High Needs baby support thread

[LittlePixieMa]

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club

Oh she also has cmpa but no noticeable symptoms for months as I've been dairy and soya free. I do wonder if her bad sleep is related though even if her symptoms are under control

Welcome Delice and Fluff! Fluff I see you've migrated from the 'sleepless' thread to here too! How's nursery going?

Pixie the plan was to start trying this summer But my plan is now to move it a bit so I can have a bit of a life first perhaps late autumn. I'd like to wait till after Christmas actually, but we'll see how it goes with DD. I'm a little hazy on what we need to do to make a baby, but I understand we need to at least be in the same bed for a bit?? In which case we would fail miserably right now I hear you on the arguments Pixie. DH and I have had some shockers since DD arrived. I've seriously feared for our marriage at times. Hardly surprising - a new baby will disrupt your relationship, that's a given, but when you've not shared a room in months, when sex goes out the window and one of you is horribly sleep deprived and resentful...well, if we get through this we can get through anything.

How's everyone's evenings looking? Very full on day for DD here so hopeful of a better night I'm so foolish

Nursery is going well actually, she naps there (wtf!!!) and has actually taken a bit of ebm from a sippy cup. She cries when I leave but I watched through the door and she quickly gets on with other stuff and is apparently obsessed with playing with everything and not too interested in her key worker just yet. She's only in 2 mornings a week at the mo though and I'm supposed to be working full time so not sure how I'm going to manage to squeeze 50 hours of work into 10 but never mind!

Welcome Fluffi I hear you on the comfort sucking!! DS comfort sucks for a very long time in his sleep! That's good that nursery is working out

Awful day here! DS wouldn't / couldn't crawl. Screamed in pain every time he tried (he's 10 months and been crawling for 5 months so very odd behaviour). In the end we went to A&E worried that he may have fractured a finger or wrist. They said its Transient Synovitis which is hip pain and should go within a week or so. Poor chap. Never seen him soooo sad. Seems a bit better now but will not go to sleep which is actually the normal every single bloody night

Purple snap, feared for our marriage. High needs babies do put a lot of strain on them. Poor men not getting anything a blow up sex doll would be more fun than me

Hi delice! My ds is much the same.

Did you view the house little? Hope ds is feeling better soon

Fluff, I remember you from the other threads (I used to be zombie but name changed). Sorry to see your still here. Ds was rubbish at solids too, I had to swap from blw to purées for a bit to up his solids/reduce milk intake.

Not imagining a good night here. Ds has only just gone to bed, have been on phone to 111 most the night being passed around as he's had a big reaction. They booked an appointment... He fell asleep as they booked it so it got cancelled for now, just going to keep an eye on him. Poor little guy probably his worst reaction to date. No idea what's set it off.

Gonna be a shit night here...DD awake for the fourth time, comfort sucking away and pulling my hair. Why the fuck can she just not sleep!! Think this might be the 9 month regression gives hollow laugh

Am up too, have been for quite a while now so unbelievably tired.

I think I'm going to have to stop cosleeping, it allows us all to get sleep but I've noticed dd is getting hot in bed against me and on our memory foam mattress. Her head was sweaty last night and that's only going to get worse as the weather gets better.

Beginning to think I do have a high needs baby. We seem ok ish in the pram at the moment but crying has increased (I thought it was meant to go down after 6 weeks....!) and she's hardly sleeping day or night. She'll do half an hour naps, but only after screaming hysterically (I can never catch her sleep window or whatever it's called!) but only up to a total of about 3 hours a day max (normally 2 and a bit!) and at night were lucky to get 2-4 hour segments! DH just met someone else with a 10 week old who slept 7 hours last night! Gah why me, why did I get the non-sleeping, non-napping baby! Anyone else LO seriously unhappy when they're awake ATM the moment too - mine is crying all the time and hardly smiles  - I feel like I am seriously harming her and ruining her development

Yep liberty I feel exactly the same I hate hearing other people go on about their babies sleeping through, I know it's bad of me but it really winds me up and makes me think I'm doing something wrong.

