but because I’ve been feeling so angry with the MIL and just needed to hug him.

I don’t invite her round but if she ever asks to come round or would suggest we go out for coffee anywhere I would always say yes. So yesterday she wanted to come round to spend time with our son. During the visit I find out she had been to her other sons house who is ‘really ill’ (got a cold) just before coming and holding our baby. Thanks for the germs!!!!
Then she gets a ‘well timed’ text from her daughter and I get some rehearsed story about how she was supposed to go to hers for dinner today so could she and her husband come round to ours too and see the baby. I reluctantly said ok. I should have said no. It was obviously planned between them because the daughter is too immature to communicate to us ourselves and can’t do anything by herself.
So then times getting on and my baby is getting cranky because it’s nearly his bedtime and they eventually turn up. This sends MIL into her element and into show-off mode. The situation develops into the three of them passing him backwards and forwards and him getting more and more grumpy because it’s his bedtime. He is screaming and I can’t let him scream like that so I took him off the husband and held him. The MIL and the daughter are rudely whispering about how I’m holding him wrong and they don’t like it (well piss off then) because I’m not faffing about holding his neck likes he’s a piece of glass. During feeding I also got told I was burping him wrong.
Then the MIL asks for a final hold before she goes and during holding him she says ‘you’re going to cry when you go back to the mummy!’

So these all might seem like little comments or I’m being sensitive but this is why I do not invite her round. My partner is going to have a word with her. She can be tolerated if she is on her own but even then she can’t take a hint of when it’s time for her to go home. If the daughter is bothered about seeing him she can arrange for a different day to her mother. Note - DAY time not evening.

I’m annoyed I spent yesterday trying to get all the housework done to make the house look presentable between looking after my baby. I shouldn’t have bothered and just spent the day with him instead - which is what I fully intend on doing today. I have spent the last 50 days and nights loving him and looking after him and trusting my instincts. I do not need to be told I’m holding him wrong or feeding him wrong by a woman who has met him twice. Thank you for allowing me to vent.

UnbornMortificado · 04/10/2017 08:13

K5 she sounds insufferable, how do you burp a baby wrong ffs HmmAngry

Everyone loves having an opinion where babies are concerned, mostly when it's none of there business.

Hope you have a better day today.

NinaMarieP · 04/10/2017 08:38

I’ve been up pretty much all night as yesterday morning was his first immunisations. He has slept on and off, mostly in bed beside me but has whimpered and groaned the whole time and woken frequently. We also had a trip to out f hours at 2.30am because his temperature had gone up to 38 again.

AMagdalena · 04/10/2017 08:40

k567, sounds a bit like my PILs! They always turn up late or when it's really inconvenient! FIL insists on coming over every Friday eve and it's a habit I am trying to break.
He also turned up with my niece full of nasty col when I was heavily pregnant. Had no choice, but be quite blunt with him...

yolkybolkey you should see a massive change in him very soon, then! I noticed a huge change in my DD at 8 weeks (last week). Now she's like a different baby.
Dom't know whether it's simply development or her reflux meds, but she has definitely changed!

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Jellybean2017 · 04/10/2017 17:43

K567 that sounds a nightmare!

Nina how's your little boy now? Better I hope. We had immunisations on Monday. Have had so many dirty nappies since 🙈

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NinaMarieP · 04/10/2017 19:08

He’s about 95% back to his usual self now, thanks. We’ve not have more dirty nappies but boy have they stunk!!

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Jellybean2017 · 04/10/2017 21:16

That's good. Yes the smell is quite different to usual, hoping that won't last too much longer!!

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AMagdalena · 04/10/2017 22:13

And here we go again, up 30mins after being placed in the crib 🙈
DD not feeling generous tonight? Sad

GinUnicorn · 05/10/2017 02:56

My little one is up again too. No dirty nappies this time so likely an hour until I get a present of changing her too. I got 3 hours last night bliss! Tonight looks tough. Sending all of you sleepless people solidarity hugs

Magda I guess at least occasional nights with 5 hours help right?

K567 sounds awful think i I would have lost it!

AMagdalena · 05/10/2017 04:27

I got a few hours (sort of). DD settled in bed with me. It's one of those nights, I suppose.

Unicorn, I love those late night present. Can't be missed Grin

Ookmybanana · 05/10/2017 04:39

Morning! I thought I'd lost you all. I'm up doing a feed. We've generally been going from midnight to 4.30/5 am but need a feed then. Interesting to hear others talking about their immunisation experiences as it's our turn today. I'm not looking forward to it at all. I don't have a thermometer, is it worth getting one to keep an eye on his temperature post immunisation?

MrsLilymunster · 05/10/2017 04:46

Last night she was awake from 2am onwards. Not crying lots but wouldn't settle at all/needing feeding constantly! So tonight she slept 11-4!! Yayyyyyyy

AMagdalena · 05/10/2017 05:08

Ookmybanana, my DD was fine after her first immunisations. She had a slightly raised temperature and was a little grumpy the following day, but she can be a fuss pot anyway, so who knows if it was down to the vaccines.
I would probably get a thermoneter in case your LO runs a fever. You don't want it getting too high. I use a cheapy Boots one.

Dare I out DD back in her crib to get a couple of hours? Mmm

GinUnicorn · 05/10/2017 05:47

Magda not only did I get a present she also peed all over me during her change! Now to try and get her back to sleep. It's been a loooong night