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SLEEP REGRESSION part 2...Roll up, roll up folks! Swap tales of woe, ideas, enjoy solidarity and get support here

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cakebaby · 27/02/2014 20:05

Thought I'd start a new thread as I couldn't see another one yet (will get HQ to delete if already up and running).

Tis good to talk.....

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Cakeismymaster · 12/05/2014 21:53

boo if he wakes 11.30 I would make the ban 12-6, or if he wakes at 10 then make the ban 11-5, see my logic there? Basically you're just looking at a 6 hr period.

cake I think you are 100% right in that they just get there in their own time...each baby is different. What's happened with your ds just proves that. It definetly makes me hopeful! Grin especially as age wise I think my dd is about 2 weeks behind your ds..

Booville3 · 12/05/2014 21:57

Yes I get you blimey well here goes although he is still asleep at the min you never know he might not wake up until 6am!! After last night won't take much to be an improvement!!

Good luck everyone!! Look forward to the reports in the morning!

missmargot · 12/05/2014 22:06

Good luck boo, I agree that six hours from his last feed makes sense.

I have no idea what to expect tonight. After a horrid night last night DS arrived at nursery with a very flushed cheek and lots of dribble so we blamed it on teething. Apparently he was a delight at nursery and they decided he was going to be a happy teether. Within 30 mins of getting home he was screaming and screamed for over an hour, something he has never done before even as a tiny baby.

He settled eventually after a dose of Calpol as a last resort, he really did seem to be in pain but I hate the idea of just dosing him up without being sure he needs it. That was at 8pm and he's still fast asleep after his dream feed. I think tonight is either going to be very good or very bad.

Booville3 · 13/05/2014 07:33

Morning all, how did the night pan out missm? I always used to give calpol sparingly but now I think if in doubt give it can't do any harm!

After ds waking at 11 & doing a massive (& I mean massive poo) I fed him had him back in his cot asleep by midnight & he slept til 5 I was chuffed to bits & rather than making him go the extra hour I fed him then!

missmargot · 13/05/2014 08:50

Boo that sound like a great night. You're right about the Calpol, there is a balance and I need to stop being scared of it.

DS had a pretty good night thanks, he didn't stir until 1:30 then he only needed a few shushes to get him back off. Same again at 3 and 4 then fed at 6. He then went back to sleep and I've had to wake him just now as we need to be out if the house by 9 am.

Cakeismymaster · 13/05/2014 19:08

In bed asleep by 7pm...not awake though literally fed then I a milk coma!

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cakebaby · 13/05/2014 19:26

Well....it didn't last Grin 2 wakes for a feed then back off with no fuss so can't complain.

Some great results for others last night too!

Cakeis same here....short nap this pm so early to bed. He'll probably be up for the day at 5 Hmm

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Mirrhi · 13/05/2014 20:08

Wow, some brilliant developments for people, that's fab! Gives me some hope, which is needed after last night Sad

Leave him to self settle, give him a dummy, don't respond instantly, don't feed him. Self bloody settle bloody dummy bloody not feeding bloody bloody my arse! 2 and a half hours of playtime, waving said bloody dummy in the air and shouting. Grrrrr!

I know it needs to be done, and I know he wasn't hungry as when I did give in and try he wasn't interested but I can't help thinking if I'd caught it early, he'd had a bit of boob just for comfort he'd have gone back off easily and we'd all feel so much better today. Gah, I'm a wuss Blush

Cakeismymaster · 13/05/2014 21:18

Had to go back up 30 mins later to settle, didn't feed again and didn't get her out the cot - she was angry! But also did lots of burps, then settled.
Is it right that a 8 mth old bf'er should still need winding? I thought she would be past that now.

ArtemisTheHunter · 13/05/2014 21:53

Whoa cakebaby! I miss the thread for a few days and look what happens! Grin. At least you know sleeping through is possible. Come on baby cake, let's see some more of the same and get texting the others to tell them how it's done

There seems to have been a bout of shitty nights for everyone lately. We've had the same. Is there something in the air / a full moon / a conspiracy? We had screaming at bedtimes over the weekend and two wakes followed by an hour-long screaming fit starting at 3am last night. Clearly this was because I had to get up at 5.45 to travel to a work meeting. We haven't had screaming like that for weeks. It could be teething but if so it doesn't bother her during the day. Preventive calpol has been deployed here too. I'm also getting more relaxed about using it when I'm not sure what's wrong since it is no longer legal to give babies opium or gin.

The last few nights aside, our pattern lately has been two relatively short wakes usually between 10 and 11 then 2.30 and 3.30. I'm beginning to think this is as good as it's going to get for now. I know she doesn't really need feeding and am considering trying to drop the second feed but I need to re establish a non stressful bedtime first, and steel my nerves. I saw our HV last week who told me that DD is not likely to sleep through until I stop BFing. Cakebaby has proved this wrong but I don't know if this is any more than the HV's opinion. At least she didn't tell me to give DD formula then do CC like every other bloody HV has done.

soupmaker · 13/05/2014 22:07

Hello everyone. Yes, a bloody full moon is in the offing. Usually causes a bit of pandemonium. I'm much more calpol happy than with DD1. Won't do any harm.

We had a rough night last night. Was early to bed so DD2 had an early rise at 5.30.

