Peaceloveandbiscuits update

[peaceloveandbiscuits]

I can't find my thread from a couple of weeks ago, but need some support tonight. You were all amazing before.

We went on holiday last week and I napped as much as possible so I'd be up for sleep training in earnest when we got back. Well tonight is the night. He had milk in a bottle downstairs before his bath, which I'll be phasing out after a week in favour of a bit of milk in a cup, or none at all. He's been screaming like a banshee for an hour now and has been sick twice. I was timing him and going in to resettle at intervals of 3 minutes, 5, 8, then going back to the beginning, but after the second vom bomb I'm sitting in his room while he screeches at me.

I will not give in. He will not have milk. He will sleep.

Veggie it is so rotten isn't it? I'm sorry I wasn't here for you last night - I think DS slept through! Until now, that is.
It is horrible listening to them cry, but she's just angry that she's not getting her milk, she's perfectly safe and warm and she doesn't need three night feeds. You could offer her water?

Oh no veggie- how was the rest of the night? Like peace said, she's just angry and the more you persist, the more milk and food she'll have during the day to make up for the reduced calories at night. That's why I've been putting it off- because in any given night I'd rather do a quick fix than tackle it. But the alternative is no sleep for months or, potentially, years.
Good luck and let us know how it went xx

Peace- great that your DS slept through!!

That's fab that your DS slept well Peace!

Willow took just over 2 hours to go back to sleep doing cc! She then didn't wake till 4am and I gave her a feed then. She then slept till 8.30am which is late for her but she was obviously shattered!

Do you think I have buggered it up by still doing the 4am feed? As its not consistent is it? Or do you think it will be ok to continue this way? I'm so confused! And tired!

You definitely haven't buggered it up. Maybe if it makes you more comfortable, drop the 11pm and 2am feeds first, then in a weeks time drop the other one. Be consistent on the other 2 though- maybe definitely don't feed her before 4.30am and stick to that. Once that's established, you can push back 4.30am to 5am and so on. Well done xxx

Yes that's a good idea, thank you .

I think two hours on your first night is marvellous! Remember it will only get better from now on. The first night is the worst.

30 minutes into night 2! I hope you guys are all having good sleep!

How was it, veggie?

And Peace, would you say you've cracked it now?

I've cracked the milk, but he still woke up and pissed about for over an hour at 1am last night I don't think he ate enough dinner and was feeling hungry.

2 hours again, which was hard work. But she didn't wake up again for a feed till this morning! So she slept from 1am till 8am!

Veggie that's great. Real progress! X

Peace- hopefully when the calories have been caught up with during the day it will correct itself and there won't be any more messing around in the night. It's just the inconsistency that's hard isn't it- you never know from one day to the next what kind of night you're going to have

I'm a bit late to this, hope you don't mind me joining in........

I too need to cut out night feeds. Ds is 14 months old and goes to bed with a sippy of cows milk. We're doing geadualbqithdrawal and getting on great with that. I've just sat in his doorway after putting him in his cot with milk and mobile on. Asleep in 15 minutes. However, he wakes several times alight, I Co sleep and bf back to sleep after the first one (anything from 9.30 to 3am!!) and then he will roll over in his sleep wanting to comfort feed. If I don't let him he wakes. Also 5.5 months pregnant. He eats well, and is still in my room.

My plan is to put him in his own room and stop bf at night. Any suggestions on how to proceed?

Day 3 of CC and I didn't have to do anything! She slept from 7pm till 2am, quick bottle and back to sleep till 8am! I'm more than happy to continue with just 1 night feed, so hopefully she will continue like this. Surely it can't be that easy though?! Fingers crossed for tonight! .

Hello Notalota, if you have the nerves for it CC appears to be very successful with quick results!

Yay veggie!!!

I went in to DS at 2am last night but was only there for a few minutes before he laid back down and I was able to leave the room before he fell back to sleep. Felt like a win!

Notta I or someone else will get back to you soon

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Fantastic Peace! I just hope our success continues! I honestly can't imagine having a few nights of consecutive decent sleep, I will feel like a new woman .

That's so encouraging. I still haven't started sleep training as there seem to be so many different problems and no pattern to them. She's recently started waking at 6am ish and having a bottle then just screaming, whereas before she'd have a bottle then go back to bed until 7.30am. She's also been guzzling milk in the evening- 3 feeds between 6.30pm and 10.30pm yesterday. I don't know how to start- am considering phoning a sleep trainer and getting them on board

I don't have the nerves for it I'm.afraid. I can just about manage the tired moaning he's doing atm, but even that is hard as I've just got in from work and I feel mean sitting here ignoring him. It's great that it works so well and quickly, and I'd possibly manage it if he were older but not now. Also his dad would probably have a nervous breakdown!

Putting him in his own room will do wonders, because you won't be disturbing each other awake anymore.

Angel, I used a sleep consultant a few months ago, and initially it was successful. It was using very gentle sleep training techniques, but unfortunately my dd seems to be very strong willed, and following the initial success she just stopped sleeping again .

When you say gentle techniques, what kind of thing? Do you mean Sarah Ockwell Smith type things? I'd be interested in what she suggested and why they didn't work in the longer term....

It was the Cheshire Baby Whisperer, she advocates an approach using all the senses. It involved filling the cot with toys, and having "play time" in the cot before sleep, amongst other things. She helped me take away the negative sleep associations, and it really did work, just as my little one got older and more strong willed I ended up falling into bad habits again such as feeding to sleep!