High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Oh Hilde it's awful when it feels so relentless. Is there anyone that could just give you a couple of hours off to rejuvenate?

Monkey2 has broken her own record today! Up at 5 on and off doze while feeding until 7, about 45 minutes sleep in 5 minute patches and she's still up!

I think you deserve a wallow!

Joyful Sending you virtual caffeine lady - you can have that! And cake. Thinking of you this evening. I hope all goes well.

Hilde, I'm so sorry things are a bit poo at the moment (understatement of the year, that). Sending you hugs, I hope your little man gives you some rest this evening/tomorrow morning.

My little man had two booster shots today. Was meant to have his MMR as well, but we've asked to delay it while we read up and get more informed. Leaning towards him having it, but want to be sure. He was an angel by all accounts (DH took him as I was at work :() The nurse said she'd never seen a baby take them as well as he did, a little squawk on the first and about 10 seconds of crying for the second, and then he was exploring her office :) So relieved - I HATE injections and the thought of inflicting them on DS makes me so sad.

I got a gold star as well, as she asked DH if DS was still being breastfed. She was really complimentary about it apparently, which was lovely :)

Hope you all have good nights.

Joyful I'm on a caffeine ban to see if my diet coke addiction is making Monkey2 more stressed, why are you caffeine free? It's a killer isn't it.

Hello...

Just wanted to say I wish I'd found you lovely people on this thread when my dd was born. There were days she could stay awake for 18hrs with a couple of 10min naps. 17 months now and still very rarely sleeps through (only started napping properly at 6 months, once a day, always woke at least 3-4 times per night until recently). Am 7 months pregnant at the moment, and whilst very happy about it I'm quietly petrified that our second child will have same sleeping/feeding issues.

Hugs

Oh Joyful that's awful, you want to give your friend emotional support I bet but it's hard when you are so drained!

Helen hi! Congratulations on your pg, sending good luck your way! If it helps DD1 is and always has been very independent and a good sleeper so there is hope this one will be totally different! And if not we are here!

Joyful, Softly

Thanks for your kind words!

Yes, hopefully I'll only have one HN baby on my hands when the second baby arrives. Wow, two HN babies Joyful, bowing in awe, don't know how you do it!

Have to say I felt really lost for a long time when all my friends babies seemed to sleep through from day one and were so laid back it was ridiculous. Literally felt like my head was going to explode when another mum said she was exhausted as her ds had woken at 6.30 after 13hrs sleep and he only napped for 2.5hrs in the afternoon... Did feel slight pangs of jealousy

Sending happy thoughts and strength your ways

Hi ladies, sorry I've not been about for awhile - have been having some trouble with migraines and needed to stay offline. Feeling better now, but no time to catch up on thread - hope everyone is hanging in there and holding up alright.

DD is 30 weeks now and growing up so quickly. We had a few nights where she was sleeping in 2-3 hour stretches through the night but have been back on the hourly (or less) wake-ups for the past week. However, she is getting more easily consoled and will often settle with a pat or a cuddle or her dummy. I'm doing 2-3 night feeds and she's going about 3-4 hours between each one. Much better than the 6 or so of a few weeks ago.

DH is being great as ever. Was on shush pat / cuddle duty between 12 and 3 last night while I decamped to the spare room to grab a blissful, uninterrupted 3 hours. Time on these boards has shown that most guys don't do this. He has been awesome from day one, works hard, and functions very well on his 6 or so broken hours a night. None of the blokes at his work help much with their kids or babies and he thinks they are wimps. I am a lucky girl.

Same as Raspberry for me. Exhausted beyond words. Work is killing me (not the job just getting to and from).

Am lurking but don't have the energy to post. Sorry. Hope you're all well.

Glad DS was more settled for you last night Hilde.

I have tonsillitis which would explain why I've been so wiped out.

Am hot and clammy and feel awful. Mum has come up and she and DH are currently trying to get DS to sleep. He's resisting furiously.

Mum has offered to sleep with DS tonight so we'll see how that goes.

Gah

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