Have attempted feeding sitting up and putting back in cot but failing on the second wake up. So back to co sleeping to get a rest.

Booville3 · 13/05/2014 22:07

What was her reasoning for the stopping bf resulting in baby sleeping through? Does she mean stop bf altogether?

I feel like it's all a minefield to be honest, I have been rocking ds at a couple of his wake ups instead of feeding but it seems I've basically replaced one thing with another instead of quickly giving him the boob for 10/15 mins I'm pacing the floors for 10/15mins! Been told by the nursery teacher today that ds2 (4yo) keeps crying for no apparent reason as well - is he stressed by me being so stressed & tired! Is ds3 really having such a negative effect on all of our family, I know we've all had times like it but I feel totally deflated & almost out of my depth tonight I'm at a complete loss as to what to do!

keepitgoing · 14/05/2014 09:25

oh boo but you're doing so well!

I'm talking to a sleep consultant tonight. I've had enough but am too tired to think straight. last night dd woke at 9, settled by dh, woke at 9.30 settled by dh, 9.45, 10 and then at 10.15 I fed her and she did 2 hours. could she really have been hungry by then?? she didn't seem to be as she went off easily with dh each time. then I was Angry. thinking if I'd fed at 9 I'd have had another 1.5 hours of sleep... rest of the night 2 hours again.

keepitgoing · 14/05/2014 09:27

cakeis my dd doesn't need winding as such but often burps after I sit her up. I didn't realise they'd stop needing to burp Hmm

Mirrhi · 15/05/2014 09:19

Boo, sorry you're feeling so deflated, is it any better today? I recognise that feeling so much though, have been in tears several times already this morning, including very nearly breaking down on another mum on the school run Blush Her baby is 3 days older than DS and wakes once in the night.
It seems to have been a hellish week with lots of stressors. DP has an important job interview tomorrow which he's stressed about and so not tolerating being woken well. DS has decided to throw early wake ups in so I've been up with him since 5, bringing him downstairs so he doesn't disturb DP but it's not occurred to him to say thanks for doing this. A tiny thing but it's really narked me.
Keep did yoy get anything helpful from the sleep consultant?

Booville3 · 15/05/2014 09:31

Mir I've found other mums whose baby's are similar ages & sleeping well very depressing!!!

Nights have been no better but I feel a bit brighter - ds has a cold so at least there is a reason for the frequent wakings which strangely enough makes me feel better!! Obviously it's horrid him being under the weather but I can understand his waking & wanting reassurance/ cuddles/ little feeds etc!!

My DP is also manic at work at the min, he has a major event he is running in a couple of weeks costing the company thousands so it needs to go well, this is really furthering his career (hopefully & if a success!!) I am pleased/ proud of him but I keep thinking did it have to be this year/ now!!

Booville3 · 15/05/2014 09:46

Also good luck to your DH just make a mental note of all the lie ins he has had whilst preparing for the interview then when it's done it's payback haha!! I've felt very taken for granted at times during my mat leave DP has very easily seen me as running the home whilst I'm "off" work, however I think all us mums would have a good argument that were not "off" work at all!!!

Mirrhi · 15/05/2014 12:34

Boo, sorry you're feeling so deflated, is it any better today? I recognise that feeling so much though, have been in tears several times already this morning, including very nearly breaking down on another mum on the school run Blush Her baby is 3 days older than DS and wakes once in the night.
It seems to have been a hellish week with lots of stressors. DP has an important job interview tomorrow which he's stressed about and so not tolerating being woken well. DS has decided to throw early wake ups in so I've been up with him since 5, bringing him downstairs so he doesn't disturb DP but it's not occurred to him to say thanks for doing this. A tiny thing but it's really narked me.
Keep did yoy get anything helpful from the sleep consultant?

Mirrhi · 15/05/2014 12:39

Ooh, not sure how that happened! I'll blame sleep deprivation...
Definitely not 'off work' as a mum, in fact going to work was easier I reckon!

Cakeismymaster · 15/05/2014 12:46

100% going to work is easier!
I can't stand it when DH says I am 'on holiday' ... Grrr
Sunny weather is nice though at least, after 8000 wake ups last night.
Calling out to cake as wondering if her ds has kept up the good behaviour Wink

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cakebaby · 15/05/2014 14:23

Hello, good behaviour? Not exactly. I think he's woken 2 or 3 times the last few nights but I'm so conditioned to it I d

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cakebaby · 15/05/2014 14:24

Fucking tablet

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cakebaby · 15/05/2014 14:25

Oh dear god

Don't even register it anymore. Ds currently fighting afterno

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cakebaby · 15/05/2014 14:26

I give up. No he's not still sleeping through, naps a nightmare, husbands are arses and builders next door ridiculously noisy and here for 25 weeks

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Cakeismymaster · 15/05/2014 15:43

Yep second all of that cake
Husbands are arses
Window cleaners are worse
I just spent 2.5 HOURS trying to get her to nap!! Walked with pushchair for 1.25 hr, nope, then tried lieing down on bed with her, nope, then tried the vacuuming trick which was a sure thing when she small, nope..so after all that then had to cave in and feed her and she was asleep in less than 5 mins Angry
Am trying to stop this as back to work soon...

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