Awake with newborn, anyone else? :)

[Jellybean2017]

My little boy is nine days old. He sleeps pretty well during the day but at night just wants to be held and breastfed. He doesn't settle in his moses basket at night (but he will quite often do so during the day)

Anyone else up doing the same?! I'm not keen on the idea of co-sleeping but would be grateful for any advice. Baby sleeps in a gro-snug and we have a dream sheep but I'm guessing this frequent feeding and love of cuddles in the night is probably just par for the course at this early stage? 😊 I am napping during the day so I'm probably averaging about 6 hrs sleep in a 24 hr period.

Nina you've had a couple of really good nights. Let's hope they continue!

Welcome Gizmo, the early days are really tough. I think I felt at my most hopeless and sleep deprived in week 2-3 but turned a corner after three weeks. I still don't get enough sleep though! As you can see from those of us who have posted, there's no pattern really. My baby is 6 weeks on Sunday and hasn't done longer than 4.5 hours at once. I don't mind the wake ups but I do find my mental state suffers if he doesn't settle before midnight. Which he did last night thankfully!

Panda good luck with the feeding team. Let us know how it goes.

Cross posted with Lady, well done on the 10-5! Less good on the vomit!

@Lallypopstick my little one REFUSED the soother!! But got this from pharmacy and she absolutely loves it :) good luck x

We had an evening of cluster feeding yesterday, from about 7 till 11. Was so worried it would go on all night! We settled him into the crib but he woke for more milk! However he did go off to sleep at midnight for 2ish hours, woke for more milk around 2.30 then slept until nappy change around 3. He fed again and I tried to settle him in the crib a few times before he dropped off until just before 6! Fed again then slept til 8ish.

I agree things are so random in the initial weeks. I do think my mindset is adjusting though and I am coming to terms with the fact you have to take each night as it comes!

Great stuff, Lady. I would definitely think a big vomit was a good trace off for a few hours sleep!

I'm just waiting for a horrible regression or for it to just go all wrong any day/week now!

I wouldn't mind the sleepless nights so much but at the moment we have so many visitors naps in the day time are proving difficult. I was also in hospital for 5 days before I even had him so was running on low sleep before we even began!

I know what you mean about visitors. I wish I had the strength to tell people not to come / to go home in the early days! Now I just tell people it would be nice to see them for 30 mins or an hour and try to limit to one visitor per day. Felt like a horrible person to start with but you have to do what you can to survive!

Agree survival mode for the first 6 weeks, at least. DS is 10 weeks and I'm only just starting to feel things are reaching a sort of equilibrium.
You need your sleep; if it means being rude to people then so be it!

I limit visitors to every other day and afternoon only. If I don't get a nap one day then I will absolutely need it the next day!

And I do afternoons because DS mostly sleeps which means I can give him to visitors for cuddles and I get to chat without having a baby hanging off my breast! Had one set of evening visitors last week and DS just wouldn't settle and I was really stressed as I couldn't chat properly and settle him at the same time!

Ah Jelly do we have the same baby?! Dd is 3 weeks and literally we are having the exact same thing as you. I feel normal reading your posts saying 'me too!' Gosh it's hard. I thought I was the only one. I think I would be happy with a regular 4 hours uninterrupted at this stage!! Alas some nights I'm lucky to get 45 mins. Cluster feeding so tough! She just seems permanently hungry in the evenings.

Will definitely be coming on here tonight!

I hope everyone's evening goes well!

Baby hasn't napped for more than 10 minutes since half 9 this morning. He's shattered but nothing is working. I'll be here all night no doubt!

Oh no, Lally. It's so awful when they're like that. We've had a couple of days when he's been like that for 8-10 hours and it's so tough even with two people handling it.

Hi very' Hang on in there. Things will change.
Sorry to hear that, Lally. They say good day sleep leads to good night sleep, and that was the case for DD, but I can't say I've noticed a pattern with DS.

Ahh very you must have the female version of my baby 😊 we had another cluster this evening although seems to have finished. He is very fussy this evening though, not sure how I will transition him from my arms to the cot...

Hope you're ok Lally, and everyone else!

My boyfriend took the baby for a walk in the pram so I could get a bit of sleep, and now he's asleep in his arms. Typical, I feed him and try and soothe him all day, and he gets the glory! We're scared to put him in the cot (same as you Jelly) in case he wakes up again.

I've been scoffing at the 'sleep when the baby sleeps' advice today - what about when the baby doesn't sleep?!

I'd heard that daytime sleep promotes more nighttime sleep too Lady but I've not noticed a difference really (yesterday was lots of day sleep and the day before was like today, with no real difference in the night other than settling earlier yesterday).

I hope your night is better than your day was lally hang in there!

Dd has been feeding since 9 too jelly I'm going to attempt to put her in her basket after this. So I can sleep. She has had a fussy day where she wouldn't settle in her basket so not holding out much hope she will settle there now!

Good luck everyone!

We've had 3 hours sleep already just up for the first feed of the night. We are wide awake though.

Still fussy! Tried to put him in the crib three times. Think I will be up all night 😭

You and me both Jelly 😫 I've resigned myself to another bad night. Tempted to get some infacol as I'm sure half the problem is wind. Hmm

I keep telling myself it's a phase which will pass and one day in the very distant future I will be nagging her to get of bed for school or something!

Might be worth a try!

I have tried putting baby down again, got screamed at again!

My husband keeps snoring next to me which doesn't help matters! 😊 not his fault he can't feed the baby though... Will be waking him up to do next nappy!!

Just put TV on which I don't normally do in the night as baby is already confused with days and nights! Nothing on anyway but needed something to stop me falling asleep. Could just try putting baby in the crib again, that's bound to wake me!

I hope you're all getting some sleep now. We're up unusually early. Doesn't help that DS is snotty and can't breathe. I think I've squirted half a bottle of saline up his nose!

Hi all my LO finally arrived - she's been feeding off an on since 2am - nipples are getting pretty tired!!

Verysleepymum when my little one wasn't napping at all yesterday, I said to my partner that I'm never letting him have a lie in as a smelly teenage boy as payback.

This is our first wake up since settling around midnight. We put him down about 11.30 and he woke up, then had a feed and he's slept since then. I hope we get another couple of hours before the next wake up too.

I'm using Infacol Very. It does seem to help. And he just loves taking it as well, absolutely laps it up!

I woke my LO for a feed around 11 (and boy did he take a lot of waking even though he'd been asleep for at least 3 hours). We all went to bed just before 12, and he woke at 4:45 so pretty good going.

jelly sometimes it's a tv kind of night. I'm not sure they are even aware of day and night at this age!

I hope DS feels better soon lady

Congratulations Glenn! Get some lanolish cream (if you haven't already!)

That's amazing lally and Nina 5 hours! How old are your little ones?

I'm going to pop to boots and get some today nina poor dd looks like she is in pain again. Dd slept in her basket 2:30 until just now when she woke for a feed! I'm in shock - I think that's her longest sleep since she was born!