Trying to get him to squeeze in a quick nap before dinner because he's crazy tired but he's just fighting if.

Hugs ducky

Hugs Ducky and welcome Liberty. Ducky, were you Zombie Meow? Sorry to see you back. For your own sake - I'd hoped your silence meant sleep had improved! That sucks.

Ugh I have a cold starting, feel rubbish and expecting a bad night ahead...

Liberty mine was like that, it was cows milk allergy. I came off dairy and she's a different baby, worth a try, or putting on dairy free formula if you're ff.

I've realised that feeding to sleep isn't working anymore. Anyone else had this? Hoping it's a blip, she wants the nipple but it's taking ages for her to fall asleep with it. Tonight she's been biting too so I ended up rocking her to sleep, somethings I'd weaned her off months and months ago I'm really hoping she's teething or something and it will pass! Unlike 99% of the Internet I was very happy with feeding to sleep!

Yes that was me purple!

fluff I was very happy feeding to sleep too but it stopped working for us aswell.... Infact most things have stopped working for us

fluff what are the symptoms of cmpa? I thought there was something about poo?! She is mixed fed,mainly bf with about 9-10oz of formula top up a day because she was so slow to get back to birth weight (took 6 weeks!)

Symptoms differ, for us it was mainly intense crying in the evenings and a lot of crying and grumpiness during the day. Poor weight gain is also a symptom as is poor sleep and napping.

I've found medical help to be awful, so it was easier for me to self diagnose and sort it out myself, but as you combi feed you'd need some prescription formula and go off dairy yourself to see - takes a few weeks for it to come out of yours and the baby's systems. Seriously though, it was the best thing i ever did.

Yes and they can get green mucous and bloody nappies but mine didn't so I wouldn't rely on that to diagnose

Aww Liberty you're not harming her development, this is what high needs baby's are like it does get easy though, they are so much happier when they are mobile!!* * DS is dairy and egg intolerant, he was much happier when I stopped eating those......

Fluffi snap! DS want to feed to sleep, but
Can't fall asleep!! I'm having to sling him to sleep, then transfer and shove a boob in to keep him asleep! Thought my boobs were faulty!!

Liberty my ds is also cmpa. His symptoms are bad eczema, a full body rash, reflux and stomach cramps, screaming day and night, explosive mucous nappies which eventually turn to bloody nappies

Anyone about? Bad times here.

Ds woke again and won't settle down unless I'm holding him and sitting up. I got him to sleep and put him in his cot and he's wide awake and hysterical until I pick him up again. Just had a full blown emotional breakdown sobbing my eyes out telling my husband I can't cope he's with him now and I'm in bed. I'm embarrassed and ashamed of myself

Oh ducky! Hope it's got better. Illness or teething??

After trying to feed to sleep last night and getting my nipple gripped between teeth several times I gave up and rocked her which worked but can't help thinking it's another crutch I should not be introducing at 10 months??? But, and this has never happened before and never will again, she slept until 5:20!! I've just got her back down too, although I did wake at 4 in a panic as I felt rested and immediately assumed she therefore must be dead. I checked on her and then couldn't get back to sleep

Fluff he was ill yesterday but this is just what he does now

Sounds like you had a good night! I am definitely not the best person to ask but re the holding to sleep, I would say just do what works for you.

Thanks all...hmm doesn't have dodgy nappies...so hard to work out what will help

He managed an hour and is back up.

Feeling really really down

Awful night here, coughing woke her at 11 and it took an hour to get down, then she woke shortly after and I made the mistake of not going for a wee before going to her so I was stuck not being able to pop her into our bed in case she fell off while I was in the loo so had to try to hold her back to sleep for about an hour, then she woke again so I managed to get her in with us where she settles more easily but still woke loads. GPs today to check the cough as she's had it 3 weeks now and it's only getting worse