The dreaded SLEEP REGRESSION support and solidarity thread!

[Tiredemma]

Here we are. Sleep deprived, emotional and craving all things sugary just to survive the day.

bah.

No nothing- which convinces me its more of a 'phase' and something we just have to ride out.

I got a 'white noise' monitor a few days ago- she doesnt like it at night but it does work in the day (weird)

Just a quick hi from Poland! The trip wasn't as bad as I thought, DD managed the flight very well, only a bit of crying as we started descent, but boob sorted it out:) just before bedtime (much later than usual) DD had massive meltdown which made me panic, as even boob wouldn't sort it out - probably combination of tiredness, routine out the window, New faces, places and overstimulation, plus trapped wind. On the plus side, once she settled at midnight she slept till 5am, then took half hour to eat and resettle and slept until 9am. Hmmm, wonder what tonight will bring! Will catch up with the thread tonight!

Hi y'all. Haven't posted since last week as we had a weekend away at centre parcs with the fam. Still trying the nightime routine altho its 2 steps fwd and a few back! Whilst away dd didnt need feeding to sleep once but obv she did as soon as we got back!! Super hungry and yesterday eve she flipped herself over. Awesome development....especially 60 times in the night!!! That may be why I have got a knackered baby mainly attached to my boobs today!!!

Also, I dont have a mobile or night light for dd. Anyone got any reccomendations or advice? Do they help at all???

Hello Abby. I got given a couple of soft things which play music to attach to DD2s cot. I don't bother with a night light. I had a fancy mobile that played tunes, had a night light and twirled various jungle animals above DD1's head when she was a baby - made not a bit of difference to her settling. I put a wee tune on for DD2 as she is put down and give her one of two comforters - which were also presents. All these things are portable which I think important and also worth trying to get her attached to two comforters so there isn't meltdown if one is in the wash.

Thanks Soup, wishfull thinking on my part that a night light or similar would work!!

Omg!!!!! Dd has been horrible all afternoon had no naps all day and has been screaming unless on the boob. Managed 1 hr of play and then dh took over, at which point she started again. Bf her as normal for night routine. She fell asleep so put her down and she screamed blue murder. Dh has taken over as I was getting seriously stressed. What is wrong with her!!? She is so unhappy. It doesn't sound like her wind cry, she doesnt have a temp. The only thing that is calming her down is boob. They are so sore!!!! I cant have her attached to me all night! Also I have eaten a whole pack of biscuits, proper comfort binge.

I do need to add that she is exhausted, well looks it anyway and as soon as ahe us popped on the boob she falls straight asleep. Thought I might mention that seeing as its a sleep thread and all . She is still screaming, I am going to have to intervene again. Hope everyone has a better night than I am about to!!!!

With you Abby, we've just had a meltdown too.

Took me from 6.30 to 9 to get dd to bed, we had a massive sick fountain all over the cot..yuck..
She has actually had naps today so was hopeful tonight would be better but the sick episode had thrown it all out. Just fuelling myself with cake etc before bed!

Just when I think we've had the worst night yet dd goes and tops it. Last night was pretty dire - 3 hours to settle, then 2 hour-long wake ups between 10pm and 4.45am after which she wouldn't go back down - but tonight we have not been able to put her down at all. I have lost count of the number of times she has been rocked, fed etc to sleep but woken and cried within 2 minutes of being put down on our mattress with me right next to her. She's been screaming herself demented for the past half hour in a way that scared the life out of me but apart from the screaming there are no signs she's ill. I gave calpol earlier in case some unidentifiable pain was keeping her awake. Currently back on boob in the living room while poor DP gets some rest after sitting here with her since 11. I don't understand it. She is driving us both nuts. The worst part is that when she is so awful at night I have no energy or enthusiasm for her during the day. We missed our regular baby group this morning as I was too knackered to think about driving so all I've done today is shove her round in the pram to try to get her to nap. Starting to dread waking up in the morning as each day I am progressively more shattered and each day brings the certainty of another awful bedtime. Please someone come along with a more hopeful story, I need to believe there is light at the end of the tunnel!

There is! You're describing my dd & we seem to be throigh it. Worst i've had this week is 2 hourly wake ups & thats nothing!

When my dd screamed uncontrollably like that it was a tooth coming through.

I had disapeared from thread as we have improved but popped back to see how y'all were doing. Hang in there! When it seems like u cant handle any more it gets better.

Also was at health visitor today getting jags & mentioned to nurse about nightmare sleep issues & shes gonna come visit to help/discuss

I think I'm closer to the light at the end of the tunnel.

6.45pm asleep.
2345 grizzling for dummy
0340 bottle and change back down by 4
0700 awake. Just feeding now

artemis sympathies to you

Worst. Night. Ever.

Settled eventually, slept 90 mins then tossing & turning, wriggling then waking every 20 mins. Gave up at 0230 feeling psychotic through tiredness and co slept. He still fed every 40 mins.

