Hi everyone
Just checking in... we haven't miraculously solved our sleep issues, I'm just mired in a rather tedious and time-consuming phase at work at the moment which is limiting my mn time. And am usually in bed by 9.30pm in an attempt to get a head start on sleep, so by the time we've done bedtime, cooked, eaten, washed up etc there isn't much evening left. I sympathise with baby monitor dread. Ours is like a little hand grenade I live in fear of.
We seem to have arrived at the 9/10 month sleep regression . At bedtime last night we had crying, crawling, sitting up, attempting to pull herself up to standing, flinging around of teddies, and a 180 degree rotation in the cot. Bloody great 
. We seem to have stalled at 2 night wakes, it's manageable but the tiredness is beginning to tell particularly as she never gets up later than 6am. I'm still BFing when she wakes up so I'm doing all the night waking myself. One of us stays in the room with her as she goes to sleep, we started the gradual retreat thing about 6 weeks ago but so far haven't managed to retreat very far at all. It's been relatively stable though, until the last few days. I think we ran out of energy for further change. I still don't know whether her going to sleep completely on her own at night would make any difference to her waking during it.
Cakebaby argh. Just argh! Hope you have a better time tonight. I hadn't heard the 'three strikes' thing for putting them down at bedtime, just for naps. When we started the gradual retreat thing I was advised to put DD to bed and just stay there reassuring her until she went to sleep. I was also told babies rarely cry for longer than 45 minutes. Not so.... DD cried on and off for nearly an hour the first time. But it did get better and now even if when she cries at bedtime I know she will go to sleep eventually. But the move from cosleeping was a big shift for all of us.
Keep interesting to hear how the night weaning is going. I want to start that soon, but waiting until I'm over this work phase as we are going to get some disrupted nights. It's also just gearing myself up to it... Planning to drop feeds one at once starting with the first wake, which is any time between 10 and midnight, but will need to persuade DP to go in and resettle her instead of me. I've tried reducing the feed length but if I take her off before she's finished she gets upset so i think it might be easier if I just don't feed at all.
HappyGoLucky that sounds tough particularly with no day to day support. I've done the walk away and rage in the kitchen thing many times. I can't face doing CC/CIO either but without that the techniques are really quite limited. I think many of us here are just clinging to the hope that things will improve in time! 