Not hot, cold, wind, pain, teeth, hungry, lonely (6" away). I can't even bring myself to engage with his babble this morning.

Fucking nightmare.

He CANNOT stay asleep through transitions. I CANNOT settle him afterwards with feeding AGAIN. Give me hope someone

Cakebaby- how old is your DS?

Having said that have been up since 4am with crying baby with fever. Wont lleyn

Cakebaby you poor thing
How old is your lo?
How long has the regression lasted so far?
Is it naps too?
Sorry i know uv said along this thread somewhere but i cant remember.

Hi all, like cindy i haven't been posting as we seem to be through the regression now and didn't want to rub it in.

I'm not one to give unsolicited advice as im no expert and also I hate receiving it myself, but as someone who has suffered quite recently (although it was more daytime hell than nighttime for us) I just wanted to give hope that it WILL pass and it MIGHT all change over night so you could be very near the end.

Just keep doing what you are doing ladies, and remember its NOTHING you are doing and there is NOTHING you can do to help.

Bit of a pointless post but I just wanted to show solidarity to you all!

Ok to add to confusion - did nothing different yesterday aside from middle nap was slightly longer.
Massive sick at bedtime.
Eventually settled at 9. Then wake up at 2.30 (!!!!!) then didn't settle till 3.45 but then next wake up was 7am....
That was with no usual blanket or comforter as that had sick on. And didn't come into bed with me at all!
Bloody random

cakebaby sending massive hugs and need to tell you that u are amazing and strong. My dd did a massive shit in the end and dh dealt with putting her back to sleep as I passed out on sofa.

Had ok night and has had nap this morning but I think we r both poorly which might explain her grumpiness, hunger and tiredness.

Sending much love to u all and hope you have enough cake!!

Cakebaby, I'm so so sorry, you must be completely shattered

My LO was up every 30-45 min, and was awake for an hour in the middle of the night too. I'm exhausted to say the least. wakes up crying and most of the times it is followed by farting, which I'm guessing its an upset tummy then. Completely refuses to take gripe water so I'm going to have to try something else. No idea what could be the cause of this ...

Oh cakebaby that is brutal. You must be utterly shattered.

DD2 took ages to settle last night despite having 3 naps during the day where she went down without a whimper. Was up every two hours again - groan. I almost feel used to it. At least she's reasonable daytime.

Another couple of weeks and she is going in the spare room to see if that will help. I'm hoping to persuade DH to stay there too so I don't have him snoring next to me!!

Health visitor advice

So I spoke to health visitor today. Advised me to stop co sleeping. Says it was for a reason to start with but possible bubs is just waking up now because its like she's sleeping in her favorite restaurant & when wakes smells yimmy food so wants to eat when she should be just stirring and falling back to sleep.mMakes sense for us & our situation.

Also that she should be waking 2 x times max (hahahaha). That she's not for one of three reasons

1. Medical/developmental such as spurt, rolling over soon, etc
2. Habit
3. Comfort

I believe it was recently developmental and is now habit. Gave good advice on how to help fix it.

Seriously would reccomend calling your hv for a chat...its what they are there for, to support new mums.

cakebaby your experience sounds above and beyond a phase. For your own sanity, call yiur hv & see if she can help!!!

Artemis - I could've written your post this time last week. I think we are comin through it finally I'm sure...
Dd is 20weeks and has spent most of her life up all night and v hard to settle. It was getting worse and worse, but her weight was also stagnating and she wasn't feeding properly. I'm sure regression was also adding to the wakefulness too, but having had a week on a strict dairy free diet and begun mixing feeding with prescribed formula she has gone from being awake pretty much all night (3-4 broken hours was the norm) to two wake ups in 12 hours. If somebody had told me this might happen last week I would have laughed in their face. I still cannot believe it and don't want to get too hopeful.

Hello all, been out today to try and forget about things. Can't name check as on phone.

Ds is 19 wks, he was ill for 3 wks over Xmas & ny when we were up every 90 odd mins for sick/nappies. Prior to that he was night waking twice for feeds. Sleep has never recovered, and we reached 4 months a few weeks ago. It began to deteriorate 2 wks ago, hellish for last 5 nights. My HV is an advocate of cc so that's a non starter. I can calm him & get him back off with shush pat for a few wakings but further into the night but as soon as I stop he wakes and off we go again. I think my record is 4 hours before giving up.

Co sleeping us the only way we can get any sleep, he did 2 hrs this morning an hour after getting up . We are both dead on our feet. He cannot transition as far as I can see, only when he's lying literally next to me and then just 2 hrs. I have no idea what to do for the best. Some say he needs to learn to transition without co sleeping but I will go insane if I have to cope with 20 min wake ups. DH does not do nights and is not always here at bedtime/eve/nights

cakebaby- would you even consider putting DS into his own room now and seeing how it goes?